Why (and How) I Helped My Teen Dye Her Hair Purple

I'm a strict parent; I expect you to keep your room clean, try your hardest, do chores around the house, speak to others with respect, cover up your underwear/bra straps, and accept "Because I said so" on the rare occasions when that's the only explanation I'm offering. Only one of my teens has a cellphone -- a "dumb" one, at that -- and she pays for her own texting. No one accuses me of being permissive. And yet, my kids are free to do pretty much whatever they like with their hair. ...more
My son has had a mohawk for over 5 years.  It was his choice, and continues to be so.  We get a ... more

Finding Beauty in a Harsh Existence

I spent a lot of time while reading Lisa Gardner's newest book, Touch and Go, trying to figure out Libby. She was broken but she also showed a resilience and strength that surprised me, as I believe it did her kidnappers. I appreciated the glimpses of her past that we received, particularly the one below:...more
I try to live each day finding the blessings and beauty in at least one thing...it sure does ... more

Do We Ever Really Leave High School?

Lissy Ryder, the main character in Jen Lancaster's new novel, Here I Go Again, never really left high school. She hit her peak during those four years and stopped growing and reaching. When she discovered there is life after high school it was a complete and total shock. While we may not all be like Lissy, I still see references every week online to things being just like high school....more
I used to wonder what happened to the people I went to high school with, since I graduated, ... more

Would You Maim a Buddy?

Now, hold on. I don't mean that the way it sounds, I promise! I like to read the author's notes and acknowledgements in books and Lisa Gardner's notes for Touch and Go were fascinating. I loved finding out how many characters in the book were named after real people....more
I'm not sure.  I thought about it when I saw the notes, but couldn't really think of anyone. more

Knowing Isn't Always Enough

In Lisa Gardner's new thriller, Touch and Go, the characters really knew better than to do many of things they did. The kidnappers knew that kidnapping a whole family was wrong. Libby knew taking drugs to numb the pain wasn't a good thing. Knowing something is right isn't always enough....more
I think that making the bad choices even when you know you shouldn't is just a small portion of ... more

Who Do You Want To Be?

When we first met Lissy Ryder in Jen Lancaster's novel Here I Go Again, she didn't know who she wanted to be. She was still focused on who she had been. Her high school days has been her glory days, so why should she want to be any different than she was in her teens? During the course of the novel she learns that if you stay who you were, you'll never become who you are supposed to be....more
I remember what I didn't want to be in high school.  And I was partially right, but I've learned ... more

Would You Like To Go Back In Time?

In Jen Lancaster's new novel, Here I Go Again, Lissy Ryder is given a potion that can help her right all her wrongs. Being the person she is, Lissy doesn't approach it cautiously. No, she throws it back like it's an espresso shot. When she wakes up and realizes she's back in the past -- back in high school -- she's elated. That would not be my reaction. ...more
I would like to go back as an observer...perhaps see things in a different way.  But I wouldn't ... more

Pain Has a Flavor

"Here is something I learned when I was eleven years old: Pain has a flavor. The question is, what does it taste like to you?" ...more
I found that concept interesting in reading the story...I can't really think of any food that I ... more

Music Tells Your Story

One of the things I probably identified the most with in Jen Lancaster's Here I Go Again were the discussions between Lissy and Brian about music. When you are teenager, few things feel bigger than the music you listen to in high school. It becomes the soundtrack for that part of your life, and you carry it with you going forward....more
I have always had very eclectic taste in music...in high school I listened to top 40, hair bands ... more

The 10 Year Plan

Before I read Kate and David Marshall's My Life Map: A Journal to Help Shape Your Future I would have told you that 10 year plans give me hives. One of the most dreaded questions in a job interview for me was always one about where I saw myself in five years. I still may not be exactly eager to plan out my life in 10 year chunks, but at least I know how that it's possible to do it in a way that doesn't cause me panic....more
That mapping and planning are good tools to take the someday I want to ideas and figure out how ... more