How Come I'm the Only One Who Kept My Maiden Name?

My name is Christie O’Brien Tate. It's the name I’ve had all my life.  It will always be my name, even though I'm married with two children, and I'm the only one in my household with the last name Tate.  For as long as I can remember, I planned to keep my maiden name.  Long before I read the work of Betty Friedan or Catharine MacKinnon, I knew I wanted my name to stay with me. Sometimes when people ask me why I kept my maiden name, I joke that I'm horrible with paperwork, so there's no way I was going to schlep down to the DMV to update my driver’s license. ...more
I have kept my maiden name. It's been 11 and a half years and I can't exactly say why. It wasn't ... more

I Used to Have Ann Romney's Life. I Had Privilege.

Note: This piece was fueled by exasperation and inspired by two excellent blogs posts -- by Grace Hwang Lynch and Pamela Kripke -- that urge those who "got privilege" to name it. I used to have Ann Romney's life. The first time around I married into a family that was rich. Romney Rich....more
While you've probably hit the nail on the head about privilege, I feel that the nuance in the ... more

Far Too Many People Have Been Hurt by Good Intentions

They say there's no such thing as a dumb question, but that's not true. There is such a thing as a dumb question. "When are you guys going to start your family?" "Are you going to try for a girl?" "Are you pregnant yet?" "Shouldn't you be working on baby number two by now?" They're all dumb questions. Unless you know the story, it's really none of your business. You shouldn't ask....more
Questions can be hurtful. I am infertile and I understand that I am sensitive and I do my best ... more