Maggie Amada

I'm a mom, wife, writer, programmer.  I'm developing an addiction to social... read more

Qualified to Be a Mom? I Don't Feel Like It

It was a rough week in our house. One of our kids (who shall remain nameless) has been an absolute challenge lately. Pushing limits and testing us. Things finally came to a head at the dinner table a few nights ago. It became an epic showdown. (If you listened really hard, you could almost hear the theme song from The Good, The Bad and The Ugly floating in the air.) It has taken me four days to even believe that my husband and I might have won this one... although we're still not positive....more
@katbiggie On the Job Training indeed! For what it's worth, things have calmed down considerably ...more

I Am Pregnant and Uninsured in America

My health insurance ran out on December 31st. The nice lady with Cigna quoted me in the ballpark of $750 a month to maintain my insurance through COBRA for 3 months, which wouldn't have gotten me to my due date. No insurance company will take me because pregnancy is considered a pre-existing condition. Like cancer. Not that it matters, since I can't afford self-pay coverage, anyway. Any plan I can afford has a deductible so high that if I did find myself in a situation in which I needed to use the health insurance, I'd go bankrupt, so, in the end, I don't see the point....more
I just found out i'm pregnant, and I need to know that there's a part 2 to this...I'd love to ...more

This Winter's Flu: The Worst in 10 Years

I used to pooh-pooh the flu as no big deal. But this year, I’m very glad I had the gumption to trek to my local Rite Aid and wait patiently for my shot. Experts at the Centers for Disease Control are saying this could be the worst influenza outbreakthey’ve seen in the past 10 years. According to the latest reports, more than 2,200 people have been hospitalized since October, and 18 children have died. In Boston, they’ve declared a state of emergency due to a tenfold increase in influenza cases. One hospital in Pennsylvania was forced to pitch tents to handle the glut of patients. ...more
This is purely anecdotal and not scientific in any way.  I sent my daughters to take the flushot ...more

I Don't Care About Your Diet or Your Extra Five Pounds

It's that time of the year when everyone is abuzz with New Year's resolutions. They include "lose weight," "exercise more," "get healthy," and a million others in between. I'm not against resolutions, but what I do hate to see is an unrealistic attitude and approach on the losing weight one -- and the biggest offenders are women....more
What a nice post! You really got to the heart of the matter with so many of us. I'm a size 12 ...more

The Awkward Blogger

I began blogging in June 2012. As I started my blog, Mommy, For Real, I simultaneously read several books and numerous articles about blogging, particularly those featuring “mommy bloggers.” Over and over it was made clear that the way to have a successful readership was by putting yourself out there and interacting with other bloggers. Taking a deep breath, I began to do just that. ...more
I used to blog when MSN had their Spaces accounts, and I had a whole little world of "friends" ...more

Point-Counterpoint: The War on Men

By now you’ve probably heard about the tizzy over Suzanne Venker’s article “The War on Men." In it, the anti-feminist speaker and author of a new book called “How to Find A Husband”! (exclamation point mine) argues that the reason men don’t want to get married and are generally miserable is because of feminists. ...more
Weirdly, neither the "point" author nor the "counterpoint" author talked much about the reasons ...more

My Daughter Told Other Kids She Doesn't Believe in Santa

Peaches told a significant portion of the second grade that she does not believe in Santa Claus. It is December after all, the time when many a seven-year-old heart turns to thoughts of presents and stockings and flying reindeer so, naturally, a conversation had sprung up about Santa’s impending travels. When one child shared that the hidden camera used to catch Santa’s visit to her home last year had failed to record his movements through her living room, the chatter became lively....more
My daughters (4 and 2) think there is a Santa Claus but he needs a lot of help from parents ...more

Point-Counterpoint: The War on Men

By now you’ve probably heard about the tizzy over Suzanne Venker’s article “The War on Men." In it, the anti-feminist speaker and author of a new book called “How to Find A Husband”! (exclamation point mine) argues that the reason men don’t want to get married and are generally miserable is because of feminists. ...more
Weirdly, neither the "point" author nor the "counterpoint" author talked much about the reasons ...more

Defriendtion: A Brand New Way to be a Jerk Online

Do you know what this world needs? More ways to treat each other's feelings carelessly. And that's why Internet trolls are getting their wish this Christmas season and being gifted with the ability to rudely let you know that they don't like your Facebook status update with a brand new dislike button called Defriendtion. ...more
I will admit I've become upset with a fellow blogger Facebook and just didn't want to see their ...more