Beautiful Catastrophe: The Death and Rebirth of Becoming a Mother

So I was hanging out the other day with a friend who has a newborn. A freaking gorgeous newborn boy, to be exact. He is her first baby. She has recently become a mother. You know, when we hear those words we hear them like it’s no big deal -- “become a mother,” like you might “become a doctor” or “become a pet owner.” As if it’s just this thing that happens, without anything else happening -- it’s just this exciting addition to one’s life. You add this new thing and go about your business. Like a new-home owner, or a resident of a new town....more
"Beautiful catastrophe" is the best description of motherhood I've read.  I'm glad I'm not alone ... more

Postpartum Depression Hurts: A First Time Mom's Battle

After T went back to work, I was trapped in a tiny, cold house with only a rented breast pump and a screaming newborn. I never felt more alone and scared. The thoughts going through my head were a laundry list of self-loathing: I wasn’t cut out for this. L.E. and T. both deserved better than me. I was such a burden to them. I was worthless. I was helpless. I can’t even provide breastmilk. I felt as though the walls were closing in on me and I had no escape....more
@clairewestbrook I'd love to read your post! What's your blog URL? more

Postpartum Depression Hurts: A First Time Mom's Battle

After T went back to work, I was trapped in a tiny, cold house with only a rented breast pump and a screaming newborn. I never felt more alone and scared. The thoughts going through my head were a laundry list of self-loathing: I wasn’t cut out for this. L.E. and T. both deserved better than me. I was such a burden to them. I was worthless. I was helpless. I can’t even provide breastmilk. I felt as though the walls were closing in on me and I had no escape....more
Thank you, @elaineR.N. It felt really good to put it out there. more

Ten Things Parents Should Never, Ever Do

1. Take a good, close look at your walls. They will make you want to cry and then hose down your house with disinfectant. 2. Swear. Even if your kid still pronounces "banana" as "babana," as soon as you drop a profanity -- just once -- the little tyke will say it perfectly and repeatedly, in the most horrifying of places (like the doctor's office or your grandmother's house)....more
Once I realized it was too quiet for my two-year-old to be up to anything good. I didn't realize ... more

Lying About Birth: Yes, Kate Winslet Should Feel Ashamed

A friend recently brought to my attention, via Facebook, that Kate Winslet apparently just came out as having lied about having a natural childbirth when in fact she had an emergency c-section. She was embarrassed about having had the section. There seems to be a “c-sections are nothing to be embarrassed about” movement stirring up over this which I kind of think is ridiculous....more
Moms can't win no matter what. C-section, vaginal birth, breastfeeding, staying at home, ... more

We Are Killing Our Children

I believe structure is killing our children. We offer them so much structured learning and play time that they are never put into a situation where they have to be inventive and brave. They NEVER have to learn to figure things out for themselves. Yes, in order to get a child to do what you want when you want, the best way is to create a schedule for them. Structure the basics like meals, potty and sleep so as to structure them from the inside out. This way it is easy to get them used to your schedule and way of doing things. And I agree with this type of structure....more
Huh. My toddler who goes to daycare displays independent thinking constantly! I just wish she ... more

Why I Can't Afford Not to Go to Planned Parenthood

The story of how, at 38 years old, I found myself without health insurance, sitting in the lobby of my local Planned Parenthood, is not a sad story.  I’m not one of those victims of the economy that might be profiled in a story in Newsweek.  I was not laid off.  My insurance benefits weren’t cut off by the man.  Quite the contrary, I willingly and voluntarily gave up a job with health benefits in order to avail myself more fully to the family I am raising.   ...more
Excellent post! I'm relocating in a few months and may not have health insurance for a while. ... more

Everyone Remembers Their Very First... Hate Comment

Hopefully you haven't received your first hate comment, but if you have, The Next Stage's post about the first time someone left an angry note on her blog will feel very familiar.  From the wonder that anyone would even find her online space to the confusion over the fact that someone would take the time to say something so rude, she breaks down her reaction to her first hate comment. ...more
I have never had a hate comment yet. But I would embrace one with open arms because it means ... more

The "At Least" Test for Commenting

I comment on a lot of blogs. I like to leave comments because I like to get comments. (And that makes it sound like I leave comments in order to get comments. No. I leave comments because I like comments so I figure that you like comments too.) I used to be able to leave more comments than I can now. I think my New Year’s blog resolution this year will to leave more comments and to spread them around a little bit better. (Like your blog. That I have been meaning to comment on for AGES! I read it, I really do.) ...more
It's like thinking before speaking. Think before commenting. I never get comments so I would ... more

The "At Least" Test for Commenting

I comment on a lot of blogs. I like to leave comments because I like to get comments. (And that makes it sound like I leave comments in order to get comments. No. I leave comments because I like comments so I figure that you like comments too.) I used to be able to leave more comments than I can now. I think my New Year’s blog resolution this year will to leave more comments and to spread them around a little bit better. (Like your blog. That I have been meaning to comment on for AGES! I read it, I really do.) ...more
It's like thinking before speaking. Think before commenting. I never get comments so I would ... more
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