Should Polyamorous Parents Raise a Child Together?

My mom watches Good Morning America, affectionately known by the acronym GMA, every day. Living away from home has made me miss it and all its ridiculousness; while the first five minutes are devoted to actual news, the rest is made up of trendy lifestyle pieces like this one, about a woman and two men in a polyamorous relationship. Unlike the Browns of TLC's Sister Wives, Jaiya Ma, Jon Hanauer, and Ian Ferguson are not in a polygamous relationship. My thoughts on this kind of living situation are mixed. If there weren't a child involved, I would have no problems with it at all. ...more
I am the mother of an only child. I have no idea what it's like to raise multiple children, but ... more

Would You Let A Former Porn Star Read to Your Kids?

What our nervous sideway glances and jeers say is simple: if you let on that you have sex, you're a danger to our children, and possibly to society itself. Never mind if you're a tax-paying, law-abiding, philanthropic citizen otherwise -- the second it becomes known that you have sex or are interested in it, you're immediately labeled unfit. ...more
This is a no brainer. I trust Sasha Grey knows the difference between adult time and storytime. ... more

My Kid Gets His Potty Mouth from Me

"Damn!", he says while looking out of the side of his eyes at me to see if there is a reaction. And there is. But I can tell by the slight sag in his shoulders that the reaction isn't as big as he had hoped. "Pardon me?", I say calmly. So calmly. I've learned, over the years, that my child, this child, is always on a mission to stir the pot. If he can make you cry, or yell, or emote in any way, he is a happy boy. He will laugh over your tears. It's an obnoxious trait, however that's not the point here....more
The only bad word in my house is the word "bored." My daughter is allowed to say anything else, ... more

Her First Bad Touch: When Children Get Violated

One day, when my 10-year-old daughter got home from camp, she turned to me and said, "Today, in the pool? A man came up and grabbed my butt." Inside, I froze, but on the outside, I remained casual. "Oh, really? Tell me more." "I was standing in the shallow end, and this man walked up behind me, and squeezed my butt." "What did you do?" I asked, continuing to remain calm. "I was so surprised. I didn't know what to do. I didn't say anything, I just walked away from him." She squirmed with embarrassment. "Did you tell anyone at camp?" "No, you were the first person I felt like I could trust."...more
Thank you for taking the time to address these sensitive topics by writing books and speaking ... more

Her First Bad Touch: When Children Get Violated

One day, when my 10-year-old daughter got home from camp, she turned to me and said, "Today, in the pool? A man came up and grabbed my butt." Inside, I froze, but on the outside, I remained casual. "Oh, really? Tell me more." "I was standing in the shallow end, and this man walked up behind me, and squeezed my butt." "What did you do?" I asked, continuing to remain calm. "I was so surprised. I didn't know what to do. I didn't say anything, I just walked away from him." She squirmed with embarrassment. "Did you tell anyone at camp?" "No, you were the first person I felt like I could trust."...more
Exactly. That was one of the fleeting thoughts I had, was she saying this to get attention? and ... more

Her First Bad Touch: When Children Get Violated

One day, when my 10-year-old daughter got home from camp, she turned to me and said, "Today, in the pool? A man came up and grabbed my butt." Inside, I froze, but on the outside, I remained casual. "Oh, really? Tell me more." "I was standing in the shallow end, and this man walked up behind me, and squeezed my butt." "What did you do?" I asked, continuing to remain calm. "I was so surprised. I didn't know what to do. I didn't say anything, I just walked away from him." She squirmed with embarrassment. "Did you tell anyone at camp?" "No, you were the first person I felt like I could trust."...more
Thank you for sharing your experience, it always breaks my heart when I hear of a parent letting ... more

How to Have a Happy Threesome

Ah, the threesome. Is there anything that inspires so many fantasies? And is there anything as likely to cause complications in your relationship? Threesomes can be amazing fun, but only when you set them up right. Here are some useful tips to make sure that everyone is getting what they want. (This is written for couples looking for a third person -- there are some different things to think about when you’re solo and looking for a couple.) ...more

Great topic! I've found the best way to make a threesome happen is to create a friendship with ... more

Love Like an Ocean: Diving Deep into Polyamory

Before she knew what polyamory was, she thought she was defective and unfit to be in a relationship. After years of disappointing her partners, she resigned herself to remaining single. And then she discovered that love could take many more forms than monogamy. This is her story. ...more

If you've been emailing them for 7 years to no avail, what makes you think the couple might ... more

Love Like an Ocean: Diving Deep into Polyamory

Before she knew what polyamory was, she thought she was defective and unfit to be in a relationship. After years of disappointing her partners, she resigned herself to remaining single. And then she discovered that love could take many more forms than monogamy. This is her story. ...more

Hi Alisha,
Thanks for asking! Every relationship has its own set of rules and guidelines. One ... more