My Son is Gay

If you think that me allowing my son to be a female character for Halloween is somehow going to ‘make’ him gay, then you are an idiot. Firstly, what a ridiculous concept. Secondly, if my son is gay, OK. I will love him no less. Thirdly, I am not worried that your son will grow up to be an actual ninja so back off. If my daughter had dressed as Batman, no one would have thought twice about it. No one....more
Been there, done that 15 some odd years ago. Does it all work out in the end? Yes it does.  When ... more

How Do You Find Your Best Self?

For a lot of Laura Dave's The First Husband, Annie struggles to figure out what she wants. She was incredibly lucky to be struggling with some really great choices but mostly she struggled with herself. What if her best self is someone she never imagined being? ...more
I always assumed I was already my best self, inside, complete, whole, a slice of perfection. ... more

Is There Anything Funny about Death? 24 Writers Say Absolutely!

During the eighteen months before my mother's death, I remained at her side. We had a complicated relationship—true of so many mothers and daughters—and she didn't appreciate my daily reminders regarding her medications, her need to walk, the importance of eating. Mom was a visual artist, ardent reader, and political junkie; she didn't go in for idle chatter. As for sharing thoughts or feelings about her illness? Forget it.   ...more
I went to the funeral of an uncle I barely knew many years ago. It was a teeny place just ... more

In Defense of the 'Unladylike' Christian Woman

A few months ago I wrote a couple of blogs about men, women, sex, marriage, masturbation, infidelity and Christianity. They were widely read, my blog stats were happy to report. I received some great feedback, too. And a half-joking guarantee I’d never be invited to speak in church in any of the southernmost states of the U.S.A. And that’s quite okay.And then, there was this - emailed directly to me, not left as a comment on the blog:Dear Jo,...more
First visit here, first post I've read. I'm hooked. It's nice to be home. more