8 Fall 2014 Fashion Trends for Real People

I loved looking at all the fun, Furby coats and satin track pants (for the office, naturally) on the Fall/Winter 2014 runways … but they do leave something to be desired in terms of everyday wearability. But that doesn't mean that Fashion-with-a-capital-F trends can't give you inspiration on what to wear right now—without ending up with trends you'll be tired of in two minutes. Here are the items I'm on the hunt for and am looking to add to my wardrobe this fall, the shapes and details and items that feel fresh and right, and would work for any person, in any wardrobe. ...more
Thank you Stacy. These all look fabulous.  Love the little dress and the shooties. :) more

My Husband Only Wants Sex Once a Week; I Want More!

Reader "I Want More" writes,...more
Dr E Your book sounds fab!! more

My Husband Only Wants Sex Once a Week; I Want More!

Reader "I Want More" writes,...more
Great advice! I love your suggestions. Bottom line being a team. Also, intimacy can be so much ... more

5 Reasons To Date a Man Who Doesn’t “DO” Social Media

These men are on the endangered species list, but when you find them, hold on tight. Of all the men I’ve dated in the last two years, the ones who don’t “do” social media are usually on top of the relationship material list. Besides those I’ve dated, my best friend is married to one, and my two brothers are also social media free; all happen to be amazing men....more
My guy is social media free and I love that. He's just cool that way. <3. Great post, Ravid! more

For Domestic Violence Awareness Month, Remember That Love Doesn't Hurt

The first time someone I (thought I) loved slapped me, I was stunned into silence. I was 16, he was 24, and while there were so many things wrong with our pairing, the physical and emotional abuse were the worst. How does a 16-year-old respond to a hard slap across the cheek in response to saying something he would later say made him feel like "less of a man", when he is bigger and is much stronger? My ears ringing, I paused, completely silenced and stunned that he would strike out at me rather than discuss whatever I said that upset him. It seemed excessive, and I found myself (oddly) doing more to make sense of it than process it as wrong....more
Awesome post, Feminista. Yours is the second post I've read on BlogHer today about this ... more


Over the last few days I’ve been struggling with making decisions, with being confident in what to choose, how to act.  What to ignore, what to address.  I’ve been down and out, feeling like I should give up already.  Although I’m not even sure what giving up means.  I’m so tired of fighting.  I’m so tired of the vigilance. ...more
Anxiety is a natural part of this divorce 'thingy' and with that comes unnecessary worry. Sounds ... more

Love Doesn't Hurt: 6 Types of Domestic Violence #DVAM

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM). DVAM evolved from the “Day of Unity” in 1981. DVAM’s intention is to educate, advocate, and empower the nation to end violence against women, men, and children. In 1987, the very first Domestic Violence Awareness Month was observed. During this year, the first national domestic violence toll free hotline was implemented. Two years later after DVAM was observed, the U.S....more
Excellent awareness piece! Thanks for separating and explaining the various forms of abuse. ... more

Ben Affleck Ruined 'Gone Girl' by Being Himself

Ben Affleck is why we can't have horrible, fiendish things. He's just impossibly Ben Affleck-y, Hollywood handsome on the red carpet with Jennifer Garner, a known humanitarian, a dad who got himself sober—he's ridiculously accomplished but so affable he seems almost incompetent. He's almost unhateable. He's no one's favorite, but he just keeps showing up, looking good, being nice, and throwing it down—he's Ben Affleck, after all. He carried Gone Girl, the faithful film adaptation of the complicated Gillian Flynn bestseller, with ease, because of course he can. ...more
Great post, Deb! The book actually infuriated me at points. Both Amy and Hubby were equally ... more

Should I Tell My Friend She Should Get a Divorce?

Dear Mouthy Housewives,My friend is married to real jerk. He's just not kind or loving. I have never really liked him but tried to be supportive. I thought she rushed into it too fast, but she felt the pressure of the biological clock. (They now have kids.) She told me she is thinking of leaving him but wants my opinion on what she should do. Do you I tell the truth? I think she should dump him....more
superb answer, Mouthy Housewife!  it is absolutely a decision one must make on their own. more

5 Ways to Use Comments to Build Blog Traffic

I talk a lot about how important community is on my blog.  When I come there to write each day, it's with something that I hope is going to make you think because I want to start a conversation.  I don't know what this whole blogging thing would even be like without your commentary. There are plenty of ways to help build your blogging community, but one of the most important options is by commenting on posts you enjoy and responding to comments on your own posts.  As important as this is though, there are some misconceptions out there about how you should go about commenting. ...more
I totally agree with you, Kiersten. I love responding to comments on my own blog to get to know ... more