I Don't Breastfeed, I Pump

When it comes to discussing why I didn't breastfeed my child, I will happily tell my story to anyone who will listen. In fact, I've written several articles about exclusively pumping, and I've loved all of the support and advice that I've received over the years. Image: chrismc2011...more
I didn't breastfeed my kids and I don't feel jeleous or angry and not being able to but what I ... more

Should It Be Legal To Take Your Placenta Home From the Hospital? 

Whether you do or do not want to eat your placenta, it's hardly a new concept. By now, most moms know at least one other mom who saved and ingested their placenta after birth, and in some states, this has become a legally recognized right. Beginning in 2016, Texas will join Oregon and Hawaii as the third state to pass a law that allows a woman to take home her placenta from the hospital....more
Isn't that funny that in my country of New Zealand you can do what ever you want with your ... more

Dating While Pansexual

I'm queer.It's an ongoing conversation with myself. As I learn more about the woman I am-- likes, dislikes, the kinds of relationships I want, and the politics I embody-- the clearer my self-portrait becomes. My queerness is not the sole factor through which I am defined or viewed, of course; it is so deeply ingrained in who i am but it is not some "difference", the way a lot of straight (and queer) ppl view being not hetero....more
Hmmmm I didn't get that from her at all. I thought it meant she is attracted to the persons ... more

Count Me Out: I'm Done with the Disgusting Duggar Spin Machine

Last night Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar appeared on Fox News to explain their actions as parents and as stars of the TLC  show 19 Kids and Counting and to talk about their son Josh Duggar's admission that he molested five underage girls. Josh Duggar's known victims include a babysitter and four of his sisters.  ...more
A psychologist I spoke to once told me to never ever leave my children with a teenage boy, ... more

27 Things You Know If You're From A Small Town

Roundabouts are actually just four-way stops."Traffic" is having to wait an extra second or two to pull out onto a busy street. People don't honk to be rude, they usually just want to say hello....more
I moved from a city to a small town and agree with this too! The things that shock me the most ... more

Should We Be Applauding the Baltimore Mom Who Beat Her Rioting Son?

Am I the only person in America who is having a little problem with this? Image Credit: WMAR Please understand, I am NOT bashing this mother. I am sure she loves her son and was concerned for his safety and his future. I'm not accusing her of abuse, or saying that her parenting caused her son to be a rioter, or advocating that he be removed from her care....more
No of course your not being critical! I get what you mean as in how we get told all the time how ... more

What's Happening in Baltimore Is About More Than Freddie Gray

I won't condone violence against police or peaceful protesters. I can't....more
Great post. Just out of curiosity how long and how easy is it to become a cop in America? Im the ... more

Should We Be Applauding the Baltimore Mom Who Beat Her Rioting Son?

Am I the only person in America who is having a little problem with this? Image Credit: WMAR Please understand, I am NOT bashing this mother. I am sure she loves her son and was concerned for his safety and his future. I'm not accusing her of abuse, or saying that her parenting caused her son to be a rioter, or advocating that he be removed from her care....more
I totally get where you are coming from but the way I look at it is that in that moment the ... more

Can You Even Help Your Kids Gain Independence Today?

The other day, Sam, Alrik, and I wanted to head out to the playground—and Mikko didn't. Now, the playground is literally a block from our home. Mikko is seven years old, nearly eight, and perfectly capable of amusing himself and retrieving drinks or snacks as needed in a short absence of parental supervision. But we knew we couldn't leave him home alone, and told him as much. "But whhhyyyy?" he asked. Indeed, kiddo, why? Because the neighbors might call the cops on us, that's why. ...more
In New Zealand where I live it is 14, but it isn't strict, you just need to be reasonable as no ... more

Why I Told My Daughter She Didn't Have to Go to College

"I'm not sure I want to go to college," my daughter said to me. I guess the look on my face made it pretty clear what I thought of that, and she hastily amended it with, "For the first year, I mean." "You want to take a year off?" I clarified. "Yeah. I just don't think I need to start right away." I chewed my lip, considering my words carefully. ...more
I actually want my daughter to take a year off before going to university. Not that I have said ... more