10 Things Parents Shouldn't Say To Non-Parents

Lately, I've seen some articles (this one in particular) about how people with kids are tired of hearing certain things from people without munchkins. I know, I know, we don't get it. But maybe, possibly, you're forgetting what it's like to not have kids. There are different stresses but stress none the less. ...more
Having animals are never ever ever ever EVER like having kids.  EVER.  I kind of laugh when ... more

We All Want to Raise Strong, Brave Girls

First of all, just writing that title made me go “AHJHJKJgajgdajsgdjhagdhja” because we all want this for our daughters, don’t we? We all want our daughters to grow up brave and empowered, able to stick up for themselves in an unpressured environment that, frankly, does not exist. And that’s really the root of all of this, isn’t it? The world is a rollercoaster. How do we help our girls ride without puking? Is there an antidote? An emotional Dramamine we can prescribe to keep them from feeling sick as they go up and down and upside down and backwards? ...more
For me, part of raising my soon-to-be-five daughters to be strong and brave and courageous is ... more

I Gave My Daughter Her First Joint

I gave my daughter a joint this past weekend.I do not mean that to sound like it was no big deal, because it was not at all a casual decision. My daughter is almost 15 years old and a freshman in high school, and she has always been very open and honest with me.  Image: Rafael Castillo ...more
AlexandreaMerrell A-FREAKING-MEN.  Well said. more

Is There a Negative Side of Encouraging Girls to Major in STEM?

If you're a woman, and especially if you have daughters/are thinking about having children, you've probably thought about the word "pretty." How boys are praised for—and get away with—their actions, and girls are praised for being pretty and ladylike. And how to navigate the whole body image jungle of what used to be just the teen years, but now possibly includes a girl's entire life through adulthood. ...more
I went to college on a large physics scholarship, discovered economics and French during my ... more

I've Taught My Daughter to Hate

“Boo! Hiss!” That is what my daughter will yell out whenever we drive by a McDonald's or a Burger King. On occasion, she will also stick out her tongue at the massively popular fast food chains. And you know what? This behavior totally warms my kale-eating, Greek yogurt-loving, grass-fed beef burger-grilling heart.  Image: greg westfall ...more
Your kid sounds like a real peach...super fun to be around. more

Open Letter to Those Who Don't Believe in Publicly Funded and Regulated Daycare

In response to the commenters on this article in the Toronto Star—and every article ever—about the need for safe, affordable childcare for working families. ...more
Ok, I get your huge long sob story (which really ends up being that you have awesome daycare, ... more

Crossing the Reality Line and Why I Don't Think You Can Watch 'The Bachelor' Now, Even to Make Fun of It

Oh, man. Here we go again. Were the producers at ABC's The Bachelor jealous of the social media attention Duck Dynasty received, or was Juan Pablo going rogue when he called gay people "more perverse in a sense?" You can read about his comments, made at an ABC press event, here. An audio of the interview is also available.  ...more
This, "The Duck Dynasty kerfuffle exploited the religious right's racism and views on ... more

Sexual Responsibility and The Post-Breakup "Surprise" Kid

WARNING- This sh*t is about to get real and preachy. If you think sexual irresponsibility is cool, don’t read this.I’ve encountered this too often for it not to be a trend. It’s a horrifying fad to me and I’d like to call it out. I’ve dated several men who, post-divorce or post-long term relationship breakup, end up knocking up a short-timer and now have a kid. (I’m sure you’ve heard of Dwyane Wade and his relationship hiatus baby by now). ...more
NewWomanOrder thlsralv I just keep thinking of my parents drilling it home to us all, "If you ... more

Sexual Responsibility and The Post-Breakup "Surprise" Kid

WARNING- This sh*t is about to get real and preachy. If you think sexual irresponsibility is cool, don’t read this.I’ve encountered this too often for it not to be a trend. It’s a horrifying fad to me and I’d like to call it out. I’ve dated several men who, post-divorce or post-long term relationship breakup, end up knocking up a short-timer and now have a kid. (I’m sure you’ve heard of Dwyane Wade and his relationship hiatus baby by now). ...more
What about just not hooking up?  Seems to mitigate most of the consequences, intended or otherwise. more

Transracial and International Adoptions: New Trends, But the Same Questions

There's a growing trend in adoption: African-American children who are being adopted by European families. Reading recent stories in mainstream publications about this trend, as well as transracial adoption issues in North America, I see a lot of questions that never seem to get answered: How does race play into adoption decisions, by both potential adoptive parents and the agencies that work with them?...more
A question that never seems to be answered is, where is the African American community when it ... more