Would You Give a Friend a Kidney?

After Gal learns to open up and well, stop being such a grump, she finds herself being befriended by people in ways that she had not imagined. When Gal opened herself up to not only friendship, but to accepting help, she discovered that her friends truly cared about her....more
I used to pride myself on independence and never wanted to accept from anyone. Then, during a ... more

Learning to Think About Other People

Margaret Dilloway is a long time BlogHer community member, and I loved her first book, How to Be an American Housewife, but I let her new novel The Care and Handling of Roses with Thorns languish on my to-be-read pile. Sometimes, when I've really loved a debut novel, I am scared to read the author's second book. I will get excited about it, buy it, and then leave it on my nightstand for days worried I won't like it. After picking up The Care and Handling of Roses with Thorns, I promptly kicked myself in the backside for not picking it up sooner. I absolutely adored the main character, Gal Garner. ...more
I really enjoyed watching the relationship develop between Gal and her fellow transplant lister, ... more

Why I Was Scared of Red Roses

Once upon a time, I was young girl who believed the best thing ever was receiving red roses. They were just soooooooo romantic. Who wouldn't want a bouquet of beautiful red roses? I certainly did. Galilee "Gal" Garner, the main character in Margaret Dilloway's The Care and Handling of Roses with Thorns, also has faith in roses but for a different reason -- Gal believes roses will change her life. ...more
 @lifeneedsedits I totally agree that roses are overrated as gifts, and a tad cliche. I think ... more

Toxic Roses, Dirty Chocolate and Blood Diamonds

When you care about things like fair trade, labor rights and the environment, you may find that these principles generally don't take the day off just because Hallmark, Hershey's and De Beers would prefer it. This thoughtful post digs into the reality behind some of the more traditional Valentine's Day gifts and finds that we can do better:...more
Your husband sounds like a real gem, @mrssharp. And the necklace sounds absolutely stunning. ... more

Redefining Our Ideal Body

I thought that one of the most powerful messages in William D. Lassek, M.D. and Steven J. C. Gaulin's Why Women Need Fat: How "Healthy" Food Make Us Gain Excess Weight and the Surprising Solution to Losing It Forever was that our bodies are at their best when they feel healthiest, not when they were at a certain size or looked a certain way. What the authors were saying is that our thinnest point may not be our healthiest. ...more
My definition of the ideal body has definitely changed from my twenties to now. Sports helped a ... more

Do You Know Your Natural Weight?

In their book Why Women Need Fat: How "Healthy" Food Make Us Gain Excess Weight and the Surprising Solution to Losing It Forever, authors William D. Lassek, M.D. and Steven J. C. Gaulin suggest that we have a natural weight. They advocate that this natural weight is based on our genetics and that our weight is much harder to change than we've been led to believe. To put it simply, we have a weight we're meant to be and for many people it's simply not a size two. ...more
I think I am at my natural weight now, perhaps a little over since I haven't been very active in ... more

"Diets Don't Work." Wait! What?!

In their book Why Women Need Fat: How "Healthy" Food Make Us Gain Excess Weight and the Surprising Solution to Losing It Forever, authors William D. Lassek, M.D. and Steven J. C. Gaulin have a chapter titled "Why Dieting Doesn't Work." By the time I time I got to that chapter I had already realized I had misclassified this book as a "diet book" based on the cover. (I know, I know. We're not supposed to do that but admit it, you do it too.) Then the authors went even further -- they claimed that dieting can even cause us to gain more weight. ...more
@StephanieLouise Who said anything about giving up carbs? Your body needs carbohydrates for energy. more

"Diets Don't Work." Wait! What?!

In their book Why Women Need Fat: How "Healthy" Food Make Us Gain Excess Weight and the Surprising Solution to Losing It Forever, authors William D. Lassek, M.D. and Steven J. C. Gaulin have a chapter titled "Why Dieting Doesn't Work." By the time I time I got to that chapter I had already realized I had misclassified this book as a "diet book" based on the cover. (I know, I know. We're not supposed to do that but admit it, you do it too.) Then the authors went even further -- they claimed that dieting can even cause us to gain more weight. ...more
I think a big part of the problem is that our culture holds up one body type (thin) as healthy ... more

This Means I Get To Use Real Butter, Right?

In the first section of William D. Lassek and Steven J. C. Gaulin's new book, Why Women Need Fat: How "Healthy" Food Makes Us Gain Excess Weight and the Surprising Solution to Losing It Forever, they look at how the American diet has changed in the past forty years. The authors say that one of the biggest changes we've made is taking a step away from saturated fats, which was supposed to to make us healthier. But has it? ...more
While I found this book interesting and full of good information, I am hesitant to consider ... more

This Means I Get To Use Real Butter, Right?

In the first section of William D. Lassek and Steven J. C. Gaulin's new book, Why Women Need Fat: How "Healthy" Food Makes Us Gain Excess Weight and the Surprising Solution to Losing It Forever, they look at how the American diet has changed in the past forty years. The authors say that one of the biggest changes we've made is taking a step away from saturated fats, which was supposed to to make us healthier. But has it? ...more
@Brittany Ann Thanks for bringing up that dairy has other issues. I'm a vegan, which I realize ... more