A Letter to the Mothers of Girls from the Mother of Boys

To the mothers of daughters from the mother of sons, As mothers we have similar goals, regardless of gender. We want our children to have happy, healthy relationships, both physically and emotionally. We want them to go out into the world prepared to make educated choices and calculated risks with a healthy dose of caution thrown in. We want them to look at the world around them and see a place that has both good and evil, while understanding it is the choices they make that make a difference. We want them to know more love than fear. ...more
PursuitOfNormal I think, unless you have a daughter, you will never truly understand how natural ... more

A Letter to the Mothers of Girls from the Mother of Boys

To the mothers of daughters from the mother of sons, As mothers we have similar goals, regardless of gender. We want our children to have happy, healthy relationships, both physically and emotionally. We want them to go out into the world prepared to make educated choices and calculated risks with a healthy dose of caution thrown in. We want them to look at the world around them and see a place that has both good and evil, while understanding it is the choices they make that make a difference. We want them to know more love than fear. ...more
This is nice and all but if my daughter does not know your son and even if she does, it will not ... more

Don't Tell My Fifth Grader To 'Grow A Pair'

I hated 5th grade. I spent the year hiding from a bully who stated on day one of school that she was going to beat me up because I wore barrettes. She got her friends to taunt and torment me, causing me to spend the rest of the year terrified she’d make good on her promise. My bullying experience pales in comparison to what many kids go through, but it affected me and made for an incredibly stressful year that left me riddled with fear and anxiety....more
I do hope you spoke to your child about calling the other child a crybaby. Whether or not the ... more

I'm Not a "Slut". I Just Love Having Sex.

I am not a “slut”.I make this clear, upfront, but not for the reasons you may think. I’m not a slut, because sluts don’t exist. Though labels like “slut”, “ho”, and “whore” exist to vilify women who are deemed sexually “promiscuous”, I don’t abide by them just because someone else says I should think of women in this way. Aside from these labels being inherently descriptive of women, regardless of the fact that men have sex too, they are merely words used to marginalize those who don’t feel compelled to live according to other people’s demands for sexual propriety....more
One important thing to note which is not mention in this blog is the word Slut is used not just ... more

Sexual Responsibility and The Post-Breakup "Surprise" Kid

WARNING- This sh*t is about to get real and preachy. If you think sexual irresponsibility is cool, don’t read this.I’ve encountered this too often for it not to be a trend. It’s a horrifying fad to me and I’d like to call it out. I’ve dated several men who, post-divorce or post-long term relationship breakup, end up knocking up a short-timer and now have a kid. (I’m sure you’ve heard of Dwyane Wade and his relationship hiatus baby by now). ...more
NewWomanOrder Nappyheadedwoman Sorry but I agree with Nappyheadedwoman. The quote was ... more

Sasha Obama is Not Ready for Facebook. Are Your Kids?

It may not be the most erudite periodical on the market, but every once in a while People magazine has an article that gives me pause. Recently it was a quote by the President and First Lady saying that Sasha is too young for Facebook. ...more
I guess the author should have asked 'is your child old enough for social media,' because a lot ... more

The Real Scandal: Homewreckers Are NOT Heroines!

Olivia Pope. I love her. I want to be her. She's stylish, talented, successful and always seems to know the right thing to do or say....more
How misogynistic is this: "you may as well be the school slut who has genital warts." Remember ... more

My Husband Hates My Blog

I know a lot of bloggers who describe their husbands as their "biggest fans." I have always been so jealous of these women. My husband was a fantastic cheerleader when my blog began humbly nearly 14 months ago. And then it began to evolve, taking on a life of its own that I could have never predicted.  My blog slowly became the "other man" in my life, and my husband did not appreciate it. ...more
Weird. What would he do if you had a job outside the home? Be resentful of that, too? I do think ... more

We Need to Talk About Adam Lanza

As a parent and as a human, my first reaction to the killings at Sandy Hook Elementary was to keen and to roar with heartbreak. Mass murders of schoolchildren are The Unimaginable, they are What Should Never Happen, they are several leagues beyond horrifying. As more reports emerged, I wept along with President Obama for those children, those parents, those teachers, their families, their loved ones....more
@Northwest Sourdough  You are shaming the author of this article for 'demonizing' Lisa Long yet ... more

On Adam Lanza, Mental Illness, and My Son

We have a myth in our society that explains tragedies like the one at Sandy Hook Elementary, and it goes something like this: When something bad happens, it's because hidden in our society are evil monsters, who prey upon the innocent, and that there's nothing we can do to stop these people but to arm ourselves with guns or prayer and hope they don't come for someone we love. Image: © Wang Yiou/Xinhua/ZUMAPRESS.com ...more
But why keep semi-auto or any type of guns in the house if your son, who lives with you, has a ... more