ANNOUNCEMENT: #BlogHer16: Experts Among Us Splashes into L.A. Next August

It seems like only yesterday that we were catching roses from Boyz II Men at #BlogHer15, but even as the sun set on that beautiful summer day in New York, we were planning for next year. Today we are so excited to announce the dates and location of #BlogHer16: Experts Among Us, and to offer SUPER-Earlybird pricing for the conference....more
I am stunned! more

I Was Raped

I was raped. I hate using that word. When I think of rape, I think of a woman walking alone at night, back to her apartment. In the shadows, a man in all black and a ski mask lurks behind the bushes. Like an animal watching his prey, he attacks her, tying her up and violently taking her without consent....more
I'm so sorry. No should have meant no. He knew what he was doing, even though in his mind he ... more

Like the Duggar Girls, I Was Assaulted. I Pretended to Be Asleep.

Sometimes it's easier to pretend that nothing happened than face the consequences. Victims of abuse often say that they pretended to be asleep in hopes that the abuser would stop. Unfortunately, that doesn't usually work. ...more
Thanks for sharing this now. People need to hear the truth so they can stop making excuses, ... more

Can I Leave My Dog's Poop in My Neighbor's Garbage?

Dear Mouthy Housewives,Whenever I take my dog for a walk, he inevitably poops after about 10 minutes....more
Ok. I'll just leave the poop out on your lawn, then :-) more

I Hate Shopping for a Mattress!

Buying a bed used to be easy. There were just two sizes: twin and double. And two kinds: soft and firm. And only one place to go: the nearest department store. Image: nahemoth These days, purchasing a mattress is as complex and confusing as buying a house in a country in which I don’t speak the language. “I want a firm, double mattress,” I told the salesperson at Sleep Magic. “You mean full?” he corrected me. ...more
Rule #1 of mattress buying: never believe ANYTHING a mattress salesperson says. They are just ... more

Is "Pretty" A Privilege? Thoughts from #BlogHer14

Being “pretty,” which I define as fitting society’s definition of physical attractiveness, is an odd thing. Writing about it feels even odder, particularly since I don’t feel more attractive than others. For many years, I felt ugly and awkward. I still occasionally feel that way....more
I have often thought that conventionally beautiful young people need to be given lessons in how ... more

The Trouble with Vegans

Last week, a van parked at the end of our rural road and a pack of men in jackets and ties and women in high-collared, long sleeve dresses and sensible shoes, all of them carrying small black, leather satchels, poured out and began a door-to-door campaign of our neighborhood. By the time they reached the first few front doors, the phone brigade had begun pull down your shades, don’t answer your door the Jehovah’s Witnesses are in the ‘hood clutching their Watchtower magazines with pictures of children surrounded by peaceful lions and lambs....more
Working in animal rescue, I quickly saw that many of the very sensitive volunteers were terribly ... more

The Erasure of Black Womanhood: Why Anthony Cumia's Twitter Rant is About More Than Race

On Wednesday, July 2, 2014, "Opie and Anthony" radio host Anthony Cumia went on a disgusting rant that lasted several tweets in which he used abhorrent language to describe an interaction he had with a Black woman in Times Square, New York City. He used words and phrases like “whore b*tch,” “c*nt,” “c*ntrag,” and “animal pig fuck c*nt b*tch,” all to describe a woman he claims attacked him. He claimed she attacked him because he was innocently taking pictures of a construction site at 3 a.m. ...more
Amen. more

Suicide Is Not Selfish

I don’t want to hear another person say that suicide is “selfish”....more
I have been suicidal, and fortunately made it out the other side without carrying it through. ... more

Suicide Is Not Selfish

I don’t want to hear another person say that suicide is “selfish”....more
Heather-Joan Carls  Ugly, ugly words. Such ugly judgment. more