An Open Letter to All of My Friends Who Take Selfies

Selfies are a way of saying, "I love myself, and I will fight anyone who tries to change that fact." Selfies are not a question. They're not asking "Do you think I'm pretty?" Selfies are a statement: "I am here." ...more
I also enjoyed your article a lot. Since I moved overseas I miss my friends and family and I ...more

Dear Everyone: Here’s Why I Don’t Want To Read Your Crappy Opinions On What Other Women Should Do

Earlier today, Lydia Lovrac, a Montreal-based “columnist, talk-radio host, stay-at-home mom,” wrote a scornful response to piece from 2013 about why Sasha Emmons chooses to work outside of the home. Don’t ask me why Lovrac is responding to a two year old article, because I’m as baffled as you are....more

Suicidal Student Kicked Out Of Dorm Because He Might Negatively Impact Other Students

TW: talk of suicideImagine this: a student living in a university residence contacts his Residence Life don. He has fallen and injured himself, and there is blood everywhere. He is afraid he might die. He needs help.Surely in this scenario the don would seek immediate assistance for the student. They would bring him to a clinic or perhaps a hospital. Once the student had recovered, they would welcome him back to residence – maybe even put up a banner or throw a little party.Certainly the student would not be asked to leave the residence....more

Vaccines Don't Cause Autism, But That's Not The Point. Stop Being Ableist.

Here are some typical arguments put forward by parents who choose not to vaccinate their otherwise healthy child (by “healthy” I mean there are no medical reasons for the child to be exempted from vaccination).For this example, I will pull quotes directly from a recent New York Times Article, Vaccine Critics Turn Defensive Over Measles:...more

Jonathan Chait’s 'Not A Very P.C. Thing To Say' In a Nutshell

In this week's New York Magazine, Jonathan Chait discusses in his essay Not a Very P.C. Thing to Say how hard it is to be a white man these days. In case you don’t have the time or moral energy to read his 5,000 word opus of angst, here’s a brief rundown....more
BlogHer He needs to read this: http://tmblr.co/ZLvgpx1bvJDEL Having no empathy for people who ...more

Phoebe, Ross, Monica, and the Rest of Our Friends: Where Are They Now?

Friends first aired just over 20 years ago. To celebrate the recent release of the series for streaming on Netflix, let's take some time to speculate where each character might be now. Rachel, the youngest of the group, would be 43. Ross and Phoebe, the oldest, would be 46. Image: Warner Bros. Pictures So … what has everyone been up to? ...more
I hadn't realized how much I disliked Ross all these years until I read this. Excellent write up ...more

On Motherhood and Losing Myself

I remember the first time it happened: It was shortly after Theo’s birth and I was still in the hospital. My mother and husband were in the room with me when the nurse came in to do something—maybe weigh him or help bathe him or check his vital signs. After she finished, she said, “All right, now I’ll give him back to mom,” and I felt momentarily confused. Why was she handing my son off to my mother? Shouldn't she give him to me or my husband? ...more
Such a great post. I remember the first time the pediatrician's office called and asked, "Is ...more

High Tech Panties Won't Stop Rape

There is currently an Indiegogo campaign created by AR Wear for a line that they call Anti-Rape Clothing. These garments, which include a pair of boy-cut brief-style panties, running shorts, leggings and “travelling shorts,” are allegedly designed and built to be unremovable except by the owner, who has some sort of key to release the locking mechanism on the waistband. Basically they act as a chastity belt, although of course we are not supposed to think of them as chastity belts....more
herdailywhat is wrong with a chastity belt, if the person wearing it is also the person with the ...more

Sometimes It Hurts When I Breathe

I’ve realized that I live in this cycle of frantic activity followed by total emotional and/or physical collapse. This has been happening a couple of times a year since my late teens, and you would think that by now I would be able to recognize the signs enough to stave off the impending crisis, but no. Apparently not....more

How To Talk To New Parents

Social media can be an amazing tool for first-time parents. Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr and their ilk give housebound caregivers the chance to connect with other people without having to leave their bedroom. They make it easier to find others who are currently in or have been in similar situations. They provide a platform where people can ask for advice, pose specific questions (often of the is-this-normal variety), share milestones and pictures and funny anecdotes, or just flat-out vent about how hard parenting is. Because let’s be real: parenting is fucking hard....more