17 Untruths Parents Believe About Non-Parents

1. Non-parents get to go to bed late and sleep in like parents used to before they had children.I do wish this were true, but it's not. Age, stress, and ill health are sleep-stealers, too, and I am lucky if I get four or five uninterrupted hours of sleep on any given night. In fact, I can't remember when I last did that. ...more
@KristenTsetsi Good Lord. "When did suffering become the measurement of worth." PREACH THAT. more

National Library Week: Celebrating How Libraries Shaped My Life

National Library Week, celebrated this week of April 14-20, always takes me to random places in my memory. As an avid bookworm, it's no surprise that I am a supporter and lover of libraries. The libraries of my life have supported me over the years, as I have grown through various stages and phases of my life. I can't even begin to play the "what if" game, to consider what my life might have looked like without the series of libraries in my life. I am thankful and blessed for this trip through the stacks of my life....more
I volunteered at my local library for a full summer. I thought I was so classy and I loved ... more

The Lifecycle of a Blogger

1. Why not become a blogger, right? Why not?! I have stories to tell. I have opinions. I have important things to tell the world. I know I’m not going to become the next Dooce or anything (but maybe I’ll be the next Amalah?). This is going to be good. I’ll start with a 2500-word introduction to my life story, just the self-involved parts. ...more
Oh, no! Is this what I have to look forward to? Haha...still in the first few, but good to know ... more

Being a Working Mother Is Rather Traditional

You hear it all the time. Mothers are meant to be home with their children. Mothers aren't supposed to leave their babies with someone else and spend all day out in the workforce. Traditionally, women stay home and raise kids. This is often accompanied by some adage about indigenous cultures in the Global South (usually inaccurate and always offensive) or how prehistoric moms raised their cave babies, never leaving their children's sides until they died or reached adulthood. Except today's stay-at-home motherhood isn't anything like traditional motherhood, and most cave moms did work outside their caves....more
I liked this! As a some-day mother I don't think it's in our future for me to SAH, but SO many ... more

On Perfectionism: Teaching My Son Not to Opt Out Due to Fear of Failure

I’m reading Dr. Brene Brown’s book Daring Greatly right now, and oh. Boy. What a book. There is so much in it that I would love to write and talk about -- already, and I’m not even halfway through. But there is one topic she touches that I’ve thought about plenty, and that is perfectionism. I struggle with perfectionism, and as Brown rightly points out, perfectionism is NOT the same as striving for excellence; it’s almost the opposite....more
This really resonated with me. As a sometimes-perfectionist, the insight and thought-process you ... more

The Life of a Non-Average Blogger

I was reading this post on BlogHer about a woman who started blogging about a year ago and she wrote about how awkward the process was. I mean, you put yourself out there and, at first, it's really difficult. For the first few months or maybe more, you are simply writing and sending your thoughts across the Web and not really knowing if the message is being received by anyone. So you build followers through time and your work typically gets better with time too, and you hope that one day people will look forward to your posts and maybe feel connected to your life in some way. Because really isn't that why most bloggers blog? We like to share. We like to be heard. We like the acknowledgement and the connection. ...more
@jenlbosse Haha, hope you didn't think I did for the click-over! I love reading all the daily ... more

The Life of a Non-Average Blogger

I was reading this post on BlogHer about a woman who started blogging about a year ago and she wrote about how awkward the process was. I mean, you put yourself out there and, at first, it's really difficult. For the first few months or maybe more, you are simply writing and sending your thoughts across the Web and not really knowing if the message is being received by anyone. So you build followers through time and your work typically gets better with time too, and you hope that one day people will look forward to your posts and maybe feel connected to your life in some way. Because really isn't that why most bloggers blog? We like to share. We like to be heard. We like the acknowledgement and the connection. ...more
Jen, I LOVED this. I've noticed more and more blogs I've started reading proclaim exactly why ... more

My Birth Son Probably Doesn't Know He's Adopted

I recently found out my birth son was likely never told he was adopted, and has been publicly speaking out about an ancestral heritage that, genetically, isn't entirely true. And I'm worried -- nay, freaked out -- about how he might feel, if he discovers his adoptive cultural background and biological background don't match....more
This was beautifully written. I hope you find the closure you're looking for. more

Celebrating Alfred Hitchcock Day With Our Favorite Hitchcock Movies

Every year, March 12 is National Alfred Hitchcock Day. I'm not sure exactly why, but I really don't care, as any opportunity to celebrate Hitch is appreciated. My movie-buff parents introduced me to the master at a young age, via his movies on television. I'm not sure which one I saw first exactly, but suspect it was Shadow of A Doubt, with Joseph Cotton as Uncle Charlie. Still one of my favorites, and probably why I prefer the black and white, atmospheric Hitchcock films to big screen confections like To Catch A Thief....more
Rebecca is the best!! I love that movie! more

"Ender's Game" Is My Favorite Book But the Author Disappointed Me

When I first came across Ender's Shadow, I fell head over heels. It was young, it was dystopian, it was brilliant. It was one of the first books that made me think about how I acted, how people around me acted. It stayed with me for weeks after I put it down. Science fiction, tactics, reflections of historical entities...and then I realized it had a series. A prequel. Ender's Game sits proudly on our shelf at home (we have two copies!). ...more
@missoulagrace I haven't read the Alvin Maker series- haven't really felt inspired to like some ... more