One Good Reason to Blog Under a Pseudonym

My friend Karen announced her move from her semi-anonymous blog to her real-name space. I wish her all the strength and healing she can find in combining her separate pieces into one whole. I've always written under a pseudonym, and I have no reason to think that will change. I have no burning reasons to keep my identity secret, but I do prefer to keep my real name and my blog mostly-unconnected by Google. ...more
I have blogged under a pen name for years, and I wouldn't have it any other way. I remember ... more

I Knew I Loved You Before I Met You, but Some Days I Don't Like You Very Much

I hate fighting with my daughter. I mean, I really, really hate it. Yes, she's a teenager. Yes, I'm a periomenopausal woman. Those two things often collide with the force of a fifty megaton nuclear explosion, but I just can't shrug it off like other moms do. ...more
I can see your point, but I don't hate my daughter. She might irk me to the point of crazy ... more

An Affair Strengthened My Marriage

It began as a typical Saturday night out with my closest women friends. But on that particular evening as we sat, laughed and talked in a popular New York restaurant, acquaintances were seated nearby celebrating their friend Alex's* birthday. They invited us to join their table for a toast, which turned into several. When the house music came on and everyone headed for the bar, Alex — handsome and playful — took my hand and led me to the dance floor. ...more
Your "affair" is far from over. Affairs aren't about sex. They're about lies, secrecy and ... more

VIDEO: New 'Fifty Shades of Grey' Trailer Teases with Masterful Foreplay

I admit to being baffled at the undeniable popularity of the Fifty Shades of Grey franchise. But millions of fans get it, or want to get it on with Christian and/or Anastasia. Author E.L. James' trilogy of books are New York Times bestsellers to the tune of over 100 million copies sold, which is incredibly impressive for any book, let alone what is essentially erotic fan fiction. ...more
I would watch this, no matter how bad it is, just for Jamie Dornan alone. I fell in love with ... more

Dear "Nice Guy," You May Not Be As Nice As You Think You Are

Dear "Nice Guy", Hi! Yes, I see you there. You've made a point of being around me, and like lots of nice guys I've known through the years, you're interested in being more than just the nice guy who's hanging around me. Maybe you've watched me dating guys who are, in your opinion, vastly inferior in what they can offer me compared to you. Maybe I've been dumped, heartbroken, even possibly abused by guys like that, and there you are, so nice, so perfect for me if I'd only open my eyes and see it, waiting in the wings for me to notice you. ...more
funkyzoom I have to disagree. While there are plenty of guys out there who prioritize sex over ... more

Dear "Nice Guy," You May Not Be As Nice As You Think You Are

Dear "Nice Guy", Hi! Yes, I see you there. You've made a point of being around me, and like lots of nice guys I've known through the years, you're interested in being more than just the nice guy who's hanging around me. Maybe you've watched me dating guys who are, in your opinion, vastly inferior in what they can offer me compared to you. Maybe I've been dumped, heartbroken, even possibly abused by guys like that, and there you are, so nice, so perfect for me if I'd only open my eyes and see it, waiting in the wings for me to notice you. ...more
TerriLynnMerritts SingleMomtism missoulagrace Good point! I know many fabulously hot older women. more

Dear "Nice Guy," You May Not Be As Nice As You Think You Are

Dear "Nice Guy", Hi! Yes, I see you there. You've made a point of being around me, and like lots of nice guys I've known through the years, you're interested in being more than just the nice guy who's hanging around me. Maybe you've watched me dating guys who are, in your opinion, vastly inferior in what they can offer me compared to you. Maybe I've been dumped, heartbroken, even possibly abused by guys like that, and there you are, so nice, so perfect for me if I'd only open my eyes and see it, waiting in the wings for me to notice you. ...more
TerriLynnMerritts Oh, I've dated plenty of genuinely nice guys, as well. Even married one, who ... more

Dear "Nice Guy," You May Not Be As Nice As You Think You Are

Dear "Nice Guy", Hi! Yes, I see you there. You've made a point of being around me, and like lots of nice guys I've known through the years, you're interested in being more than just the nice guy who's hanging around me. Maybe you've watched me dating guys who are, in your opinion, vastly inferior in what they can offer me compared to you. Maybe I've been dumped, heartbroken, even possibly abused by guys like that, and there you are, so nice, so perfect for me if I'd only open my eyes and see it, waiting in the wings for me to notice you. ...more
peterparkergreen You know, that's a very good and valid point. When you have strong feelings and ... more

Dear "Nice Guy," You May Not Be As Nice As You Think You Are

Dear "Nice Guy", Hi! Yes, I see you there. You've made a point of being around me, and like lots of nice guys I've known through the years, you're interested in being more than just the nice guy who's hanging around me. Maybe you've watched me dating guys who are, in your opinion, vastly inferior in what they can offer me compared to you. Maybe I've been dumped, heartbroken, even possibly abused by guys like that, and there you are, so nice, so perfect for me if I'd only open my eyes and see it, waiting in the wings for me to notice you. ...more
missoulagrace And I do apologize if I come off sounding like I put myself in the "pretty girl" ... more

Dear "Nice Guy," You May Not Be As Nice As You Think You Are

Dear "Nice Guy", Hi! Yes, I see you there. You've made a point of being around me, and like lots of nice guys I've known through the years, you're interested in being more than just the nice guy who's hanging around me. Maybe you've watched me dating guys who are, in your opinion, vastly inferior in what they can offer me compared to you. Maybe I've been dumped, heartbroken, even possibly abused by guys like that, and there you are, so nice, so perfect for me if I'd only open my eyes and see it, waiting in the wings for me to notice you. ...more
missoulagrace I didn't say I only want bad boys, just that I have, occasionally, dated them. I ... more