How People See You When You're Big and Black

I’m big, I’m black, and I’ve become well aware of how those things shape the way people see me, what they assume about me, and how they treat me. On Being Big My first vivid memories of body shame came in fourth grade. At nine, I was tall and chubby. Kids were constantly jumping on me for piggyback rides without permission. I guess they assumed I could handle their weight. They thought it was fun. I hated it. ...more
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Dear 'Unapologetically Fattist' Daily Mail Writer: I Am Unapologetically Human

The average newborn is 7.5 pounds. I came into the world at 10 pounds, so you might say I’ve been a Plus Size Princess since the beginning. I was eight when I began feeling bigger than the other girls. I was 12 when my pediatrician wrinkled her nose and bluntly told my mother that I was fat. I’ve been dieting, losing weight … and gaining more back ever since. ...more
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Plus Size Prom & Formal Dresses

Two of my Plus Size Princesses recently asked me about plus size formal dresses. Naomi is looking for a prom dress, and Rose is on the hunt for plus size wedding guest dresses (so am I!). Their emails got me thinking about how hard it is to find trendy, plus size formal dresses, especially if you’re on a budget. So I grabbed a few of my blogger boos of different shapes, sizes, and styles, and we created a plus size formal look book for you, with ideas for prom and other fancy events. ...more
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To the XOJane Writer of "There Are No Black People In My Yoga Class"

This is my my response to Jen Caron's post on yesterday, called "IT HAPPENED TO ME: THERE ARE NO BLACK PEOPLE IN MY YOGA CLASSES AND I’M SUDDENLY FEELING UNCOMFORTABLE WITH IT." Here is an excerpt of what she wrote: ...more
Wow!  That was about the most powerful post I've read in a long time.  I was moved by your ...more

Big Girls DO Work Out: The Plus Size Princess Fitness Challenge!

I was 12 years old when I found out I was fat. I say "found out" because I was truly unaware. I stepped on the scale in my pediatrician's office and she moved that big black box to one set of numbers... then another. I climbed onto the doctor's table, feeling the nevereneding roll of tissue paper crinkle beneath me. Instead of continuing with my physical, my doctor launched into a speech about my weight. ...more
The West Coast Judo Training Center is having an Open Conditioning Workout next Sunday (March ...more