I Am Not My Son's Friend

The other day, I asked Zane to pick up his toys, and when he refused, we had words. "I am not your friend, Mama!" Zane stomped off--to pick up his toys. "Good," I fired back. "I am not your friend, either. I am your Mama." Parents can fill many roles in their children's lives: coach, teacher, cheerleader, mentor, confidant, nurse, protector, and hug-giver. Moms can stand-in for Dads, and Dads can stand-in for Moms. The one role that a parent can never be, however, is a friend....more

A few years back, I got into a major beef with a parent in a parenting workshop I was leading ... more

Health Treatments or Quackery?

In-between the space of logic, fear and belief is magical thinking. I will do just about anything to avoid a mammogram. I read the news story about Dr. Joseph Mercola's claims that thermography can be a replacement for mammograms -- that got my attention. ...more

mammograms that is. I get them yearly because I had two breast surgeries when I was a teenager ... more

Paying It Backwards

We often hear the phrase pay it forward. You do something good for someone, usually a stranger, as part of a chain of positive action. You pay forward because you often can’t pay back the particular person who did you a good deed. I recently have had an experience which allowed me to pay it backwards. I was able to return a favor to a friend who was very good to me when I was in college. She took me in when I had nowhere to go. She gave me food when I was hungry....more

What an incredible task of love to have to take care of someone with such a debilitating and ... more

Paying It Backwards

We often hear the phrase pay it forward. You do something good for someone, usually a stranger, as part of a chain of positive action. You pay forward because you often can’t pay back the particular person who did you a good deed. I recently have had an experience which allowed me to pay it backwards. I was able to return a favor to a friend who was very good to me when I was in college. She took me in when I had nowhere to go. She gave me food when I was hungry....more

Working with seniors and elders has opened my eyes as well. It is amazing how some people ... more

Sex and the Saxophonist

I almost had sex one night with a young, sexy saxophone player. It all began with a little IM sex. OK to be honest, it was more like IM foreplay. Either way, the IMing almost led to real-live sex, with a real-live sexy sax player. It would have been smoking hot too, if only he had a car instead of a bike; and by bike, I don’t mean a bad ass Harley or a racy Ducati, I mean a bi-cy-cle. As in a bike -- that you pedal -- like when your 15 year old boyfriend wants to bike over so you can make-out on your parents couch, that kind of bike. ...more

When water is thrown on an opportunity to have spontaneous sex especially with a new hot person ... more

The Value of Women's Work Can Change the Workplace

Isn't it amazing that Blatch made this argument 113 years ago? Her point still resonates today. A study released by the Center for American Progress shows that in the down economy, women increasingly became the sole breadwinners, despite the persistent wage gap, since men were being laid off at higher rates to trim companies' bottom line. More and more men defined themselves as "stay-at-home fathers." Women were fully half the paid workforce as of last year, and because women were concentrated in lower paying jobs were less likely to be laid off. ...more

The value of work, knowing the value of your work, being compensated by the value of your work ... more

I’m An Environmentalist and I’m Not Having Kids

It would be easy for me to feel self-righteous about my decision not to breed. According to many thinkers, population is the number one factor driving such problems as global climate change, pollution, and hunger. And children born and raised in affluent nations have a significantly higher impact on the planet than those born to more modest means. As one of my blogger friends put it, population “relates to everything – including the amount of plastic crap circulating in the ocean.” ...more

Especially in this country, most women know that they have a choice as to whether to have ... more

Bad Feminist Confessions: “I Just Wish I Could Be Thin.”

Despite what I’ve written about how the beauty ideal harms people (especially young women), I find it a lot easier to not judge others by the way they look than to avoid judging myself. Since I don’t admit on my blog that I, too, get bothered by weight gain or that I feel guilty when I don’t exercise, it’s no wonder that other people get the impression I have “great self-confidence.” Don’t get me wrong -- I do think my body image is better than it’s ever been before in my life and I’ve never been less fixated on my appearance. Still, that doesn’t mean I don’t also have plenty of days when I wake up feeling … well, fat. ...more

from the media, from other people, and finally from ourselves make it impossible not to learn ... more

An Interview With Ruth Reichl

I was on cloud nine when Ruth Reichl’s agent called me back to say she was interested in accepting my interview request. Granted, she was already going to be in my neck of the woods, but still, she’s one of the most influential female food writers ever, and it was something my little food blogging heart was excited about. ...more

I've read two or three of her books and fell in love with her writing. I even saw another food ... more

The Mother Goose Code

Somehow my children's pediatrician and I recently got to discussing the origins of "Ring Around the Rosie." Anyhoo, he seemed kind of surprised that I knew it was about the Bubonic Plague and it got me to wondering: What other nursery rhymes have a deeper, darker meaning behind them? ...more

I love learning more about the original meanings of these rhymes - highly political, mean, ... more