I Just Ended a 7-Year Relationship: I Walked Away from My Doctorate

I began to ask myself the question: What would it take for me to love myself, right now, as I am, even if I didn’t achieve a doctoral degree?...more
PaulineJennett Thank you very much for taking time to read and comment...and for recognizing ...more

Composers, Comparisons, & a Light bulb

One of my favorite movies of all time is Amadeus. In my essay, “Music and Beer, (p. 60)” I talk at length about being taken to see that movie by my music teacher when I was a young child, and how the movie began my love affair with classical music and my adoration of the brilliant composer, Wolfgang Amadeus Mozart. To this day, I feel love anytime I hear any of Mozart’s music or play one of his pieces on my flute....more
I loved AMADEUS too, and think you have named the real point of it. Even if we are not as good ...more

Cross Post: Sort of a Book Review/More Personal Experience - Perfect Daughters

I came across this book called, Perfect Daughters: Adult Daughters of Alcoholics about a year and a half ago…towards the beginning of my recovery. It’s a book that has been around for awhile and is written by Dr. Robert J. Ackerman. I thought the subject as well as the title was fascinating. The author explores the Adult Child of an Alcoholic (ACA) phenomenon from the female perspective…or the perspective of being an adult daughter. In my own experience, one of the aspects of being an “adult daughter” is this need to be perfect while simultaneously feeling inadequate....more
I don't know if you are blogging anymore, but I just published a book about healing from abuse ...more

From Shiny Hair to Kinky Hair - It's All Beautiful

Hair is pretty serious business...both commercially and personally. I wouldn't even say that our culture's obsession with hair is specific to women...or to a specific culture. Men and women across cultures want to have and maintain a healthy head of beautiful hair. However, the challenge for African American women holds a few special challenges because of our history and many of our misconceptions about beauty....more

Cross Post: Normal, Unique, & Crazy

Every normal person, in fact, is only normal on the average. His ego approximates to that of the psychotic in some part or other and to a greater or lesser extent. -Sigmund FreudIf you want to know a way to make me really upset, simply respond to any challenge or problem that I’m having with one of these phrases (or something like it):But everybody has that problem.orWe all have that issue.or...more
@SunbonnetSmart.com  @Barbarahughes Heyyyy Robin! Yes, so sorry I've been away! The light will ...more

Cross Post: Loving My Inner Child

I am a mom to two kids. First, I am a mom to my Samson kitty. And second, I am a mom to my own inner child. This “child” lives within me.  She is the little girl that I once denied, but now welcome and nurture with open arms. I am now a parent to her the way I would be to any child. She is the sweet little girl that I protect when the world wants to harm her.She…is ME....more

Cross Post: What Kind of Ugly Does God Like?

Last Thursday, I was standing at the bus stop waiting for the bus along with a few other people. It was raining hard, and it had been raining all morning. A van came speeding by splashing water on the curb, and as a result splashed water on a guy who was standing close to the curb. The guy quickly began to shake the water off of him while pulling out a cigarette. The van was long gone because the vehicle was moving so quickly through the rain to make the light....more

Cross Post: Lessons in Farming or Life?

The Lord will guide you continually, giving you water when you are dry and restoring your strength. You will be like a well-watered garden, like an ever-flowing spring. -Isaiah 58:11 (NLT)...more

Cross Post: Stuck in the Middle...

Greetings fellow bloggers, writing fans, and readers!(That made me feel important) ...more

Cross Post: Accept that Love is Enough

“Acceptance is not about liking a situation. It is about acknowledging all that has been lost and learning to live with that loss.” -Elizabeth Kubler-Ross & David Kessler from On Grief and Grieving...more