The Late 80s to Mid 90s Was the Flyest Era Ever for Young Black America

The decade from the late '80s to the mid '90s was the flyest era ever for young, black America! Yeah, I know I sound like somebody’s Big Mama, but I’m so serious. Black folks were at their dopest. Places like Detroit (Waddup doe?), Chicago, Boston, New York, Los Angeles and Miami were, collectively, stepping up their game and repping black beauty, love and power to the fullest. ...more
I have to agree "late '80s to the mid '90s" was the best. The music is still on my playlists ... more

It’s Perfectly Okay to Have a Kid-Free Wedding

When you get engaged and start planning a wedding, you inadvertently open yourself up the opinions of others…whether or not you ask for them. People will have opinions on everything from your dress to whether or not it’s acceptable to have a kid-free wedding. I found the best course of action to be a nod and a smile. But when I read this post last week about why it’s selfish to have a kid-free wedding, I felt compelled to respond....more
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6 Ways White Feminists Should Not Respond to Racism

Spoiler alert: A lot of white people don’t entirely understand racism. Even educated, well-meaning, white feminists and advocates for social justice often miss the mark when talking about race. I am sure that I (a white person and a feminist) have been personally guilty of it (in fact, I realize with some anxiety that I could be guilty of it right now). And I get that it’s jarring to be called out for something that wasn’t your intention, and it’s natural to want to leap to your own defense....more
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A Letter to Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar

Jim Bob and Michelle: I am not going to mince words. YOU HAVE FAILED YOUR DAUGHTERS. It is your job to protect them. You did not. Instead, you chose to protect your son....more
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Will You Wear the Acid Wash Trend?

I'll be honest, you guys. I didn't think the acid wash denim revival was for me....more
Nope. I wore them the first time around and not again. more

My Mother's Body Got Lost

I'm trying to plan my mother's funeral, but we have a problem. We can't find her. My mother passed away Saturday after a long illness. I had all the funeral arrangement planned months in advance, so I was prepared when the inevitable happened. After she died, I contacted the proper authorities to transport her body 100 miles to her hometown of Wendell, Idaho for the funeral and burial. ...more
Condolences on the loss of your mother. I just lost my mother as well and I could not imagine if ... more

Recipe and Reverie for My Dad's Coconut Cream Pie

My dad died 17 days ago. He had been sick, but I wasn't expecting it. That also happened to be my daughter's sixth birthday and the day before my own. It's been a hell of a couple of weeks....more
My condolences, to you. Losing a parent is wretched. I just lost my mom a couple of weeks ago, ... more

How Do You Say Goodbye When He Doesn't Believe He's Dying?

How do you say goodbye to someone who doesn't believe he's dying?...more
That is a hard question to answer. Luckily you had more time with him that you thought you ... more

Suicide Is Not Selfish

I don’t want to hear another person say that suicide is “selfish”....more
Love this, thank you for writing it. I'm tired of hearing that "suicide is selfish". You don't ... more

How to Make a Living as a Crafter

I have made a living as a crafter for close to 15 years. It has not always been easy. There were times I was poor, and there were times I felt rich. There were times without health insurance, and times when I was staying in hotels in Beverly Hills. The craft industry waxes and wanes like anything else. This, my friends, is why I always live by the motto that you need to have several financial irons in the fire at once. ...more
Love this! I am a big believer in having multiple income streams. If one dries up you're not ... more