Excommunicated from the Mormon Church for Women's Advocacy: My Daughter, Kate Kelly

On Monday, I sat in a state of quiet panic waiting for the news I feared most, dreading the ringing of my phone. And then it came: My daughter, Kate Kelly, was excommunicated from the Mormon church for “conduct contrary to the laws and order of the church” after publicly advocating for the ordination of Mormon women to the church’s priesthood. The life was sucked out of the room. I sat in stunned silence—speechless and immobile....more
Kate's excommunication broke my heart - I hope she doesn't lose any of her courage and conviction. more

Discovering My Challenge Within My Willpower Challenge

I have to say that my willpower challenge is still going well. If I learned anything at all from Kelly McGonigal's The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It it's that paying attention to why you are -- or are not -- doing something is really important....more
My issue is that I get overly anxious when things don't go as planned.  So I am trying to work ... more

Is My Willpower Challenge Over Now?

When we first starting talking about Kelly McGonigal's book The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It, I was intrigued but I wasn't sure how I'd feel about actually doing my willpower challenge. What would I learn? Would be be scary? What if I failed? Well, I've learned and I've struggled. Does that mean I'm done now? ...more
I'm working on being more efficient with my writing habits, which is going well, but there are ... more

What I've Learned (So Far) From My Willpower Challenge

I was scared when I announced my willpower challenge last week. While I totally understood why Kelly McGonigal suggests that you do one while reading her book, The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It, I was wary. I was concerned not only about what I might learn about myself -- what if none of the strategies worked?...more
I have been trying to forgive myself more - my biggest problem is that I give up after my first ... more

What Is Your Willpower Challenge?

In her new book The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D., suggests the best way to learn about the self-control methods she discusses is to take a willpower challenge. I hesitated. I am not big on resolutions, perhaps because I never stick with them. I was also intrigued because her book offered me some new perspective on willpower and self-control. ...more
My willpower challenge is writing - "I want" to finish the rough draft of a manuscript that I ... more

Why I Let My 14-Year-Old Move Out

My 14-year-old daughter, DQ, is moving out. It’s weird; I never thought I’d type these words before she turned 18. But here I am, standing by as she packs up her bags and prepares to leave the nest. My nest. The one I have padded with protection and comfort since the day she was born, through a messy divorce, during financially tight times, and in her tumultuous teen years. She is flying the coop with my assistance when I drive her a full three hours away to live with her father. And this might just be the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. ...more
Thank you for sharing - best of luck with your daughter's move, it sounds like this will be a ... more

In Defense of Non-Custodial Mothers

Recently, The Huffington Post ran an article that featured a mother's regret for leaving her children with their father post-divorce. She explained that the divorce left her feeling emotionally and psychologically fragile and she chose to live with relatives for a few years in order to regroup. She went on to explain that she regretted the decision, but it was the best one she had at time. ...more
This is a complicated issue - it takes maturity for a person to act in the best interest of a ... more

She's a Woman if you Know What I Mean

I grew up with pretty defined roles of what a woman should be and I was never able to conform to ... more

Friends Help Make Breakups Bearable

I don't think there's really any way to say it except this -- breakups suck. Whether you are prepared for them, are the person doing the breaking up, or if you are blindsided by them, they just simply suck. We might pretend everything is ok and go through our days telling everyone that we are just fine, but friends know better. They know when we're lying to them and when we're lying to ourselves....more
I haven't had too many traumatic break-ups but I have been there for my friends when they went ... more

Using Texts To Strengthen Your Relationship

I firmly believe that technology had changed how we do relationships. When we are apart from our loved ones we don't just have to rely on phone calls and letters. We have emails, social media, and yes, even text messages at our disposal as a means to communicate. Sometimes it's easier to put our thoughts out via text than it is in person, as Sophie Morgan discovered in Diary of a Submissive:...more
I always feel a little paranoid about personal texts, especially as every once in a while they ... more