Shawna Percy MacDonald

At 32 I lost my husband to complications from sleep apnea, medication, and... read more

THE POWER OF RISING ABOVE - A father breaks the silence of his son's suicide

Stigmas can hold many people in bondage.  Out of fear, when someone dies by suicide, I have witnessed first hand, individuals who hold that information closely to them, praying no one will ask them how the person died, or find out it was by suicide.  Why?  Fear.  There is fear of being judged, fear of being ridiculed, and protection for the individual that was loved, not wanting that person to be made less than they were due to one decision they made during their deepest, darkest moment in life....more
 @victorias_view Thank you Victoria.  I think you said this so well, and it's powerful to be in ...more

SUPPORT GROUP JUNKIE

I'm addicted to support groups.  In fact, I've become a support group junkie.It all started with Toastmasters, a speech club, where every talk I ever gave was wrapped up by an encouraging drum roll of applause.  Whether good or bad they gave accalaids just for trying.  I learned through Toastmasters that positive environments lent themselves towards my overall development and self-esteem.  They made me feel confident, capable, and excited to tackle a next new challenge....more
 @GoodGriefGuru You are very welcome. Shawma. It is my pleasure.more

Stigma Spelled 'S-U-I-C-I-D-E'

I checked the mail today.  Inside was a large yellow envelope addressed to me from the Regional Supervising Coroner’s office.This envelope, I hoped, would contain some answers about my husband’s death that had been unclear.  When the police told me they had found my husband they took a guess as to what had happened.  A day later they retracted.  At any rate, it was clear there was uncertainty. ...more
 @CrisGas Thank you for sharing pieces of your story CrisGas.  I feel for you.  I think it's a ...more

God Connections in Playing Music

There is a song I grew up hearing throughout my childhood.  If someone was to ask my family what ballad stood out the most to them, what melody was most frequently played, it would be this song.The sheet music of the composer has traveled with me from place to place.  It is so ratty and tattered.  I love how worn it has become.  It shows how well used it has been throughout all these years. The book of music holds the notes to renditions I had heard my whole life.  They are the songs I knew best from an artist I thought I knew well....more
Thanks for reading everyone. You can find more of my writing on www.GoodGriefGuru.com I ...more

More Than Her Curls: What My Daughter Taught Me About Beauty

I am the first to unabashedly admit that I love my daughter Frankie’s hair. It’s fairy tale hair: long, blond spirals down to the middle of her back. Little girls on the playground call it princess hair; older women stop us in grocery store aisles and can’t help but comment on how pretty it is. My daughter, to her credit, says thank you then rolls her eyes once backs are turned. I gush, “I wish it were mine!” ...more
Frankie is very matured, amazingly, for her age to say,  “You thought I wasn’t going to be ...more

God Connections in Playing Music

There is a song I grew up hearing throughout my childhood.  If someone was to ask my family what ballad stood out the most to them, what melody was most frequently played, it would be this song.The sheet music of the composer has traveled with me from place to place.  It is so ratty and tattered.  I love how worn it has become.  It shows how well used it has been throughout all these years. The book of music holds the notes to renditions I had heard my whole life.  They are the songs I knew best from an artist I thought I knew well....more
Thanks for reading everyone. You can find more of my writing on www.GoodGriefGuru.com I ...more

God Connections in Playing Music

There is a song I grew up hearing throughout my childhood.  If someone was to ask my family what ballad stood out the most to them, what melody was most frequently played, it would be this song.The sheet music of the composer has traveled with me from place to place.  It is so ratty and tattered.  I love how worn it has become.  It shows how well used it has been throughout all these years. The book of music holds the notes to renditions I had heard my whole life.  They are the songs I knew best from an artist I thought I knew well....more
Thanks for reading everyone. You can find more of my writing on www.GoodGriefGuru.com I ...more

New Labels: Widow, Single Parent

When a spouse dies and you have children two things happen at once. You become a widow(er), and a single parent. Simultaneously.Overnight I adopted new labels. One moment I was married. The next I was not only widowed, but the sole care provider for our daughter.What do these new labels mean? Do they mean anything at all? I would say it depends on the day. If I am missing my husband, my friend, I feel quite widowed. Other days I accept that he is gone and I embrace that I am single. Single-with-experience....more
I hate the word widow.  That one word makes me feel so powerless.  I hate the single status too ...more

New Labels: Widow, Single Parent

When a spouse dies and you have children two things happen at once. You become a widow(er), and a single parent. Simultaneously.Overnight I adopted new labels. One moment I was married. The next I was not only widowed, but the sole care provider for our daughter.What do these new labels mean? Do they mean anything at all? I would say it depends on the day. If I am missing my husband, my friend, I feel quite widowed. Other days I accept that he is gone and I embrace that I am single. Single-with-experience....more
I hate the word widow.  That one word makes me feel so powerless.  I hate the single status too ...more

Crisis of Faith: Spiritual Abandonment

Have you ever felt that you were abandoned by God?If I am honest, the answer to that question for me is a resounding yes. There is a certain amount of shame that is associated with my answer to that question, but the truth is that there have been times, as recent as a few years ago that I felt that God had abandoned me. I am a person that believes in God and has never doubted the existence of a Higher Power. I am a Christian. But there have been circumstances in my life were I have felt so alone and abandoned by everyone…even by God....more
Thank you for this post Michele.  I liked your thought that, "But then I thought about it for a ...more