Can I Be a Feminist If I Don't Agree With You?

I spent the weekend with some beautiful women. They were intelligent (like getting-into-the-best-business-school-in-the-country smart), driven (like being one of only a small group of women in their industry) and engaged (like being a member of the Peace Corps and a senior-level executive in the federal government.) Despite being heavy hitters in their fields, they embraced my lowly but admired profession of a blogger covering the wine-drinking and play date scene....more
I'll not tiptoe around this: I completely disagree with you about Hobby Lobby. I do believe, as ... more

Does 'The Biggest Loser' Promote Anorexia and Bulimia?

The season finale for The Biggest Loser prompted strong viewer reaction to Rachel Frederickson who won $250,000  by losing 58.62 percent of her 260 pound starting weight. That's a record weight loss in the show's 15 seasons, and at-home viewers assessed it to be too much to be healthy.  ...more
I stopped watching the Biggest Loser quite some time ago because of how disturbing I found the ... more

A Mother's Perspective on Richard Sherman's Post-Game Interview

Mothers, let me ask some questions. If someone was trash-talking your boy, what advice would you give him? Ignore it? Walk away? Tell an adult? Stand up for yourself? If someone mistreats, verbally or physically, your children, how do you tell them to handle it? Image: © Tony Overman/MCT/ZUMAPRESS.com ...more
I agree with you. I think that his message was aimed more toward Crabtree in particular while ... more

What Do Fit Shaming, Fat Shaming, Slut Shaming, and Mom Shaming Have in Common?

I remember the first time someone called me fat in an internet comment. We were having a debate about the repeal of Don't Ask Don't Tell. The person on the other side of the conversation was saying incredibly offensive homophobic things, and I was working very hard to stay level and calm. He then told me that my "girth" would prevent me from joining the military so I didn't get to have an opinion. Then he bragged that he didn't care what a "fat liberal feminist" thought anyway. ...more
mommabethyname This is an excellent point. As much as I think the optimistic narratives about ... more

What Do Fit Shaming, Fat Shaming, Slut Shaming, and Mom Shaming Have in Common?

I remember the first time someone called me fat in an internet comment. We were having a debate about the repeal of Don't Ask Don't Tell. The person on the other side of the conversation was saying incredibly offensive homophobic things, and I was working very hard to stay level and calm. He then told me that my "girth" would prevent me from joining the military so I didn't get to have an opinion. Then he bragged that he didn't care what a "fat liberal feminist" thought anyway. ...more
Life Breath Present I definitely think that what we say about other people gets picked up by our ... more

What Do Fit Shaming, Fat Shaming, Slut Shaming, and Mom Shaming Have in Common?

I remember the first time someone called me fat in an internet comment. We were having a debate about the repeal of Don't Ask Don't Tell. The person on the other side of the conversation was saying incredibly offensive homophobic things, and I was working very hard to stay level and calm. He then told me that my "girth" would prevent me from joining the military so I didn't get to have an opinion. Then he bragged that he didn't care what a "fat liberal feminist" thought anyway. ...more
hoell711 Thank you! more

What Do Fit Shaming, Fat Shaming, Slut Shaming, and Mom Shaming Have in Common?

I remember the first time someone called me fat in an internet comment. We were having a debate about the repeal of Don't Ask Don't Tell. The person on the other side of the conversation was saying incredibly offensive homophobic things, and I was working very hard to stay level and calm. He then told me that my "girth" would prevent me from joining the military so I didn't get to have an opinion. Then he bragged that he didn't care what a "fat liberal feminist" thought anyway. ...more
DomesticPirate Yes! The narratives that surround us get in our own heads. more

What Do Fit Shaming, Fat Shaming, Slut Shaming, and Mom Shaming Have in Common?

I remember the first time someone called me fat in an internet comment. We were having a debate about the repeal of Don't Ask Don't Tell. The person on the other side of the conversation was saying incredibly offensive homophobic things, and I was working very hard to stay level and calm. He then told me that my "girth" would prevent me from joining the military so I didn't get to have an opinion. Then he bragged that he didn't care what a "fat liberal feminist" thought anyway. ...more
Jennie Koczan "it really isn't any of my business what you are doing with your body." For so ... more

What Do Fit Shaming, Fat Shaming, Slut Shaming, and Mom Shaming Have in Common?

I remember the first time someone called me fat in an internet comment. We were having a debate about the repeal of Don't Ask Don't Tell. The person on the other side of the conversation was saying incredibly offensive homophobic things, and I was working very hard to stay level and calm. He then told me that my "girth" would prevent me from joining the military so I didn't get to have an opinion. Then he bragged that he didn't care what a "fat liberal feminist" thought anyway. ...more
I just want to add that after I wrote this, I talked to Rebecca Sparrow (the author of the post ... more

To Santa or Not To Santa: The Question of All Questions

So, spoiler alert: Santa Claus isn’t real. Oops. Were you reading this post aloud to your small child? My apologies for ruining his/her innocence. I have a bad habit of spreading truth at inopportune times. There are about 25 women who still resent me for being That Kid who, in 1990, told their eight-year-olds that Santa wasn’t real. I didn’t get invited to a lot of birthday parties when I was in third grade. I can’t imagine why. ...more
I've been caught up in that ethical question, too. My solution was to answer any questions she ... more