A Post That's Been Literally YEARS In The Making: I'VE GOT A BOOK DEAL!!

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Karen Ballum Thanks!! Worked my ass off for it!! more

Ashley Madison Data Is Outing Thousands Of Cheaters, and I Can't Be Happy About That

The news is all abuzz with reports of the Ashley Madison hack, and how it's outing prominent people in the government, giving data to where cheaters live and work, and casting a harsh, glaring light on hypocritical public figures. As a woman who's been on the other side of the cheating equation, you'd think I'd be dancing a gleeful little dance, and I'm honest enough to admit that part of me did just that. See cheaters? This is what happens! No matter how careful you think you are, the seeds you sow grow into giant monstrous things that always, always devour the best of your worst intentions. But then I think about it - really think about it. ...more
My point is that the families are suffering right along with them (male or female, whoever the ... more

Ashley Madison Data Is Outing Thousands Of Cheaters, and I Can't Be Happy About That

The news is all abuzz with reports of the Ashley Madison hack, and how it's outing prominent people in the government, giving data to where cheaters live and work, and casting a harsh, glaring light on hypocritical public figures. As a woman who's been on the other side of the cheating equation, you'd think I'd be dancing a gleeful little dance, and I'm honest enough to admit that part of me did just that. See cheaters? This is what happens! No matter how careful you think you are, the seeds you sow grow into giant monstrous things that always, always devour the best of your worst intentions. But then I think about it - really think about it. ...more
Absolutely right - I was only (sadly) speaking from personal experience. more

Ashley Madison Data Is Outing Thousands Of Cheaters, and I Can't Be Happy About That

The news is all abuzz with reports of the Ashley Madison hack, and how it's outing prominent people in the government, giving data to where cheaters live and work, and casting a harsh, glaring light on hypocritical public figures. As a woman who's been on the other side of the cheating equation, you'd think I'd be dancing a gleeful little dance, and I'm honest enough to admit that part of me did just that. See cheaters? This is what happens! No matter how careful you think you are, the seeds you sow grow into giant monstrous things that always, always devour the best of your worst intentions. But then I think about it - really think about it. ...more
Oh yes, we do. And you're very right - kids grow up and put two and two together all on their own. more

Ashley Madison Data Is Outing Thousands Of Cheaters, and I Can't Be Happy About That

The news is all abuzz with reports of the Ashley Madison hack, and how it's outing prominent people in the government, giving data to where cheaters live and work, and casting a harsh, glaring light on hypocritical public figures. As a woman who's been on the other side of the cheating equation, you'd think I'd be dancing a gleeful little dance, and I'm honest enough to admit that part of me did just that. See cheaters? This is what happens! No matter how careful you think you are, the seeds you sow grow into giant monstrous things that always, always devour the best of your worst intentions. But then I think about it - really think about it. ...more
MariaHawkSanMiguel I agree - the spouse needs to know. But having it broadcast on a billboard ... more

I Was Late To Work Today Because My Son Has Autism

 I was late to work today....more
Vic_kies Yeah, I'm really lucky in that! more

A Surprise Visit from an Old Lover

He slid into my car, leaned over and kissed my neck. Nothing had changed in thirty years. He still thought I wanted him to kiss my neck. Never mind that I’d been married to someone else for twenty-five years, raised four children, and was a grandmother. I was 30 when he was kissing my neck in earnest. Now I was 60....more
This was so beautifully and poignantly written. Amazing piece. more

One Good Reason to Blog Under a Pseudonym

My friend Karen announced her move from her semi-anonymous blog to her real-name space. I wish her all the strength and healing she can find in combining her separate pieces into one whole. I've always written under a pseudonym, and I have no reason to think that will change. I have no burning reasons to keep my identity secret, but I do prefer to keep my real name and my blog mostly-unconnected by Google. ...more
I have blogged under a pen name for years, and I wouldn't have it any other way. I remember ... more

I Knew I Loved You Before I Met You, but Some Days I Don't Like You Very Much

I hate fighting with my daughter. I mean, I really, really hate it. Yes, she's a teenager. Yes, I'm a periomenopausal woman. Those two things often collide with the force of a fifty megaton nuclear explosion, but I just can't shrug it off like other moms do. ...more
I can see your point, but I don't hate my daughter. She might irk me to the point of crazy ... more

An Affair Strengthened My Marriage

It began as a typical Saturday night out with my closest women friends. But on that particular evening as we sat, laughed and talked in a popular New York restaurant, acquaintances were seated nearby celebrating their friend Alex's* birthday. They invited us to join their table for a toast, which turned into several. When the house music came on and everyone headed for the bar, Alex — handsome and playful — took my hand and led me to the dance floor. ...more
Your "affair" is far from over. Affairs aren't about sex. They're about lies, secrecy and ... more