Why "Required Reading" Needs to be Removed From Our Vocabulary

Forcing children to read before they are ready is guaranteed to remove any joy they might have found had they been allowed to read on their own schedule. 42% of high school and college grads never read another book again once they graduate. That is a tragically high number, and we only have ourselves and our insistence on reading young to blame. ...more
There is so much I loved about this post. I'm in agreement with 100% of it. Thank you for such a ... more

After Years of Being Forced to Celebrate Without a Mom, I Loathe Mother’s Day

I loathe Mother’s Day. I know that may seem peculiar since I am a mother myself, but I have not always been. I grew up without a mom, and this day was a reminder every year that while everyone was celebrating their mommies, I was not. I was not the poor kid whose mom died or even the kid whose mom was in prison. Their moms had no control over their absence. (Okay maybe the mom in prison could have made better choices, but that is besides the point.) I was the kid who’s mom abandoned her -- and no one really knew....more
My heart is with you... Thank you for this... I can empathize as my mother displayed proximal ... more

No Kids Came to His Birthday Party -- and I Don't Appreciate It!

The Universe kicked my butt today a little bit in the form of Michael's no-kids-came birthday party. I'm tough and can handle stuff like that, but I felt badly for Michael. Here's the thing: I appreciate the dad who came by with a gift and said his kid had stayed up too late, got up too early and was just a whipped mess. That was cool of him to come by and give a gift and explain. That is a stand-up person. I appreciate the person who has a long drive and called to say she was having a hard time getting all her kids together....more
I know all too well what this feels like.  I tend to keep my kiddie parties as small as under 10 ... more

Need to sell my Blogher '12 ticket :(

I have an early bird full conference ticket that I must sell.  Let me know if you're interested either here or at vjubis@gmail.comThanks,Vanessa   

I've Never Had A Best Friend

I’ve never had a best friend.I’m not saying that so you’ll feel sorry for me. It’s just a realization that I’ve had over and over and over again in my life. Image: Texasbubba via Flickr ...more
Fadra, you're right, many of us feel this way.  I've had friends that I've considered my BFF's ... more

Author Jeffrey Zaslow Dies in Car Accident at 53

Best-selling author and journalist Jeffrey Zaslow died February 10 in a car accident in Michigan. He was 53. His loss is felt keenly in the BlogHer community. We had the privilege of working with Mr. Zaslow, and his most recent book, The Magic Room, was one of our BlogHer Book Club selections. ...more
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Saying Hello

They say you never really know a person until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes, and after last week, I can confirm for you that the proverbial "they" are absolutely correct. Last week, Jes Ferris announced that she will soon be leaving BlogHer, and I am *beyond* excited to announce that I am taking on her role as Conference Programming Manager....more
Congrats! BlogHer '12 will be my very FIRST blog conference that I attend. Looking forward to ... more

Mothering Heals Me

Tonight, while I changed the sheets on my daughters' bunk beds I couldn't help but remember moments of my turbulent childhood. I was mindful of how I tucked the fitted sheets on their mattresses because while I did so, I vicariously tended to the bed I would have slept in as a little girl and added the attention I needed... It healed me....more
@Glamamama66 Thank you so much! I'm always surprised as to what will surface from my own ... more

Mothering Heals Me

Tonight, while I changed the sheets on my daughters' bunk beds I couldn't help but remember moments of my turbulent childhood. I was mindful of how I tucked the fitted sheets on their mattresses because while I did so, I vicariously tended to the bed I would have slept in as a little girl and added the attention I needed... It healed me....more
@JennaHatfield Thank you, Jenna. The mundane is magical... more

Autism Has Not Ruined My Life

Sometimes writing about our lives can be, well, hard. Brenda at Mama Be Good was recently accused of "too sad" writing on her blog in which she shares about her son's diagnosis with autism. She wants to assure her readers that her life is not a big ball of negative energy; her son is awesome. ...more
This is so very sweet... I believe that one of the best ways to wade through our ups and downs ... more