Permission To Be You

The road to self-acceptance can be a rocky one with lots of twists and turns. When I think back to some of the paths I attempted as a teen I kind of cringe. In her memoir, Let's Pretend This Never Happened, Jenny Lawson got some help on that path thanks to her father, a turkey named Jenkins, and an incident in the public school library....more
I used to care so much what people thought about me - but as I've gotten older I've realized ... more

What is Your Confidence Wig?

There are days when we all need a little help -- a confidence boost. When we are in a situation that makes us nervous or anxious a little thing can make big difference. Jenny Lawson has found things that help deal with her anxiety disorder. She documents many of these in her memoir, Let's Pretend This Never Happened, and one of my favorites is something that we can all do in our own way -- confidence wigs. ...more
Definitely a good hair/makeup day! RIght now I'm pregnant and have a big belly that for whatever ... more

Friends Help Make Breakups Bearable

I don't think there's really any way to say it except this -- breakups suck. Whether you are prepared for them, are the person doing the breaking up, or if you are blindsided by them, they just simply suck. We might pretend everything is ok and go through our days telling everyone that we are just fine, but friends know better. They know when we're lying to them and when we're lying to ourselves....more
When a friend is going through a breakup I just pour the wine and listen. You don't want to say ... more

Which of the New Winter Movies Do You Want to See?

If you love movies, we are now entering the best time of year for visiting the silver screen. Many of the studios release their blockbusters and potential award winners at the end of the year. They are hoping the voters for Golden Globes and the Oscars will take notice of their efforts if they release closer to the time of the ceremonies....more
I saw an advanced screening of Lincoln on Wednesday and Daniel Day Lewis is AMAZING.  The whole ... more

Using Texts To Strengthen Your Relationship

I firmly believe that technology had changed how we do relationships. When we are apart from our loved ones we don't just have to rely on phone calls and letters. We have emails, social media, and yes, even text messages at our disposal as a means to communicate. Sometimes it's easier to put our thoughts out via text than it is in person, as Sophie Morgan discovered in Diary of a Submissive:...more
My husband and I text when we are at work -- or the kids do something cute/sweet/funny and one ... more

Using the Internet to Find Your Community

The process of finding your community has changed a lot since the internet came into being. It used to be that we'd have to head out in our actual physical community and attempt to find the people with the same interests as us. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't. If it didn't work, you could feel very isolated. When the internet came along, we could find and connect with people that shared those interests from all around the world....more
I started participating in online communities when I got married (10 years ago) and it felt like ... more

Where Do You Find Confidence?

Confidence takes many forms. We can have confidence in our abilities. We can have confidence in our personal relationships. Most of all, we can have confidence in ourselves. In Diary of a Submissive, Sophie Morgan shares her story about how she found the confidence to not only take what life threw at her, but also to seek the things she really wanted in life. ...more
In my 20s I would have answered this as "I feel confident when I'm dressed up and my husband ... more