Lisa Thomson

I'm a writer and a divorce support blogger.  I've recently published a self... read more

10 Best Summer Divorce Movies

"Summertime and the livin’ is easy." Unless you are in the middle of a divorce! What could be better therapy than watching movies about other people’s problems, even if they’re fictional? No doubt the problems will be worse than ours....more

Is Your Ex Really a Narcissist?

There seems to be a EX Narcissist epidemic.   The most common statements I hear over social media and blogging are “My Ex is a Narcissist.”  OR “I was married to a Narcissist.”Funny, you just don’t hear I was married to a complete A**hole anymore.  Why?  Because the A**hole has been replaced by the Narcissist it seems....more

Divorced? Try These Tips to Get Through the Wedding Season

Tis the season…for weddings.  Yay. Sometimes, the last thing we feel like doing is attending a wedding as a single divorcée. The romance, the dancing, the ‘love’ in the air is enough to choke the bitterness right out of us.My first post-divorce wedding was a strange affair. I remember coming home afterwards and flopping on the couch with a deep sigh. “That was one of the worst weddings I’ve ever been to,” I said to the wall no one in particular. I just wanted to take my dress off, put some sweat pants on, and forget it happened. ...more

Gay/Straight Marriages-Living a Lie

It is estimated that millions of marriages end in divorce when one spouse comes out and admits their true sexual orientation.  Millions!I am fascinated by this scenario and always wonder what were the signs?  Did she or he have a clue?  When your spouse admits they’re gay after decades of marriage, it must be absolutely devastating for the straight spouse.   Doesn’t this mean our whole marriage was a lie?  If I could live this lie then what are the other lies or things they hid from me?...more
@LiveBySurprise An estimated millions! :(more

Dad, Listen Up!

Dad, listen up!  We Moms understand, you would 'never do that' but just in case you ever 'lost it' or pushed your Sons and Daughters beyond their limits so you can look like the super Dad,  STOP!When I saw the clip on the news of the Florida father (I don't know his name nor do I want to) shoving his kid down a 30 ft. drop in a skateboard park, I had a physical reaction.  I was ...more
lisalisathom I bet that dad in the video thinks he is a great dad, how do these screwed up ideas ...more

Trend Alert: Divorce Tattoos...?

Are you inked?  If not, are you thinking about getting a tattoo?  Are these thoughts connected to an event in your life such as divorce, marriage, death, love?  It’s human nature to want to mark an event with a celebration or a ceremony and sometimes with INK....more
Jeana Love your perspective, Jeana! Great points all round.more

Don't Tell Your Kids You're Consciously Uncoupling

One of my videos offering tips and 5 things to NOT do when telling your kids about your divorce.  Don't miss this if you're going to have that discussion with your children anytime soon.  Also, look for more bite sized tips in my video series on divorce topics.  Thanks for tuning in and sharing.  Leave a comment, join the conversation...what would you add to the 5 mistakes? ...more

What We Can Learn From The Good Wife?

Last year I wrote about Alicia Florrick of The Good Wife.  I took a look at her character and how she sacrifices for a cheating husband.  She’s a great character study in discussing marriage, divorce, sacrifice and loyalty (heavy stuff).  If you missed it you can read it here.  So, after watching last week’s episode with a killer twist, I was moved to write once again, about Alicia Florrick and why we don’t want to be her....more

Not Ready to Make Nice

I'm listening to The Dixie Chicks Not Ready to Make Nice.  I quite enjoy belting out the chorus.  'Forgive sounds good. Forget? I'm not sure I could.'    If anyone would have said that after getting over my first and only divorce I would be faced with divorcing my own father, I would have told them they were crazy.  But the fact is we are estranged and have been for over a year....more
survivelivethrive Lisa ThomsonTKS for taking the time to share here.  I really appreciate it. :)more

I Heart Me Day

Is it your first Valentine's Day alone?  Tips to fight the Cupid blues...…Feeling pissed about Cupid this year?  It’s difficult after separation to feel inspired about a day dedicated to love when you feel your heart is broken.  But in order to mend your heart, you have to start loving yourself....more