Zelda Williams, I Lost My Dad to Suicide, Too

“I love you. I miss you. I’ll try to keep looking up.” Sitting at my desk at work, I read the words on my computer from Zelda, Robin Williams’ daughter,  who tweeted about his death. For some reason I decided to look at the clock, I wanted to know what time it was... 8:38 AM. I lasted a little over 12 hours after hearing the news before it finally hit me. The night before, Trey had given me a hug and asked if I was okay. I said yes, which was true at the time but now it was different. Now I was not okay. “I love you. I miss you. I’ll try to keep looking up.” ...more
Oh my heart hurts for yours. I am so very sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing this story ... more

What's In a (Starbucks) Name?

Amoeba. Armenia. Ambibia. Ar-na-by...what's your name, baby? It's rare for someone to say my name correctly on the first try. It happens, but it's rare. I've been called all of those above and a few others that make less sense. And by less sense I mean less sense of a seemingly normal person who thought Amoeba could be correct. ...more
Because as "Kirsten", I've been Kersten, Christian, Kristen, and a whole host of other names. ... more

The Best Dads on Television This Year Are A Complicated Lot

I watched the latest episode of Louie last night, and it made me think about how many television shows this year are grappling with the father-daughter relationship. Don's relationship with Sally is the emotional heart of Mad Men, The Blacklist has dangled the "dad question" throughout, and Sheriff and Maggie are a fascinating center to Resurrection, to name a few. ...more
Great piece Deb!  I love #allthedads on Modern Family, from Phil, to Cam and Mitchell, to Jay ... more

Can We Talk About 'The Good Wife' Yet?

Please note, this post will contain spoilers. Big spoilers. Spoil. Alert. Further, it will talk about spoiler alerts and about participating on social media during television viewing. So this post contains a lot of spoiling. And alerting.  ...more
it ROCKED my world and I haven't even seen the episode yet. My husband (who does not watch this ... more

Eating Disorder Awareness Week: What You Don't Know About Me

I started long after I knew better, past the age when my decisions could be chalked up to that invincible feeling that fades away as we get older. Already a mother, I should have been setting a good example and following the very rules I was setting for my own child. I was embarrassed by my weakness. Life was too much. Single parenting and autism and a whirlwind of experience I couldn’t seem to grasp left me feeling undeserving of the most basic necessities and looking for something I might actually be able to control. ...more
SO incredibly proud of you for sharing your story.  You are strong,  you are weak sometimes, you ... more

These Are My Breasts, Not Sex Objects

My first Barbie was a Growing Up Skipper doll. Skipper is Barbie’s younger sister.A gift from one of my aunts during the 1970′s, my Skipper doll wasn’t an ordinary doll. Living up to her name, she could “grow” from girl to young woman in an instant. All you had to do was take her arms and wind them forward in a circular motion. Not only would she grow taller but her bust would get bigger. Wind her arms in the opposite direction and all of her would shrink back to original size....more
I nodded along as I read, I even, at one point, said.."did I write this?"  Everything I do and ... more

It's All Sweet Until You Hit Level 350 on Candy Crush

You didn't think I was going to write every day in November without at least one post about Candy Crush, did you? It would probably be impossible. Especially when I have been stuck on a level for what feels like forever, and I have to talk about it with someone who will really care. Or someone whose eyes I can't see rolling as the words Candy Crush leave my lips. ...more
well...I'm stuck at 86...86!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  I haven't even hit 100, let alone 90. ;)  but I ... more

I'm Jealous of Mothers with One Child

Not too long ago I sat around a table of other moms at a coffee bar, chatting about this and that and so on and so forth. I joined in by telling them about a mom blogger I admire, who jaunts around town, experiencing and writing about her fabulous life in the city. You know, with her ONE kid... And I emphasized the whole conversation with a big fat eye roll. Which was awkward, because I was sitting at a table SURROUNDED by women who had only ONE CHILD. And that's when I swallowed my gangly foot. ...more
Yes, I totally get it. I always tell people "we never knew one baby , so it's always by the seat ... more

I Did Nothing While She Hurled Abuses At Them

I imagined her saying I don't need your help. Truth be told, I didn't have anything to help her with other than maybe talking to her kids while she zoned out for a while. My daughter and I got on the bus, our first day of catching it together. Our first day of her getting off and transferring to another to go to school; me staying on to get on the subway, me staying on to watch her walk to a bus stop that leaves a lot to be desired as far as safety. Please pay attention to your surroundings. Please. ...more
I'm glad BlogHer chose to feature and syndicate this. I have thought of this post and your words ... more

Do You Feel Pressure to Write Amazing Blog Posts?

How often do you not blog because while you have things you could say (and very much want to say), the topic doesn't seem as important nor is the post coming out as brilliantly as other blog posts out there? The comparison game is one of the number killers to "just blogging": that state of writing your blog and deriving joy or peace of heart from it; writing for writing's sake. Too Many Fish to Fry has a post about feeling as if she can only blog if she can "amaze the room." ...more
I LOVED this post the first time I read it and am so happy that BlogHer is featuring it. I agree ... more