There Are All Kinds of Ways to Lose a Child

It is enough to gaze into trees climbing the hill above us. It is almost time to leave but I cannot turn the radio off. I stand there, losing precious moments in a busy day, savoring the gentle voice of a stranger -- a man whose son killed himself. He says, “there are all kinds of ways to lose a child.” How do you tell someone your 17 ½ year old daughter is gone -- alive, but gone....more
Shannon LC Cate Seven months later, I just stumbled back to this post & saw your comment for the ... more

Our Teenagers Don't Have a Curfew

I had a curfew, but it was not fast or hard. It changed with the circumstance. Upon reading a recent post by Nancy at Ordinary Miracles, I asked my husband if he had a curfew. He didn't. I don't know how we'll approach it with our kids, but I really like this post! Do your teens have a curfew? Did you? ...more
Thank you for your post. It's good to see that this approach is working in your family. My first ... more

Teens and Secrets; Never Assume You Know

I know, I know...teenagers are infamous for keeping secrets. But there are secrets and then there are "secrets". There are the kind that lots of teens have; they tried beer at a party, they have a crush on the boy in their English class, they got a piercing...the there are the ones they keep to themselves, the dangerous ones that if revealed would shake the worlds of those that love and protect them, family members that stay awake nights praying for their safety and happiness. ...more
I hear you. So much of what you describe has been our story. It is painful to realize that this ... more

Mom Torture: Surviving the Dark Spots of Mothering

Mom torture n. 1 emotional pain experienced by a woman when her child is in distress 2 a strategy used to weaken a mother's resolve in regard to her own beliefs and practices 3 a primary cause of sleepless nights See also tough love....more
Thank you for this post. That list of examples left me in tears; 7 of them are relevant or have ... more

There Are All Kinds of Ways to Lose a Child

It is enough to gaze into trees climbing the hill above us. It is almost time to leave but I cannot turn the radio off. I stand there, losing precious moments in a busy day, savoring the gentle voice of a stranger -- a man whose son killed himself. He says, “there are all kinds of ways to lose a child.” How do you tell someone your 17 ½ year old daughter is gone -- alive, but gone....more
I'm so sorry to hear that your son is not in contact with you. So painful... I don’t have a lot ... more

There Are All Kinds of Ways to Lose a Child

It is enough to gaze into trees climbing the hill above us. It is almost time to leave but I cannot turn the radio off. I stand there, losing precious moments in a busy day, savoring the gentle voice of a stranger -- a man whose son killed himself. He says, “there are all kinds of ways to lose a child.” How do you tell someone your 17 ½ year old daughter is gone -- alive, but gone....more
Oh, I am so sorry. 12 years is an eternity. Thank you for sharing this. Yes, the more I hear ... more

There Are All Kinds of Ways to Lose a Child

It is enough to gaze into trees climbing the hill above us. It is almost time to leave but I cannot turn the radio off. I stand there, losing precious moments in a busy day, savoring the gentle voice of a stranger -- a man whose son killed himself. He says, “there are all kinds of ways to lose a child.” How do you tell someone your 17 ½ year old daughter is gone -- alive, but gone....more
Hi Nancy. PA refers to "parental alienation" which is apparently a controversial subject in the ... more

There Are All Kinds of Ways to Lose a Child

It is enough to gaze into trees climbing the hill above us. It is almost time to leave but I cannot turn the radio off. I stand there, losing precious moments in a busy day, savoring the gentle voice of a stranger -- a man whose son killed himself. He says, “there are all kinds of ways to lose a child.” How do you tell someone your 17 ½ year old daughter is gone -- alive, but gone....more
No, I'm not, but I just went to the link you gave & tried to click through to her site. It's ... more

There Are All Kinds of Ways to Lose a Child

It is enough to gaze into trees climbing the hill above us. It is almost time to leave but I cannot turn the radio off. I stand there, losing precious moments in a busy day, savoring the gentle voice of a stranger -- a man whose son killed himself. He says, “there are all kinds of ways to lose a child.” How do you tell someone your 17 ½ year old daughter is gone -- alive, but gone....more
Yes... Exactly... Thank you for saying this. more

There Are All Kinds of Ways to Lose a Child

It is enough to gaze into trees climbing the hill above us. It is almost time to leave but I cannot turn the radio off. I stand there, losing precious moments in a busy day, savoring the gentle voice of a stranger -- a man whose son killed himself. He says, “there are all kinds of ways to lose a child.” How do you tell someone your 17 ½ year old daughter is gone -- alive, but gone....more
I'm so sorry that you lost your brother & thank you for your kind comment. Have you written ... more