A Legacy of Love: Being Present and Strong

My dad was trying to tell me something a few days before he died. I don’t know what it was. As it did with my mom, the cancer wore down my dad’s body until he could no longer form words. My sister held the phone for him as he made noises. I could hear an urgency in the tones, as well a the effort he was making to be understood. It didn’t change anything. The sounds that came through to me weren’t quite grunts, but sad little staccatos that were nowhere near what he wanted to convey. ...more
" I just have a single goal: to work towards being the mom my dad always wished he had, which I ... more

Why Can't A Mom Enjoy Elf On The Shelf At Christmas?

Warning. A "cranky, I've had it rant" follows. Hang with me, okay? Well here we are, barely into the month of December and already I've seen more bitterness about what some moms do over others in terms of the Christmas season. I've already read an ugly handful of articles that mock moms just like me, with dozens of people patting them on the back. And you know what? I'm already sick of it. ...more
I love this post and wrote a very similar blog post about it last night after being inundated ... more

A Letter to the Moms of Mean Girls

I’d like to say a few things to their mothers: Your daughters are watching you. They look to you as an example of how to be a woman, so when you stand around in packs in order to whisper, and gossip, and cut other women down, don’t think they don’t notice. Remember, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree....more
Yes, Yes and Yes. Thoughtfully written and well-said. Thank you for writing and sharing. more

Things That Make Me Cry: Third Grade Projects

Do you want to know how to make me cry? Send my grade three boy home with an assignment that asks for stories from his baby days, complete with pictures. Because then, you see, I'd have to go into my walk-in closet, after the kids are in bed, and stand in front of the bookshelf that is bursting with photo albums. In the quiet -- without any little hands there to poke at the glossy pictures with their who, what, where, when and whys -- I can look for our story on those pages....more
@kgirl thanks girlie xo more

Things That Make Me Cry: Third Grade Projects

Do you want to know how to make me cry? Send my grade three boy home with an assignment that asks for stories from his baby days, complete with pictures. Because then, you see, I'd have to go into my walk-in closet, after the kids are in bed, and stand in front of the bookshelf that is bursting with photo albums. In the quiet -- without any little hands there to poke at the glossy pictures with their who, what, where, when and whys -- I can look for our story on those pages....more
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The Quiet Joy of Stealth Snuggling My Pre-Teen

She's eleven, almost twelve.Bedtime is no longer made up of begging for one more half hour of TV, then one more reading of her favorite book, or one more singing of "Morningtown Train" as we lay side-by-side and rock with the verses.Instead, we've evolved (devolved?) to "Put that phone away now," and, "You can't be doing your nails, it's bedtime," and, "I'm turning the light off. I mean it!"...more
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The Mother Daughter Dance: My Chance to Offer Unconditional Love

I'm about to lecture my grade five kid about the stuffing of her snow pants into the secret compartment of her backpack, when the memory of a winter coat creeps in and silences me like the overnight snowfall waiting for us on the other side of the front door....more
@JennaHatfield Yes, it's amazing how it can still unsettle after all these years. more

The Mother Daughter Dance: My Chance to Offer Unconditional Love

I'm about to lecture my grade five kid about the stuffing of her snow pants into the secret compartment of her backpack, when the memory of a winter coat creeps in and silences me like the overnight snowfall waiting for us on the other side of the front door....more
@alienbody Thank you. I am only on the cusp of teen years with this daughter. I am grateful for ... more

She Deserves a Room of Her Own

If ever there was a kid who deserved some space, it's this one -- our first-born. Besides four months of colic, she has gone easy on us. In fact, while we were busy growing our family, it seems she took it upon herself to become a beautiful, generous, and independent young lady....more
@JennaHatfield thank you Jenna. What a lovely thing to hear from a fellow (amazing) mom. xo more

She Deserves a Room of Her Own

If ever there was a kid who deserved some space, it's this one -- our first-born. Besides four months of colic, she has gone easy on us. In fact, while we were busy growing our family, it seems she took it upon herself to become a beautiful, generous, and independent young lady....more
@Ashleigh Burroughs she really is and I'm so proud of her grace in being there. Thank you for ... more