The Exercise That Opened My Eyes to White Privilege

I used to be what I would consider "white privilege neutral." I believed it existed, but I unknowingly had the wrong definition in my head. I thought that white privilege was class exclusive, and that it was really only financially pertinent. ...more
Fascinating. Thank you so much for sharing this. more

Has Blogging Lost Her Soul?

As BlogHer approaches its big 10th year conference in San Jose, long-time bloggers, including many who attended the first conference in 2005, are reflecting on a decade of creativity and community. Most agree on this— blogging has brought us the joy of expression and community. It has given us opportunities, broadened our horizons, and introduced us to life-long friends. But behind the scenes, in emails and in private Facebook groups, we are whispering the other side of the story. Blogging has lost something. Blogging has lost her soul....more
I love this! For many years I felt like my blog was lame because it wasn't necessarily "about" ... more

My Kid Is Transgender. Her Life Has Changed. Our Family Has Changed.

I haven't been writing much lately. I feel like a non-writing jerk who doesn't have her priorities straight. But my heart's just not in it. My heart is elsewhere, with a kid who is having a tough time and needs her mom. ...more
I don't have much to add to the all the wonderful comments below. I just wanted to say that I ... more

Single Mom Budget Crisis

Month after month, it goes like this:...more
I relate. I went into financial crisis after my divorce -- and it turns out, we were on the ... more

7 Things I Knew In My 20s. I Was Wrong.

It's astonishing now to think back and recall myself in my 20s, and kind of mortifying, too. Because I thought I knew a lot back then. And I was absolutely right about some things. Two plus two, it turns out, does equal four. I was all over that one. But here are some theories I once believed to be true, and I'd walk around and say them out loud with certainty to anyone who would listen. Be happy you didn't know me. ...more
I really like the point about not being able to relax until everything is perfect. I did that ... more

Lessons Learned From The One That Got Away

It was Christmas break of my sophomore year of college, and I was in Kmart, of all places. My mom had dropped me at the local mall before heading off to do an errand and I had some time to kill. I thought a little retail therapy (on a scale that my college student self could afford) might do me some good....more
Dammit. Now I need closure on Ernie too!The helpless (hapless?) romantic in me hopes that ... more

No More Parenting on the Sidelines: Things I Want My Kids to Know

I don't want to be a side line parent. Always cheering for my kids in the crowd, instead of actively engaging with them.I want to follow my kids lead, instead of living vicariously through them. I want to celebrate their differences and appreciate the uniqueness of them....more
This was so great. I have to admit, when I ready the headline I was bracing myself for a good ... more

10 Bloggers Respond to Mrs. Hall's Letter with Thoughts on Slut-Shaming, Respect, and Selfies

As a mom of two boys, I have high hopes of teaching them many important lessons. Things like compassion and acceptance, the importance of education and hard work, the benefit of a leap of faith versus never trying due to fear of failure, and of course, respect. Respect remains one of those Big Things in our home -- for all people, in all ways, both physically and emotionally. You don't get to be a jerk just because you think you can, neither do you get to put your hands on someone else. As such, my gut-reaction to the now viral letter that Mrs. Hall wrote to teenage girls posting "seductive" selfies on Instagram and thus tempting her precious sons... well... I'm having a hard time with the general concept. ...more
Thanks for this. It was good to see some other perspectives. I read the original post with a ... more

The Day I Almost Put My Child in a Dumpster

So who else went dumpster diving last weekend? Saturday was one of those high-intensity parenting days where the kids fought all day -- loudly and with much enthusiasm -- at home and in public. Mommy (that’s me) had no patience left. Mommy (again, me) had already texted this message to another mom who was bringing her son over for a playdate that evening:There is no beer in my house but if you would like to bring some I wouldn’t complain. ...more
@TheBlackTortoise  Now that I think about it, maybe I should've had my son go in? He probably ... more

The Day I Almost Put My Child in a Dumpster

So who else went dumpster diving last weekend? Saturday was one of those high-intensity parenting days where the kids fought all day -- loudly and with much enthusiasm -- at home and in public. Mommy (that’s me) had no patience left. Mommy (again, me) had already texted this message to another mom who was bringing her son over for a playdate that evening:There is no beer in my house but if you would like to bring some I wouldn’t complain. ...more
@Denise I love you a little bit for saying that. ;-) more