How to Be a Housewife and a Feminist at the Same Time

I am a housewife. Well, I have a set of four-year-old twins, so, technically, that makes me a stay-at-home mom. And I do a lot freelance for pennies from my comfy orange couch in the living room, which I suppose makes me a work-at-home mom. I also go to grad school, so I guess I, instead, could define myself as a student. A studentlike, work-while-staying-at-home mom who cooks and cleans....more
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Big Kid Steps: When They Need You Just a Little Less

But this week I am missing them more than I can express and it’s caught me off guard in a very uncomfortable parenting way and I frankly am not happy about it. I think of them constantly but yet I cannot see them in my thoughts because I don’t know what they are doing. I don’t know what their cabins look like, what time they eat breakfast, are they learning to sail or did they choose a drama class, do they love horseback riding, is the lake water cold, are they making friends and I wonder what time lights-out is and are they okay. Are they okay? ...more
I understand. Having your children far away and not knowing their schedule and if they're OK is ... more

Posts That Shake the World: I'm Christian Unless You're Gay

Every once in a while, someone will write something that explodes. Usually it's because he or she finally says what the silent majority has been thinking. Dan at Single Dad Laughing has done just that with his amazing post I'm Christian Unless You're Gay. The post was impressive, but the responses to the post that have rolled in since it went live in late 2011 are blowing my mind. ...more
I posted his article on my Fb page. My kids both read it without me asking them to and we had a ... more

Putting the Stat Monster to Bed and Writing for Writing's Sake

Have you ever felt like there is a shift happening in your life? One that doesn't seem to be happening for any rhyme or reason, but the air feels different, you close your eyes, and it feels as though the world is stopping, waiting for you to make your next move. Problem is, I feel like I am waiting for the next move to find it's way to me; I'm doing everything right... I think. This past week, I received my first, real rejection letter. ...more
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I Keep Picking Fights with My Teen Daughter

I am a single mom of two tweenage daughters. My oldest daughter will turn 15 at the end of the week. It’s not really a big deal. You know, as long as I don’t think about it. In a year, she’ll be 16, and driving. A blink of an eye she’ll turn 18 and graduate. It’s getting harder and harder to ignore the fact that she won’t be mine forever. And it scares me, and pisses me off....more
I understand exactly how you feel. My daughter is a senior in high school. "Shis is my heart ... more

The Fault in Our Stars: Yes, Teens Really Are That Smart

In January of 2007 someone pointed me to a YouTube channel that a young adult author and his brother were using as their main mode of communication for the whole year. That author was John Green, and I quickly became a fan of both him and his brother Hank. I hadn't read any of John Green's books before I started watching the videos, but once I started, I became hooked and began thrusting them into the hands of every reader I knew. To say that I was really happy to be reading The Fault in Our Stars for BlogHer Book Club is an understatement. My reaction was closer to an ode to Kermit the Frog, complete with a big "Yay!" and flailing Muppet arms. ...more
Thank you for sharing all this great information. I'm a mom of two teens and a teacher who works ... more

Hello and Goodbye: The Bittersweet Enormity of Adoption

"How are you?" I ask K. "I'm OK," she says looking at me and then back at the TV. "I'm OK." Again, I wonder if she is trying to convince me or herself that she truly is OK. "Are you sure?" She nods her head. I try one last time. One last time I'll say it and then there's no going back for either of us. "There's still time to change your mind," I say. The statement...a question really...hangs in the air between us for a minute before K says, "No. I'm OK. I'm OK."...more
Truly beautiful! I admire you and K. for your strength, courage and understanding. more

Understanding The Troubles With Teenage Boys

Most of us have learned the language of worrying about teenage girls: We talk about self-esteem, body image, mean girls, ambition. We teach them to turn inward for approval and decision-making, rather than relying on peers as pilot lights for their life. We tolerate their vanity, their need always to be in a group of friends, whether in person or online, and their snide, condescending remarks toward us as they begin the long, slow process of separating. Indeed, there is a pretty well-defined and understood arc that a teenage girl goes through. This is not to say it isn't riven with potential pitfalls, but we believe we know the dynamic after twelve years of discovery and research, ever since Mary Pipher wrote her watershed book about the crisis of being 13, Reviving Ophelia. ...more
Funny - I wrote the last comment before reading the comment section. I see I'm not the only one ... more

Understanding The Troubles With Teenage Boys

Most of us have learned the language of worrying about teenage girls: We talk about self-esteem, body image, mean girls, ambition. We teach them to turn inward for approval and decision-making, rather than relying on peers as pilot lights for their life. We tolerate their vanity, their need always to be in a group of friends, whether in person or online, and their snide, condescending remarks toward us as they begin the long, slow process of separating. Indeed, there is a pretty well-defined and understood arc that a teenage girl goes through. This is not to say it isn't riven with potential pitfalls, but we believe we know the dynamic after twelve years of discovery and research, ever since Mary Pipher wrote her watershed book about the crisis of being 13, Reviving Ophelia. ...more
What a great post. I find raising a son so much harder than my daughter. Mainly because I can ... more

Flower Power Eggs Make Breakfast Beautiful

[Editor's Note: These happy-making eggs are beyond simple to make, but are a lovely addition to the breakfast table any day of the week. They're a wonderful idea, especially if you make them with an assortment of colored pepper rings. --Genie] ...more
These look great. I've made them with ... more