Should You Look for Love at Work?

A new dating app called The League, currently in beta in San Francisco, allows you to log in via your LinkedIn account ... so it can block your colleagues from seeing your profile. I think it is genius—though you may work closely with people 40 hours a week, you might still want to keep your dating life private. If you are using or Tinder, your photos and dating profile are out there for the world to see....more
I absolutely CANNOT do workplace romance. My money matters entirely too much to me and that's ... more

Important and Troubling Book-to-Film Issues in My Favorite Movies: ' The Color Purple' and 'Beloved'

I remember when The Color Purple movie came out in 1986. To have a beautiful and serious movie, that was not about Blacks killing each other or acting stupid but truly featured the story and amazing acting, was a big event. Oprah Winfrey was already a sort of star, and the other actors were people we knew as well.  I imagine the excitement was like when The Color Purple opened to fanfare on Broadway, where so many people got dressed up and flew into New York City just to see that on a stage. ...more
I didn't like how they washed away Celie's sexuality and sexual identity in the movie. they ... more

The BlogHer '15 Call for Ideas is OPEN!

A few weeks ago, we announced BlogHer ’15 back in New York City! Today, we're opening our Call for Ideas—and can’t wait to hear your suggestions. ...more

Why Our Child's Open Adoption Isn't Crazy for Our Family

We have an open adoption. A lot of people think we are crazy. (We also think we are crazy, but for totally different reasons.) Actually, maintaining a relationship with our son's birth parents is one of the least crazy things we have ever done. When the alternative is withholding a relationship with people who created him, it seems insane to do anything else....more
I'm glad that you're working out what is best for this little precious boy. Family is what we ... more

NaBloPoMo: Add All Your October 2014 Posts Here!

Here's where you share the link to every NaBloPoMo post you're writing on your blog daily this month -- and share your words with the world! ...more
I wrote on financial safety planning when it becomes crunch time in leaving an abusive ... more

NaBloPoMo: Add All Your October 2014 Posts Here!

Here's where you share the link to every NaBloPoMo post you're writing on your blog daily this month -- and share your words with the world! ...more
I wrote about getting back into the "crunch" of things-- at the gym. Couples who exercise ... more

How Often Do You Change Your Towels (& Other Important Questions)

People sure have a lot of opinions about washcloths, towels and sheets: whether to use them, how often to change them, when to replace them, how nice they should be, and on and on. What do you think? Let's talk linens....more
I change my towels/wash cloths almost daily. Towels maybe every 2-3 days and washcloths daily. ... more

How BlogHer Took My Fizzled Out Post to 21,000+ Views

As I am writing this post, my other post is the most popular on  This is a post that had barely ignited and then fizzled on my own site, but was featured by BlogHer and took on a life of its own. This is definitely a testament to the power of BlogHer. It drives me nuts when people share stories about increased traffic, shares, or going viral with no stats, so I am going to lay it all out for you here, and you can judge for yourself. ...more

The Silencing of Sexual Liberation

We should consider ourselves fortunate that we live in a time when more people are openly discussing issues related to sex, sexuality, sexual freedom, and the promise of sexual acceptance for all, by all.  There was a time when any such discussion was considered "indecent", and certain behaviors were punishable by arrest and imprisonment. This current level of openness in discourse also allows for candid, often difficult discussions of sexual harassment and assault, though we cannot exactly say that has lead to more arrests and imprisonment for offenders....more
sosvoltaire Our sexual identites are constructed based on how we identify ourselves through ... more

Beyonce's Divine Feminism at the VMAs

What a night! I'm sure many things happened at the 2014 MTV Video Music Awards, but truly only one part of the event is on my takeaway list. An impossibly hot Beyoncé  at the height of her powers defined feminism as being the epitome of the feminine divine, represented women as ambitious, sexy and maternal, brought author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie's incantation about teaching girls to claim success to the massive VMA audience, and all was right with the world. ...more