Lena Dunham and the Backlash Against Humble Creep Confessions

Have you ever taken an art class with life models? I’m horrible at sketching: my perspective is interminably squashed, but a class with models holding poses on center stage really helped. I thought their nakedness might make me nervous or feel embarrassed to stare at nude bodies, but it wasn’t weird at all. The beauty of diverse nude forms created focus and immediacy, and all of our sketches were better for it. The nudity of the models made sense. They were professionals, mostly artists themselves, and they knew what they were doing. ...more
Damn, Deb, you are a fantastic thinker and writer. WELL DONE. Should be required reading for all ... more

Banish Your Family And Prepare Yourself Because The Purple One Is On SNL This Weekend

I have instructed my family to get all their requests in on Saturday before 11:28 p.m. because by 11:30 I’ll be in a trance. I need those two minutes to mentally prepare for the beginning of a Saturday Night Live that won’t soon be forgotten, an SNL that will include (deep, meditating breath) Prince. Did that register in your mind? If so, did you flap your hands before fanning your face trying to get your blood pressure under control? ...more
I <3 you. And the Purple One. Naturally. more

8 Fall 2014 Fashion Trends for Real People

I loved looking at all the fun, Furby coats and satin track pants (for the office, naturally) on the Fall/Winter 2014 runways … but they do leave something to be desired in terms of everyday wearability. But that doesn't mean that Fashion-with-a-capital-F trends can't give you inspiration on what to wear right now—without ending up with trends you'll be tired of in two minutes. Here are the items I'm on the hunt for and am looking to add to my wardrobe this fall, the shapes and details and items that feel fresh and right, and would work for any person, in any wardrobe. ...more
missbritt Actually, and truly, fashion sweatpants are ALL THE RAGE right now. I just can't do it ... more

Want to Kick Your Kegels Into High Gear? The "Juve" May Be the Answer

By now, I hope that you know where your vagina is and how it works, or at least its most basic functions. I also hope that you have heard of the exercises that you can do to strengthen the powerful effect your vagina has on the world-- Kegels....more
::runs to internet to buy one:: I am very proud of my strong pelvic floor muscles. I try to show ... more

Jennifer Lawrence's Private, Nude Photos Were Not Leaked

Why is everyone saying that the nude photos published this weekend were "leaked?" Does mis-naming horrible things make us feel better about them? Leaking information to the press may happen in politics or business, but that's not what happened here. ...more
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Would You Give Your Spouse a Hall Pass?

So I had the house to myself tonight, and although I could have done many things, I found myself over on the Huffington Post reading about the failed ALS Ice Bucket Challenges and Sarah Jessica Parker's participation in her friend's weekend wedding, when this story of a cheating suburban mom caught my eye. ...more
I love this conversation. I completely one-hundred percent understand why for MOST couples this ... more

Robin Williams' Brilliance Broke My Heart and Mended It, Again and Again

Celebrities are our Greek gods. We place them on their Olympus with great intention, collecting constellation stories from our stars, sometimes for a season and sometimes for decades. When life’s big events affect our players with marriages, births, deaths, addiction, tragedy, or crime, we take their stories in more deeply, and notice how their stories are woven fast against the cloth of our own lives. We look for ways to understand our own lives through theirs, because it can sometimes help us more than trying to look headlong into our own. ...more
This is so beautiful, and Deb, your writing and insights are so painfully brilliant. As ever and ... more

National Orgasm Day: Come One, Come All!

It's time to celebrate!!July 31 is National Orgasm Day!!Maybe.For several years now, there has been a bit of mostly online-based lore about celebrating orgasms on July 31. There was a website about it at some point, I'm sure, and we know that is all it takes these days to make a holiday real, right? The success of "Steak And Blowjob Day" is credited to the perpetuation of lore via online memes and yes, an official website. Let's just roll with it. ...more
ORGASM LAXATIVE!!!!!! Hahahahahahaha. You're the best Next to orgasms, of course. more

I Didn't Find My Tribe at BlogHer '14

I found my village. Seems that it has become pretty popular to write about, or talk about, finding one's "tribe." Finding a like-minded group to which to belong. A group that thinks in ways similar to you; or rallies around a cause or champions a segment of society. In the blogging world, seems a "tribe" can be expressed as "mom bloggers," or "food bloggers," "one-cause bloggers (i.e. breast cancer), or "women of ___" [certain ethnicity]. And there seems to be great value in this for those who belong to such. ...more
This is a really brilliant analogy and thank you for writing it! I agree that the overall ... more

Bits of Wisdom and Inspiration from BlogHer '14

We learned a lot at BlogHer '14. We laughed. We cried. We danced. We networked with brands. We made new friends. And, quite often, we sat in the audience as smart, accomplished women shared bits of their stories, bits of their journeys with us. It's that, the sharing, that always makes BlogHer such an amazing experience....more