The Lord Looks at the Heart: When My Son Became My Daughter

I am the mom of the little girl called A.J., who was recently profiled in the Kansas City Star. As surprised as I was to find my family in the paper, I am also incredibly proud. ...more
This is so wonderful. Thank you for this xoxoxoxo.  You are doing an amazing job as a mother ... more

Giving Birth to a Unicorn: When Your Child Comes Out as Transgender

I thought I was liberal. I thought I'd evolved from the person I was in my youth: conservative, religious, and specific to this post, a hater of gays and lesbians. It's been a long and frequently shameful road to the person I am now (or the person I thought I was now). The person I am now truly believed that I was a good person, a someone who accepted the LGBT community wholeheartedly. ...more
kario The woman from TYFA actually recommended that book to me! His book on depression is very ... more

Giving Birth to a Unicorn: When Your Child Comes Out as Transgender

I thought I was liberal. I thought I'd evolved from the person I was in my youth: conservative, religious, and specific to this post, a hater of gays and lesbians. It's been a long and frequently shameful road to the person I am now (or the person I thought I was now). The person I am now truly believed that I was a good person, a someone who accepted the LGBT community wholeheartedly. ...more
lenore1312, kilo, and others:  I haven't been on Blogher for a while. I've been struggling with ... more

I Thought My Mom Was Angry and Cold, But She Was Just Keeping Her Multiple Sclerosis Diagnosis a Secret

When I was a young child, I always thought my mom was angry most of her life because she didn't want us, wished she hadn't had kids, didn't like being a mom. Then, when she passed away five years ago, I had the chance to read some of her old journals (she made an entry every single day for most of her life) and began to understand that in actuality, she embraced motherhood and her kids with a huge amount of enthusiasm. In her early entries, she was giddily happy about having kids and a family, and wrote long entries about how wonderful it was to be a mother and how happy she was, being married with kids. ...more
My God. I cannot imagine how tough she must have been, to shoulder that burden entirely. I'm ... more

Remembering Philip Seymour Hoffman in Some of His Best Roles

I'm tremendously sad to hear that actor Philip Seymour Hoffman died today at age 46, of what the New York Times called "an apparent drug overdose." I have for so long admired his ability to capture a tortured soul -- to make me empathize with even the very creepiest people -- that I think the best tribute is to let his work speak for itself. Read on for my favorites of his roles (in no particular order). ...more
I've been wanting to see "Before the devil knows you're dead" for a while now. I can't believe ... more

Why I Destroy My Books

Some people handle books so tenderly that even after they’ve read one cover to cover, it looks untouched. They turn each page carefully, and always use bookmarks. They refrain from cracking the spine. They never eat as they read, so the pages aren’t dotted with red sauce or spotted with chocolate. And they wouldn’t dream of leaving a book lying around where their Yorkie-poo (or toddler) might nibble the corners. ...more
This is a great post. Just terrific, very well written.  I love this idea, moving into a book, ... more

'The Circle' Shows the Future of Social Media as a Privacy Nightmare

When my best friend emailed and said "You must read 'The Circle' IMMEDIATELY," I didn't question. I looked up the title on the library web site, ordered an audio copy and went back to my pile of grading. A couple days later, she inquired as to my progress on the book--the super creepy and terrifying book, she now admitted--and I assured her it was on the way and I would read as soon as possible. Dave Eggers, author of The Circle. Image: © Beowulf Sheehan/ZUMA Press ...more
Have you read the one that this one is supposed to have ... more

Why Miley Cyrus Isn't Justin Timberlake

Justin Timberlake performed for almost 20 minutes at the 2013 MTV Video Music Awards. Wearing a suit and a dapper hat, he covered most of his greatest hits, highlighted a few tracks from his latest album "The 20/20 Experience,” and reunited with his former band 'N Sync. He danced, crooned, swaggered, played electric piano, and took over Barclays Center with his talent, charisma, and prowess....more
@ALT Well said. more

Why Miley Cyrus Isn't Justin Timberlake

Justin Timberlake performed for almost 20 minutes at the 2013 MTV Video Music Awards. Wearing a suit and a dapper hat, he covered most of his greatest hits, highlighted a few tracks from his latest album "The 20/20 Experience,” and reunited with his former band 'N Sync. He danced, crooned, swaggered, played electric piano, and took over Barclays Center with his talent, charisma, and prowess....more
@RobynsHealthyLiving Yes! And his fumbling, smirking defenses about his rapey, misogynistic song ... more

Why Miley Cyrus Isn't Justin Timberlake

Justin Timberlake performed for almost 20 minutes at the 2013 MTV Video Music Awards. Wearing a suit and a dapper hat, he covered most of his greatest hits, highlighted a few tracks from his latest album "The 20/20 Experience,” and reunited with his former band 'N Sync. He danced, crooned, swaggered, played electric piano, and took over Barclays Center with his talent, charisma, and prowess....more
@14th.st.vintage I don't agree at all.  R Thicke is a one trick boring pony, to be sure, but ... more