Top 12 Ways to Repel Your Readers

I'm not only an avid blog reader, I'm also a pretty prolific commenter (not quite in the league with A, but who is?). Let me share with you some of my pet peeves, the annoyances that mar an otherwise brilliant space. Here's a check list, in no particular order, so that you can visit your own blog as a visitor and evaluate yourself.❏ 1. You put your comment link only at the top of your post....more
I DETEST CAPTCHA! (All in caps. Notice that? ;) ) more

Dear God, 11 Years Old Is Too Young to Be Pregnant

Dear God; I am writing this and I still can't believe I'm writing this. No, wait. Yes, I can, and that's what makes it even sadder. My daughter and her friends were all abuzz yesterday when I came home from work. I was hoping they were all wildly misinformed, but Moms talk and other kids talk and I guess it's true. One of my daughter's schoolmates is pregnant. God, one of my eleven-year-old daughter's schoolmates is pregnant. And keeping the baby....more
@Arnebya  @Rita Arens The problem with Teen Mom is that though it shows some of the realities of ... more

No More Mail on Saturdays? Say It Isn't So, US Postal Service!

I guess it's one less day to sift through the junk mail. The U.S. Postal Service announced this morning that it will end Saturday delivery of first-class mail, beginning in August 2013. It's not surprising, considering the federal agency has been in the red for at least six years, due to increased costs for employee benefits and decreased demand for snail mail....more
I think that instead of cutting off Saturday delivery, the postal service should go to an every ... more

Skin in the Game: When Your Daughter Wants to Become an Egg Donor

our youngest daughter has signed a lease to live off campus next school year. She will be a third year student, a junior, and she will be 21 by the time she starts the school year. She has a job when she is home for the Summer and during school breaks and has more than a little bit of money saved up, but she realizes that she will need to supplement this money in order to not use it all up before the end of the term. So, she has been looking for jobs in her college town. On Craigslist. There are a number of money-making opportunities on Craigslist....more
I SO agree with @JennaHatfield . I too am a birth mother, and adoption has profoundly affected ... more

Why I've Been Avoiding My Spiritual Community

For the past 10 years, I've been a part of a spiritual community that both nurtures and inspires me. I have been an active volunteer in this congregation. I have felt strong connections to the people there. I married my husband in the sanctuary. A few years ago when asked in a meditation workshop to close my eyes and think of a place where I belonged, it was the building where this congregation gathers that came into my mind.So why haven't I been there in several months? ...more
I loved this. I've been reading a book lately called "The Goodbye Baby." The backstory before ... more

Why I've Been Avoiding My Spiritual Community

For the past 10 years, I've been a part of a spiritual community that both nurtures and inspires me. I have been an active volunteer in this congregation. I have felt strong connections to the people there. I married my husband in the sanctuary. A few years ago when asked in a meditation workshop to close my eyes and think of a place where I belonged, it was the building where this congregation gathers that came into my mind.So why haven't I been there in several months? ...more
@LauraM.Dennis And the snark is precisely one of the reasons I love you. :) (Just had to say ... more

What It Feels Like to Become a Mother Before Becoming a Mom

Nine years ago today, I pushed my daughter into this world with one last mighty push. Nine years ago today, I became a mother. Nine years ago today, a brand new resident doctor stitched me up while my daughter's mom held her for the first time, my arms empty. The pain of the inexperienced stitching didn't compare to the burning hot pain in my heart as I lived through that first experience of almost but not quite, the life-long journey of birth motherhood....more
Yes. Yes. And yes. Your lack of eloquence as you stated is exactly why it's so eloquent and ... more

Honesty in National Adoption Awareness Month

November is National Adoption Awareness Month. Historically, the purpose was to draw attention to children in foster care and their need for permanency. Bravo to then Governor Dukakis in 1976 for getting things moving.Today, the campaign is used widely and for a host of opportunists—whether it’s an unethical agency trying to increase revenue or Petsmart promoting pet adoption. We’ve blurred the intention of adoption awareness and moved, in many ways, the wrong direction....more
This is a great article. I am concerned about the reference to CUB, because although I believe ... more

You Don't Have to Be Friends with the Whole Internet

I've been blogging for 11 years. Friends have come and gone, amicably and not so, over the years. Sometimes the friendship doesn't even end; it's thrown into a hiatus because of offline life happenings. Sometimes people stop blogging. Sometimes you're demoted. Misunderstandings abound on the Internet, straining and ending friendships without the ability to look each other in the eye and apologize, accept forgiveness. The beginning and ending of friendships on the Internet is a given. It happens. We move on. But what about those people that you don't want to be friends with in the first place? ...more
Amen. I don't like the people who automatically assume that because I'm a birth mom too that ... more

Pay to Promote Your Status Comes to Facebook

There have been more changes at Facebook as of late, and people have had a lot to say about the new pay-to-promote system which is currently in testing mode. Not Super... Just Mom has a post about both the sponsored content showing up in her feed as well as noticing that views to her status updates have dropped perhaps because she is not paying to have her words read. Though she also raises the other fair point -- what Facebook is essentially doing is asking people to pay to advertise their words, just as any brand would pay for advertising to get knowledge of their product to the consumer. ...more
@notsuperjustmom  @JennaHatfield Obviously FB's bottom line comes first. They're trying to ... more