The Paradox of the Outspoken Woman & Why She Bothers Men

I am an outspoken woman. I'm outspoken in real life, and I'm outspoken on the Internet. I don't shy away from a debate. I have Opinions, big ones, on anything from TV shows to social justice. I like discussions, and I am happy to sit down and go through a subject with a fine-tooth comb to pick out nuances and discuss them with like-minded folks. For me, the Internet has been great for allowing me to find and learn from all kinds of people. But there's another side to it....more
Grace Hwang Lynch Thanks, Grace! I know you have experienced your share of online harassment. ... more

Nobody Likes to Throw Up But I'm REALLY Afraid to Vomit

Look, everyone hates being sick, except for maybe that woman in “The Devil Wears Prada,” who said she was "one stomach flu away" from her goal weight. Oh, I wish I had her attitude. ...more
I've got emetophobia, too, and a ton of this resonates with me. I went through CBT once for it, ... more

When We Talk About Rape Culture

When we talk about rape culture, we are talking about the pervasive belief that women deserve to be raped by simply existing in the world. Find that too strong of a definition?...more
ReneeQuick-Chapman Thank you so much for this. more

My Kids Will Have a Magical Childhood (One That I Will Help Make Happen)

In Ms. ...more I SO agree. This is so sour grapes from the author. So she does it differently. ... more

8 Tips for Taking Better Camera Phone Photos This Year

I'll start off by admitting the obvious: I am by no means a mind-blowing photographer. A lengthy scroll through my 1,600 Instagram photos, if you dare, will tell the tale of improvement; although there still are plenty of hastily taken and posted photos. However, I did do that art school thing: I'm clear about the basic principles/elements of design and composition, blah blah blah....more
I'm an Instagram addict - thanks for these tips! I knew some of them, but others were good to know! more

My Experience With Online Harassment For Blogging About Race and Gender

In early January, Amanda Hess wrote an article at Pacific Standard Magazine detailing the harassment of women online, which spawned a follow up article with women around the country writing in about their experiences with online abuse. ...more
It's extremely scary when online harassment happens to you. I've had a few instances of it ... more

Don't Be a Social Media One-Upper

The start of this week was brutal.  Most of us here in North America suffered through the wrath of the polar vortex, which slowly started with the deep freeze last weekend, and then gave us its worst on Monday, the 6th. But now it's officially over and things are starting to warm up a bit again most everywhere. ...more
I was dealing with a lot of one-upping a lot on social media last week. I had a friend who lives ... more

Do French Kids Really Eat Everything? Find Out How I Made Mealtime Fun Again

Have you read French Kids Eat Everything yet? It's already a game changer for us. With how much I talk (read: gloat) about feeding my kids real food, it might surprise you I have a lot to learn about teaching kids to eat well. Yes, I usually manage to get my kids to eat healthy food, BUT I have come to dread mealtime due to their whininess, messiness, disregard for normal decibel levels and decent personal space, and sibling rivalry that accompany every meal. I was becoming a cross between a hair-raising psycho and a punch-drunk lunatic at dinner, getting into immature discussions with my kids about who was going to get the purple plate and which child would be allowed to sing the third verse of the rainbow song. ...more
My parents taught us to eat this way when I was little. This isn't a French thing, this is a ... more

Mission Control: Writing Isn’t Supposed To Be Easy

My boss comes in today with one of my blog posts for the company website and smiles. “This is so, so good. It is so nice to have someone who knows what they’re doing when it comes to writing. This is just fabulous.”And I smile, and take the paper back, and wonder what it is about me that makes people think I know exactly what I’m doing when it comes to writing....more
@Karen Ballum Thank you so much! more

Dear Mike Jeffries, “Abercrombie Kids” I Knew Wouldn’t Call You Cool

When I was a teenager, we didn’t have Abercrombie & Fitch in my mall. I lived in a small town and the best we had was Bluenotes jeans, where my friends and I drooled over “name-brand” jeans in sizes that squeezed the tiny bit of fat on our stomach and thighs, and overpriced T-shirts that were made of cheap cloth and bore an expensive logo. But we wanted Abercrombie clothes. We wanted them because the kids on TV wore them. We wanted them because they looked cool....more
@pacwp1 This comment totally made my night. Thank you for this! more