The Natural Hair Movement Is Good for Our Daughters

I can still recall sitting between my mother’s legs as she struggled to comb my very tightly curled hair when I was 3 or 4 years old. Back then it was called nappy hair, and my mother was absolutely at odds with my naps. She herself had loose, curly hair and could manage her own quite easily with water and some type of conditioner. ...more
Love this post. I've been natural for the past 2 years, and I must say it has been a journey. A ... more

Caregiver Island: My Family Won't Help Me Take Care of My Mother

I write this anonymously, but I have to confess: A lot of times I feel like I have no family support. I'm not talking about social services or the help from the family I live with. Their help is tremendous. No, I'm talking about my immediate family. Most days I feel alone out here on Caregiver Island....more
Thanks for sharing your story. I, too am "solamente" when it comes to caring for my mom. My ... more

You Can Be Very Successful and Still Be Depressed

The day after news broke that actor Robin Williams died by suicide, a local TV news station interviewed me about my personal experience living with depression. (I like to say “living with depression” because you can still manage it and have a quality life.) Most of the responses to my interview have been positive and encouraging. I received an email from someone I knew from high school. She sang my praises of professional and personal success, especially since I was a black woman raised in East Oakland. She suggested that when I’m depressed to remember the women around the world less fortunate than I am who would give their right arm to have my life because of my achievements. ...more
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I Just Ended a 7-Year Relationship: I Walked Away from My Doctorate

I began to ask myself the question: What would it take for me to love myself, right now, as I am, even if I didn’t achieve a doctoral degree?...more
PaulineJennett Thank you very much for taking time to read and comment...and for recognizing ... more

I Just Ended a 7-Year Relationship: I Walked Away from My Doctorate

I began to ask myself the question: What would it take for me to love myself, right now, as I am, even if I didn’t achieve a doctoral degree?...more
PTBLatina Thank you so much! I love that you say "I can go back when I am ready." That is so ... more

My Alcoholic Father Made Me A Better Mom

My father was hilarious and creative and the best friend that a guy with a truck stuck in a ditch at 4 am could have. He was intelligent and hard-working and the life of the party. He could strum a guitar and build a tree house and fix a satellite dish. He was a great friend and employee, and I thought he was a great father. It wasn't until I grew up that I realized he was a crappy dad and husband. ...more
I love the transparency in this post. I'm a part of the club. Grew up with an alcoholic dad. And ... more

I Just Ended a 7-Year Relationship: I Walked Away from My Doctorate

I began to ask myself the question: What would it take for me to love myself, right now, as I am, even if I didn’t achieve a doctoral degree?...more
JoyPageManuel Thanks for the comment and for the congratulations. It's so difficult to discern ... more

I Just Ended a 7-Year Relationship: I Walked Away from My Doctorate

I began to ask myself the question: What would it take for me to love myself, right now, as I am, even if I didn’t achieve a doctoral degree?...more
LucretiaReed Thank you Lucretia! It's so funny how we can get wrapped up in what we do instead ... more

I Just Ended a 7-Year Relationship: I Walked Away from My Doctorate

I began to ask myself the question: What would it take for me to love myself, right now, as I am, even if I didn’t achieve a doctoral degree?...more
Rita Arens Thank you so much for the feature! Yes, the decision was tough, but the good thing is ... more

I Broke Up With My Best Friend

Three years ago, I broke up with my best friend. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done—we've known each other for thirty-five years. I know it was the right decision, but there are many days when I still miss her....more
Thank you for this post and your openness and honesty. It came right on time for me as a ... more