Jo Hilder

Blogger, author, cancer coach and cancer survivor from Newcastle, NSW Australia.... read more

The Cancer Book Which Doesn’t Look Like A Sympathy Card, And Took Me Four Years To Write

This week, I’ve published a book I’ve been trying to write for about four years - definitely cause for celebration. However, the actual book of Things Not To Say To Someone Who Has Cancer didn’t take anywhere near that time to write - it took closer to four weeks....more

When A Cancer Hero Decides To Stop Fighting - Lance Armstrong and the USADA

I’ve just read Lance Armstrong’s statement regarding his refusal to fight any longer against the USADA (United States Anti-Doping Agency) who claim the seven-time Tour de France winner cheated by using performance enhancing drugs throughout his career. I’m aware many people believe Armstrong’s giving up this particular and very significant battle is a sign of guilt. I don’t agree.I think it’s a sign of strength....more

In Defense of the 'Unladylike' Christian Woman

A few months ago I wrote a couple of blogs about men, women, sex, marriage, masturbation, infidelity and Christianity. They were widely read, my blog stats were happy to report. I received some great feedback, too. And a half-joking guarantee I’d never be invited to speak in church in any of the southernmost states of the U.S.A. And that’s quite okay.And then, there was this - emailed directly to me, not left as a comment on the blog:Dear Jo,...more
You should have told him that his rudeness in inquiring into the way you were parented was ...more

Why The Next Church I Go To Might Be A Real Estate Agent

NEWCASTLE, NSW, AUSTRALIA - The minister of a small, Presbyterian church in the Newcastle suburb of Wallsend has gotten much more than he bargained for when he posted this message on his church billboard earlier this week....more

A Cancer Death Does Not A Hero Make - Why We Must Stop “Fighting” Cancer

News reports today share the sad new that Steve Jobs from Apple has passed away after a long illness. Jobs, it’s reported, had pancreatic cancer, a particularly insidious form of the disease.The headline I read stated Jobs “lost his fight” against cancer....more
This is really well written. Great insight. Strong message stated with abundant tact. Impossible ...more

Cancer Snobbery

I want to share with you part of a conversation I have quite regularly. It usually begins when someone says to me, "Did you hear, such-and-such has cancer. Isn't it terrible?" and I might say something like,"I heard. Did you know I had cancer?" "Oh really? When was that?" "In July 2003." "Oh my God. Are you all right now?" "Yes, thanks, I am." "Did you have treatment?" "Chemotherapy and radiotherapy." "Wow, and you have how many children?" "Four." "Oh, that's awful. I can't believe it." And then, the inevitable. "And which breast was it in? Did you have to have a mastectomy?...more
I love this article. First of all, hugs to you for all you have overcome and dealt with. ...more

Because I’m Worth More Than That

This morning on the Australian Today Show, presenter Lisa Wilkinson made one of the best comments I've heard yet regarding women and body image:"Any woman who doesn't celebrate celebrating another birthday needs to visit a cancer ward."Amen, sister....more

Nothing Tastes As Good As Watching A Skinny Girl Eat Her Heart Out

You know one of my pet hates? Women, usually TV presenters, who have never known what it’s like to be overweight, publicly making their own grand commentary about things concerning larger women. It’s like having your local Catholic priest give you marriage advice. How the hell would you know?...more
Right, because I'm skinny, I've never felt insecure about my body a single day in my life and ...more

Love Means Never Having To Say I’m Not The One Who’s The Alcoholic

I don't drink - alcohol, that is. I stopped drinking it December 2009. Before that, I liked to drink, and did so whenever I wanted. No too much, you understand -  just a glass of red or two, probably five nights a week, and sometimes the whole bottle except for the last half a glass I'd stumble over and tip down the sink swearing not to do it again the next night. I don't quite know how I ended up with that nasty habit. I think my drinking was largely medicinal, and probably started around the same time my husbands medicinal drinking did....more
Fantastic article, I can totally relatemore

Ten Things Tenants Want Their Landlords To Know

We’re packing up this week to move house, leaving the beautiful two-storey A-frame bungalow on an acre we’ve been renting for the last eighteen months. We’ve been renters since 1998, when we decided that whilst we could appreciate our own home was going to cost us a lot of money, we did not consider it should also cost us our marriage. The great thing about renting, apart from the fact you can afford holidays, oh, and groceries, is that when a house has issues, you can either merrily ignore them or, if they are a real inconvenience, report them to your real estate agent....more
Oh those renting days. I guess I got lucky, I never had any absolutely horrible neighbors. ...more