8 Reasons Divorce Worked for Me

 Image: Cat Whelan via DivorcedSuperMum.com DIVORCE:A word that sends shudders through many couples who will agonisingly try to stay together when it’s clearly painful for everyone.Divorce isn’t necessarily the black hole of disaster you have imagined it to be. Here are a few reasons why:...more
thanks for sharing! This made me smile... because when I was depressed and sorrowful over my ... more

Dear Internet People: Stop Being So Gullible

Is being gullible a requirement to being an American citizen?...more
Agreed, it seems that critical thinking skills have disappeared. It is so much simpler to just ... more

How to Make a Living as a Crafter

I have made a living as a crafter for close to 15 years. It has not always been easy. There were times I was poor, and there were times I felt rich. There were times without health insurance, and times when I was staying in hotels in Beverly Hills. The craft industry waxes and wanes like anything else. This, my friends, is why I always live by the motto that you need to have several financial irons in the fire at once. ...more
Very good advice here. In business speak it equals: "Diversify your income streams." and "Expand ... more

I Was Once A "90-Day Fiancée"

There's a new show on TLC called 90 Day Fiance that follows the lives of four engaged couples and the women are all coming from overseas. The women enter the United States on a K-1 visa (aka the "fiancée visa") and they must marry their American fiancés within 90 days of entry. If the couple fails to do this, then the woman/fiancée would have no other choice but to go back to her home country. The four women in the show are from Colombia, Brazil, Russia, and the Philippines. ...more
As you so eloquently point out, marriage and relationships take work. Lots of work. Regardless ... more

Sexual Responsibility and The Post-Breakup "Surprise" Kid

WARNING- This sh*t is about to get real and preachy. If you think sexual irresponsibility is cool, don’t read this.I’ve encountered this too often for it not to be a trend. It’s a horrifying fad to me and I’d like to call it out. I’ve dated several men who, post-divorce or post-long term relationship breakup, end up knocking up a short-timer and now have a kid. (I’m sure you’ve heard of Dwyane Wade and his relationship hiatus baby by now). ...more
"Surprise" kid? ... no such thing. If you were in school at any point past 1970, I guarantee you ... more

Celebrating my Digital Footprint: Ten Year Blogiversary!

The date was December 28th, 2003 (exactly ten years ago to the day, in case you hadn't noticed). The bustle of Christmas was past, the new year had yet to arrive, and I, with the week off from work, was at loose ends and looking for something to occupy my time. ...more
Happy Birthday! (channeling my inner Frosty the Snowman)!  Congrats on ten years of sharing and ... more

Gather Your Friends: Holiday Open House 101

Gathering together with friends during the holidays is when holiday memories are made! Now that I’m in my new house, one holiday tradition I’m hoping to establish is hosting a holiday open house. When entertaining, I think having a good plan is key to not getting super-stressed. So, here’s my plan: ...more
I love the Holiday Open House idea... and have tried talking my husband into it for a couple of ... more

1628 Likes and Why I am Shutting Down My Blog's Facebook Page

At the beginning of this year, I created a public Facebook page for my blog, Schmutzie.com. I did it because I wanted to create a more private personal profile so I could have at least one place online that felt less public, a little more sheltered. It wasn't long, though, before I started to regret that decision, because I realized that privacy on Facebook is harder to maintain than it seems, real engagement is difficult to come by on public pages, and Facebook's treatment of public pages has been undergoing a slow evolution that favours advertising money over content and engagement. ...more
My reach is like Melissa Ford ... about 3 people per posting. That doesn't seem worth the effort ... more

Thoughts on Grief: There Are No Coincidences

Yesterday was a very bad day for me. For whatever reason, I was very emotional. I was on the verge of tears for most of the day. Every time that I thought about crying, I tried to think about something else, to change my mind....more
thanks for sharing, you were in the right place. and know that you're not alone. others are ... more

Facebook Wants Me to Date Cowboys and Native Americans

Facebook is on a mission to hook me up. With one of the Village People apparently. Let me explain.For some time now Facebook has been “suggesting” posts in my news feed. Sometimes the suggestions are food related. Other times they’re of the health and beauty variety. So far so good.But sometimes Facebook misses the mark....more
not sure about hooking up with a Facebook suggested post ... but I sure can relate to country ... more