How to Fall in Love With Your Body Through Swimming

I swim because I am thin and sleek and beautiful in the water. For thirty minutes a few times a week, I love my body and marvel at what it can accomplish. I cut through the water, feeling it on every part of me. The straps of my bathing suit form an X across my back, freeing my arms and shoulders to move without resistance, everything feels good. If I have time, when I am done I take off my bathing cap and goggles and float on my back with my eyes closed just hearing the water lap in my ears, letting the water hold me. ...more
This is what I think every time I go swimming and yet it's always a struggle getting myself to ... more

Is It Okay If Your Child Fears You?

Fear is not the first feeling I want to elicit from my children when I see them in the morning. Fear is not how most mothers want their kids to say they feel about them. But fear is a natural byproduct of the parent-child dynamic, no matter how hard we try to rid ourselves of it. ...more
I get what you're saying and agree to some extent. I don't think anybody should live in fear of ... more

Something a small as a blackberry taught me this ...

Picture a busy street. One crammed with four lanes of commuters cruising along at 55 mph. Add the bike lanes. Add the sidewalks.  What do you see? Is your imaginary sidewalk empty?  Or did you see the runner? Did you see the children walking with their parents? Did you see the dog and his owner? Did you see the woman in the wheelchair sitting peacefully beside her companion? What do you think of the things that you see? Or do you, for that matter, think at all....more
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Considering Divorce: When Do You Know You've Had Enough?

I was eleven years old when I was invited to an elderly neighbor’s house for tea.  My mother dressed me in the nicest outfit I had for the occasion and made sure I knew enough etiquette to get through the event without embarrassing myself (or her). As she buttoned the collar of my crisp white shirt I asked her, “How do I tell Mrs. Kinsey if I don’t want any more tea?My mother smiled and smoothed the ribbon in my hair.  “Honey, when you don’t want any more, just lay your hand gently over your cup and tell her you’ve had enough.”...more
I'm not saying marriage should be easy but I am saying that it shouldn't be hard. Whenever ... more

Can Your Marriage Survive "Through Sickness and Health"?

When we got married, we had a lot of crazy things on our minds. For us, it was already complicated.  We started things off by throwing every obstacle in the world at our marriage.  We launched right into having a family, but not a small one. One cute kid and a dog, but a large one ending in 5 kids, dogs, cats, and a ton of debt that we managed to dig out of and turn around into forging a life that is both comfortable and stable. ...more
As a long-time married person and observer of married folks, I'm betting that your husband is ... more

Announcing the #BlogHer15: Experts Among Us Voices of the Year Honorees!

Today we unveil the #BlogHer15: Experts Among Us Voices of the Year honorees. It’s our eighth year producing the Voices of the Year (affectionately known as #VOTY) but it never, NEVER gets old. This year the #BlogHer15: Experts Among Us Community Keynote will be held on Friday, July 17, at 4:30 p.m. ET....more
What an enormous, big, wonderful deal to be included in the VOTY list. We are all indebted to ... more

A Surprise Visit from an Old Lover

He slid into my car, leaned over and kissed my neck. Nothing had changed in thirty years. He still thought I wanted him to kiss my neck. Never mind that I’d been married to someone else for twenty-five years, raised four children, and was a grandmother. I was 30 when he was kissing my neck in earnest. Now I was 60....more
SingleMomtism  Thank you! more

A Surprise Visit from an Old Lover

He slid into my car, leaned over and kissed my neck. Nothing had changed in thirty years. He still thought I wanted him to kiss my neck. Never mind that I’d been married to someone else for twenty-five years, raised four children, and was a grandmother. I was 30 when he was kissing my neck in earnest. Now I was 60....more
BaxStar23  Thank you! more

A Surprise Visit from an Old Lover

He slid into my car, leaned over and kissed my neck. Nothing had changed in thirty years. He still thought I wanted him to kiss my neck. Never mind that I’d been married to someone else for twenty-five years, raised four children, and was a grandmother. I was 30 when he was kissing my neck in earnest. Now I was 60....more
FugueStateKnits  "You grew up. He grew sideways." That really sums it up. And your last sentence ... more

A Surprise Visit from an Old Lover

He slid into my car, leaned over and kissed my neck. Nothing had changed in thirty years. He still thought I wanted him to kiss my neck. Never mind that I’d been married to someone else for twenty-five years, raised four children, and was a grandmother. I was 30 when he was kissing my neck in earnest. Now I was 60....more
MayankMittal Thank you! more