I Don't Care if You Like it: I'm Going to Keep Showing Happy Pictures of My Family on the Internet

I post a few pictures like this one every day on Instagram and Facebook. I am one of those. One of those moms with a penchant for digital documentation. I am a constant chronicler. My family’s curator of all our good and happy times. But every so often I’ll see an article come through my newsfeed that dismisses my happy picture-taking-posting-to-social media-hobby. Or worse, one that condemns the happy sharing. It’s bad for my kids. It’s annoying. It’s a way to get blocked, hidden, un-friended, un-followed. It’s wrong in general. ...more
I'm obsessed with the photographic record too, and I love seeing other people's pictures. I ... more


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Yes, it will be relaxing again. My kids are 14 and 11, and we went on a big family trip (with my ... more

Why My Children Can Say the F-Word: Words Don't Have Power

I live in a sweet little Bible Belt southern town. In some ways this is great (friendly neighbors, low crime rate)... and in others... well, maybe not so much. (I have a list, but today is not the day). Sometimes small-town living has crashed headlong into some of my more "unconventional" parenting approaches. One of these subject areas is my children's language. ...more
We follow much the same line in our house. I curse occasionally, and my father curses quite ... more

Robin Thicke Begs Estranged Wife Paula Patton to Take Him Back, But Should She?

"I wish I could changeI wish I could changeI wish I could stop saying the same old things..."-Robin Thicke, "Complicated"...more
Robin Thicke creeps me the fuck out, but that's their business. In response to your larger ... more

I Used to Agree With Ruth Graham That YA Novels Aren't Worth Reading ... and I Write Them

If you've been alive in the United States over the past ten years, you've seen a tremendous mainstream embrace of young adult novels. They've been made into movies, plastered on billboards and, for book wonks, the children/young adult category grew more than 40 percent since last year. It was only going to be so long before the backlash started....more
I might have shared this bias against YA books fifteen years ago when I worked in a bookstore ... more

A Plus-Size Girl Walks into a Barre Studio

A few months ago, I started a new job with a political consulting company.  One of the things I really like about it is being surrounded by people who are healthy and active, but not judgmental.  Several of them are really into Barre classes. Barre is a challenging, non-impact workout that focuses on ballet-like movements to help sculpt and tone your body. ...more
The first spin class I tried with a friend, I crawled out the door at the fifteen-minute mark ... more

Standing Up to a Stalker

I was backed into a corner in the university library’s stacks. Looming large, Cliff was blocking my way out. Had it come to this? Was he going to attack me, placing his meaty hand over my mouth so I couldn’t make a sound? Heart pumping wildly, I put one foot in front of the other. Cliff didn’t budge. I kept moving, closer and closer. Finally, I stood right in front of him. We were practically touching. He moved away. I half-ran towards the library’s exit, turning around once to make sure that he wasn’t following me....more
I'm glad your situation worked out well for you, but I'm troubled by the implication that ... more

My Kid Is Transgender. Her Life Has Changed. Our Family Has Changed.

I haven't been writing much lately. I feel like a non-writing jerk who doesn't have her priorities straight. But my heart's just not in it. My heart is elsewhere, with a kid who is having a tough time and needs her mom. ...more
Change is hard - some kinds more than others. You have more than enough strength and grace to ... more

Suicide Is Not Selfish

I don’t want to hear another person say that suicide is “selfish”....more
Couldn't agree more. I lost  friend to suicide when her third child was three months old, and ... more

Life After Weight-Loss Surgery: A New Series

In June 2011, I had weight loss surgery to aid in my journey towards losing half of my body weight. Having peaked at 406lbs in college (maybe more, but that was the last recorded weight I knew), I was morbidly obese and at risk for serious long-term health problems. When I was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes at age 23, I did what I could to try to lose weight, but my efforts did not pay off long-term; my issues with food and emotional eating were beyond simply going to the gym and "eating right"....more
I think you're absolutely right that people don't understand Weight Loss Surgery, and I find it ... more