My, What a Big Cart You Have: Breaking Down Two-Seater Carts

I think I rejoiced -- loudly -- the day my oldest son decided he was "too big" for a cart at the store. Pushing those obnoxious, hard to handle, gargantuan two-seater carts through any store was always such a hassle. Kristi at Table for 3 4 recently broke down the differences in carts at various stores and, oh, did she make me laugh. Do you use two-seater carts? Which is your favorite? ...more
i keep eyeing off the baby seat next to infant seat ones at our supermarket thinking baby's ... more

We Are Killing Our Children

I believe structure is killing our children. We offer them so much structured learning and play time that they are never put into a situation where they have to be inventive and brave. They NEVER have to learn to figure things out for themselves. Yes, in order to get a child to do what you want when you want, the best way is to create a schedule for them. Structure the basics like meals, potty and sleep so as to structure them from the inside out. This way it is easy to get them used to your schedule and way of doing things. And I agree with this type of structure....more
first of thanks for another well written article and for giving me something to think about ... more

A Stranger Picked Up My Child and Walked Away

And then it happened. A total stranger picked up my child. She didn't ask. In fact, she TOOK him from me. I'm standing there holding Asher's hand as he danced next to me, while with my other hand I was recording Angela and Axel dancing. I was HOLDING his hand. I thought Dean had picked him up, only turned to find a total stranger had not only picked up my child, but was walking away with him....more
the only time i ever did anything even close to this i was about 14 and at the park with my ... more

Special Kids Need Adult Role Models

Leo's kind of autism is not subtle. It's intense. He's not much for speaking, or reacting to questions in expected ways -- though he usually does hear what's said, and respond in his own way. Sometimes his autism means exuberant whooping and galloping in great big circles with no concern for social propriety. Many people assume Leo wouldn't have much in common with Zoe, an autistic college student -- probably because Zoe can speak in a more typical manner than Leo. That doesn't mean she's not autistic -- it means others don't always perceive the effort she puts into communicating and getting through her day....more
 @Squashed Mom i think i want that shirt :) more

Special Kids Need Adult Role Models

Leo's kind of autism is not subtle. It's intense. He's not much for speaking, or reacting to questions in expected ways -- though he usually does hear what's said, and respond in his own way. Sometimes his autism means exuberant whooping and galloping in great big circles with no concern for social propriety. Many people assume Leo wouldn't have much in common with Zoe, an autistic college student -- probably because Zoe can speak in a more typical manner than Leo. That doesn't mean she's not autistic -- it means others don't always perceive the effort she puts into communicating and getting through her day....more
(i apologise for typos in advance i'm very tired and my spellcheck doesn't work on this ... more

indirect critisism- how i became silent for a month.

Since my last post I have been very quiet. I have commented only hesitantly where before I did so freely and without fear. I have been learning to deal with criticism....more
 @victorias_view thanks.. the hard part was i got to trying to work out what was wrong with it... more

Drug-Free or C-Section: Giving Birth Is the Least Important Thing You'll Do as a Mom

How important can birthing be to motherhood if someone else can do it for you and it doesn’t affect the way you mother at all? It is kind of an ordinary biological process when it comes down to it. And if that is the case, it can’t really matter that much to your baby if he or she is born au natural in a birth center, or if you’re opened up for retrieval. I can pretty much guarantee that your baby couldn't care less. The end result for them was the same. I’m not arguing that birth is not important. I’m just arguing that it is a moment. And it is a moment that, in the long run, doesn’t really matter to your baby at all....more
i'm choosing a natural birth this time for my second. not because i 'love my baby more' but ... more

Midlife and Tattoos: Why I Ink

No, I am not barreling at the speed of light toward a midlife crisis, I'd like to squash that idea right now.Yes, I realize that at 40-something many people are removing their tattoos not getting them.No, I am not desperately clinging to my youth by pretending to be edgy and cool - I'm ALREADY edgy and cool, just ask my kids and then ignore their snorts and eye-rolling. Yes, I may possibly be out of my mind, but the crazy is what keeps y'all coming back for more so I'm  unleashing a whirling dervish of it here in today's post. You're welcome....more
i unfortunatly have a tatoo i regret. not for the reasons or the image (which has a tiny mistake ... more

UPS is making grilled cheese now?

 "Mom, the baby is eating the dirt in the flower pots! Don't worry though because he likes it!" - Ever helpful older twin brothers.I didn't have time to make lunches this morning. It doesn't happen often and I get all kinds of stink eyes from Peter and my husband Jim if I tell them they are buying their lunch. Jim because he doesn't want to spend money on lunch and Peter because he is a food snob!...more
thankyou thankyou thankyou i just spent a large chunk of my day reading through every one of ... more

Child is Missing. The Store is Eating Kids Again.

I have never "lost" a child when we are out and about.  I know it can happen easily and I also know we have been fortunate with three boys and twins to boot.  it is common knowledge, to parents of twins, that twins only run in opposite directions. If you ever see a set of toddler twins with their ankles tied together, don't judge.  I knew our youngest wasn't really, "MISSING!" ...more
we had a largish family (five kids) and most of us  were around 18 mths between i still remember ... more