Is There a Way to Talk to Someone Who Doesn't Believe in Racism?

Dear World: I read something from someone today that said "Racism was in the '60s. What we see today isn't racism but people who don't know how to act in the world." I wanted to cry, I want to scream at them. Then something inside me makes me just go quiet. Tell me, Dear World, is there any way, at all, to talk to people who think that? I feel like I should just give up. Signed, Heartbroken, Angry, Should I Just Stay Silent...more
Judith Liebaert Who is this "everyone in the black community" that you speak of? Take ... more

How To Adopt a Kid Without Signing Papers

Several of you asked, "What's the story behind your kid who doesn't look anything like the rest of you?" I made a phone call, asked permission, and am now laying it all out there. The short answer to the question "How To Adopt a Child Without Going to Court" is by omission: When the birth parent doesn't give a shit. Simple enough? ...more
Wow, I'm glad he found such a good friend with a strong family to embrace him. How can those ... more

8 People I Love To Hate At The Gym

I'm a sucker for those late-night weight-loss infomercials, and as a result own a library of workout DVDs and a machine that transforms into a torturous, in-home gym. At first, I enjoyed exercising on my own schedule in the privacy of my home. I wore my ratty Lycra shorts from the late 1980s and didn't care if I looked like a Richard Simmons reject....more
I laughed my butt off. I read it to my friend, and she was laughing too. Thanks for sharing the ... more

My Online Friendships are REAL Friendships

I have a good friend that said to me a few months ago, “Well, you know that this isn’t real life, right?” referring to my excitement about interactions on social media related to my blog. I quickly responded with, “Of course, I know it’s not real. I can just walk away from my computer any time.” But then I started thinking.  ...more
I agree totally. I've met some wonderful people via online. Some folks I've met IRL. Others I ... more

Blogger Beware: You CAN Get Sued For Using Photos You Don't Own on Your Blog

One of the things I learned early on was that a post with a photo always looked nicer than one with just text. So I looked at what other people were doing for pictures.  And mostly it seemed that everyone was grabbing pics from Google Images and pasting them on their sites. Sometimes with attribution, most of the time without. And when I asked others (or looked at disclaimers on websites and Tumblrs), it seemed that everyone agreed using pics that way was okay under Fair Use standards. ...more
I hope you don't mind if I add a link to your story to a blog post that I'm writing involving ... more


You know you're getting older when ...At the ripe old age of 43 (shut up), I've realized that I'm getting older....more
My body has been a really <strikeout>witch</strikeout> bitch to me, so feeling oaf ... more

Who Says Plus-Sized Women Can't Have Dating Standards?

My best guy friend recentlybrought to my attention that there are a number of disrespectful, aesthetically-brainwashed imbeciles in the world who believe overweight women must adhere to a certain dating protocol.  This, of course, differs from that by which women who have been deemed “attractive” by the standards of society abide. I learned this when he lamented an essay-length text message he received from one of his flings. The texts were about his tendency to only contact her outside of regular business hours and his lack of invitations for any public outings. ...more
I think that what some people need to realize is the issue of being attracted to the big girl ... more

Remember to Hit Publish Today

Where is your voice? Is it missing from the blogosphere? Are you having trouble accessing it? Are all your thoughts feeling dull and grey like cement, unable to flow anymore? Alphabet Salad asks this vital question that every writer should ask herself in a brief poem, imploring us to stop leaving drafts unpublished. ...more
I hit publish today. I was feeling irritated with the world around me and wrote this ... more

The Finale of Groundbreaking Show The Fosters: Brilliant Casting!

From 1998 to 2002, a TV series called Any Day Now captured my devoted attention. It starred Annie Potts as Mary Elizabeth (M.E.) Sims and Lorraine Toussant as Rene Jackson. The two grew up together in Birmingham, Alabama in the 1960's. Despite their difference in race and the upheavals and violence of the civil rights movement swirling all around them in Birmingham, they were best friends. I'm happy to see Potts and Toussant together again in The Fosters, which sees its season finale Aug. 5. ...more
I loved Any Day Now! It was such an honest show. Sometime the issues they'd tackle would just ... more

Should I Blog or Should I Write?

When I met you at a recent party and you told me that you needed to take a break from Facebook because it was interfering with your real life, it gave me occasion to pause and think. Of course, you don’t know that I have a blog, but your situation seemed dangerously like mine, but with a twist.  Ever since I started blogging, I’ve stopped writing. ...more
It's hard to try to find that balance...I haven't yet. Yesterday, I was determined to get some ... more