Fate and Free Will

  How can fate and free will co-exist?Let me explain.I recently had a conversation about my relationship with my son's father.And it made me remember another conversation I'd had about my relationship with my son's father.This most recent conversation ended something like,"yes, but you got your son out of it, so that's something to be thankful for"...more
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Hurting

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The Bar

Standards keep going up.That's what the newspapers say.That's what employment offices say.But that's not what the results show.Teaching.That's what I'm talking about but I have no doubt you could apply this to many other fields.Every teacher now has to be certified with a masters degree,and now it's recommended they be duel certified.So how come tests results aren't improving?...more
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Lesson; the latest one.

 It's been a while.And I'm sorry.I've been bottled up and imploding a lotand now I'm kinda forcing this blog outbecause it NEEDS to happen. If not,I'll just be more of a mess.The truth is I met someone. Someone I trusted waswhat they said they were.And they weren't.The entire situation was a kind of hoax,well orchestrated for the maximum satisfaction of the other party.And I could mull over and over thinking thoughts like,it's unfairandwhy do people do that to each other?...more
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Dance

The white bars from the cross walk stepping stoned me 'cross the street toward a man I already knew I wasn't attracted to. He looked at me with the same disinterest but I was here and had committed myself to the meeting so I hopped on through traffic to arrive face to face with him. He was polite. I was polite....more
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We Are Killing Our Children

I believe structure is killing our children. We offer them so much structured learning and play time that they are never put into a situation where they have to be inventive and brave. They NEVER have to learn to figure things out for themselves. Yes, in order to get a child to do what you want when you want, the best way is to create a schedule for them. Structure the basics like meals, potty and sleep so as to structure them from the inside out. This way it is easy to get them used to your schedule and way of doing things. And I agree with this type of structure....more
I'm not waging are on anyone I'm trying to offer my observations in order to put things into ... more

We Are Killing Our Children

I believe structure is killing our children. We offer them so much structured learning and play time that they are never put into a situation where they have to be inventive and brave. They NEVER have to learn to figure things out for themselves. Yes, in order to get a child to do what you want when you want, the best way is to create a schedule for them. Structure the basics like meals, potty and sleep so as to structure them from the inside out. This way it is easy to get them used to your schedule and way of doing things. And I agree with this type of structure....more
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I Don't Like Spanking My Kids, But I Do It Anyway

I was spanked as a child. I wasn’t beaten, I wasn’t thrown around. I was laid over my fathers knee and would get a couple of good wallops. It wasn’t done excessively, only on an as-needed basis. For me, that “as-needed” would come around much more often than it would my sister. One of the small burdens of being too much like my mother. The point is, I wasn’t traumatized. I didn’t feel abused. I felt as though I deserved it and, looking back as an adult -- I did. I don’t like spanking my kids. In fact, I usually give them numerous chances and warnings to straighten out the problem before I do....more
I beg to differ on ONE account, Physical discipline is only looked down upon in certain ... more

Am I Creating Class Warfare in My Own Community?

We are doing pretty well. ...more
Honey what you're feeling is sympathy and compassion because you're a good person, not because ... more

Social Media Is a Warm Gun: A Dangerous Tweet About Depression

The scary thing about social media is it has a nasty habit of allowing some dude who Googled stuff that one time and thought about some things and then decided maybe it would be fun to share them with his MySpace friends (I'm loosely paraphrasing, but seriously, only loosely) appear to be an expert of some kind. ...more
This was an extraordinary blog. Extraordinary. Hitting every friggin' nail on the head ... more