The Day You Left Me

Most of all, thank you for leaving me the blanket for when I curl up on the couch to sleep tonight, my laptop at my side, a pile of books at hands’ reach -- the way you first found me, only so much more. You leave me as more, not less, because of your refusal to let me leave that first time I tried -- the second and third, so long ago now -- when I was terrified of closeness. You taught me that closeness was possible. You taught the wildfire the beauty of a hearth. And maybe I'm not meant to be a hearth, but now I know what it means to be a safe place even as I rush across Sepulveda Pass. ...more
I think of all the writers whose works I have piled up beside my bed, your achingly beautiful ... more

How Parents and Teachers Should Teach Children About Slavery

[Editor's Note: Is the history of slavery in America something that can be taught in elementary schools? I wish there were a simple answer for that. In two separate incidents during the past month -- in Georgia and New York -- public school teachers have been in the news for assigning math problems which flippantly mentioned slaves, asking children to do arithmetic involving beatings, whippings, and deaths. And the most ironic part? February is Black History Month. ...more

So happy to read this. I'm currently working on a project centered around how parents/caregivers ... more

It Gets Better: How to Fight Homophobia

At dinner last night, TW and I were happily reading our Twitter streams and surfing our feeds when we both noticed the great news out of our former home state of Florida. The ban on gay adoptions has been ruled unconstitutional and Governor Crist says Florida will immediately stop the ban on gay adoptions. ...more

Rita,
My daughter is the same age as yours, and we've spent a lot of time reading books by Todd ... more

Taylor Swift & Kanye West: White Women, Tears, and Coded Images

2010 MTV Video Music Awards - More VMA Video Okay, so I think we all know about Taylor Swift being interrupted last year at the VMA's right? Right. Kanye West caught all kinds of hell for it, and even for his subsequent apologies. So, then why am I linking to the video from this year's show? You can't convince me that you don't want to talk about the past when you do a performance all about it. ...more

Look - Kanye is a moron for doing what he did. I don't think the author or anyone else is ... more

Taylor Swift & Kanye West: White Women, Tears, and Coded Images

2010 MTV Video Music Awards - More VMA Video Okay, so I think we all know about Taylor Swift being interrupted last year at the VMA's right? Right. Kanye West caught all kinds of hell for it, and even for his subsequent apologies. So, then why am I linking to the video from this year's show? You can't convince me that you don't want to talk about the past when you do a performance all about it. ...more

Regardless of Taylor Swift's personal motivation for this song (which we'll probably never get ... more

Letters to Your Younger Self: A Talk With Ellyn Spragins, Lisa Stone ... And You

BlogHer's Letter to My Body project, launched by Suzanne Reisman in 2008, drove home to me how much we women have to offer in terms of advice, even when we don't listen to it ourselves at the time. I'm fascinated by the idea of talking to my younger self, because boy, was she confused. ...more

Ah, Lisa and Rita - you both remain on my "inspiring women" list!

Recently, I decided to ... more

How to Write (Better): How To Get Past Writer's Block and Release Your Inner Muse

Except when she can't be found. Except on those days when your mind is as blank as the page or screen in front of your eyes. Except on those days when your creative process is on strike. Days when words stick like super glue to the ends of your fingers — they won't flow from your hand to the page. ...more

The most timely post. Ever.

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Obama at the Gulf Coast

President Barack Obama offered remarks in Grand Isle, Louisiana that provided an update on the Deepwater Horizon offshore drilling rig disaster. ...more

Thanks, Jill, for this round up. It isn't surprising that so many are pointing their fingers at ... more

Obama at the Gulf Coast

President Barack Obama offered remarks in Grand Isle, Louisiana that provided an update on the Deepwater Horizon offshore drilling rig disaster. ...more

Thanks, Jill, for this round up. It isn't surprising that so many are pointing their fingers at ... more

Slut-Shaming and Prude-Shaming: Why Can't Women Talk About Their Choices Without Fear?

I started sex blogging before there were blogs. It was the early days of the Web, and I was posting about my encounters on bulletin boards and static sites. As a result of starting on platforms that either came with a like-minded audience or were islands in a vast darkness, I enjoyed a great freedom of expression. There was no battle, just story. ...more

The entire time I was reading, I kept thinking "and AV doesn't think she is political?"...then I ... more