the elephant in our relationship

Dear Friend, I had a great time today. I really did. It was great to talk and catch up and laugh. There is only one thing I wish I could have told you. When you completely ignore the fact that we are adopting, it makes things so awkward. I know you know. I told you we were. When I was pregnant, we talked all things baby. You were so excited for me. We talked about baby clothes. We talked about losing sleep. We talked about names. You told me how happy you were for me. ...more

 Though in my case it was talking about the infertility problems and life complications of an ... more

It's lonely out here: planning for a natural childbirth

Who knew we were such a nation of drug pushers? Here is the conversation I am having at least once a day, with moms and non-moms alike. Them: “Are you taking childbirth classes”? Me: “Yes, I’m taking hypnobirthing. I want to have a natural childbirth.” Them: “Good luck with that (wink wink). Or, “Yeah I did too, you’ll get over it.” Or: “You’re nuts! Take the drugs”! ...more

That's what I mean by we get to choose how we respond, not how it goes. The same is true with ... more

It's lonely out here: planning for a natural childbirth

Who knew we were such a nation of drug pushers? Here is the conversation I am having at least once a day, with moms and non-moms alike. Them: “Are you taking childbirth classes”? Me: “Yes, I’m taking hypnobirthing. I want to have a natural childbirth.” Them: “Good luck with that (wink wink). Or, “Yeah I did too, you’ll get over it.” Or: “You’re nuts! Take the drugs”! ...more

My Hypnobirthing instructor had a really painful birth with her daughter - even a slight head ... more

It's lonely out here: planning for a natural childbirth

Who knew we were such a nation of drug pushers? Here is the conversation I am having at least once a day, with moms and non-moms alike. Them: “Are you taking childbirth classes”? Me: “Yes, I’m taking hypnobirthing. I want to have a natural childbirth.” Them: “Good luck with that (wink wink). Or, “Yeah I did too, you’ll get over it.” Or: “You’re nuts! Take the drugs”! ...more

Natural is tending more and more to mean vaginal under whatever conditions, where meds-free ... more

It's lonely out here: planning for a natural childbirth

Who knew we were such a nation of drug pushers? Here is the conversation I am having at least once a day, with moms and non-moms alike. Them: “Are you taking childbirth classes”? Me: “Yes, I’m taking hypnobirthing. I want to have a natural childbirth.” Them: “Good luck with that (wink wink). Or, “Yeah I did too, you’ll get over it.” Or: “You’re nuts! Take the drugs”! ...more

The rate of 'save the baby' (where baby actually would have been injured or died otherwise) ... more

It's lonely out here: planning for a natural childbirth

Who knew we were such a nation of drug pushers? Here is the conversation I am having at least once a day, with moms and non-moms alike. Them: “Are you taking childbirth classes”? Me: “Yes, I’m taking hypnobirthing. I want to have a natural childbirth.” Them: “Good luck with that (wink wink). Or, “Yeah I did too, you’ll get over it.” Or: “You’re nuts! Take the drugs”! ...more

Hypnobirthing rocks, IMHO. Granted, I am total poster-child for it (zero pain, with pitocin, ... more

Mom, I really need to talk to you... call me back.

Six weeks ago, I plucked my iPhone from the charger at 7:30am and found a voicemail from my oldest daughter, Jenn. Oops, the ringer was off and it was still in the bedroom. Happens more often than you'd think. Who calls at 7am??? Lots of people. I listened to the voicemail and all I really heard was "Call me back, I really need to talk to you." I hate it when my kids say "I really need to talk to you." It's never good news. From the tone of her voice, I guessed two things - either she's pregnant or she's getting married... ...more

If my daughters (or sons) choose a path very different from what I believe... I'm kind of ... more

Trick-or-Treating: Entrance to the Gaping Maw of Evil or Harmless Fun?

It's hard for me to write about Halloween, because my mother hates this holiday with the heat of a thousand suns. She considers it to be a pagan holiday and Against God. So not only did we have that against us, my sister and I also lived in the middle of nowhere, surrounded by our equally religious grandparents and aunts and uncles and corn. (And she will probably be mad that I am writing about her, but I must include her in order to explain my ambivalence about Halloween. Sorry, Ma. I love you.) ...more

I think the fun of Halloween is the rule-breaking. 

You get to ask for candy from ... more

What's in a Name? And Could Yours Cost You a Job?

As a producer for a conference company, I conduct a lot of research for program ideas and most recently, for potential speakers. I had tracked down an environmental lawyer that specialzes in the topic that my conference was on and went online to try and get her contact information. Because of her name, it was unclear what her cultural / ethnic background was - which was not really important, anyway - but I was a bit surprised when I saw a picture of her on her law firm's website after I googled her and a number of hits came up. ...more

Code switching being the linguistic behavior of making near-automatic or automatic changes in ... more

Consumer Reports: high-tech births=poor outcomes

Consumer Reports isn't just for researching your next car purchase or washing machine anymore. That's right, that longtime resource for product reviews has broadened its scope to include health and wellness. In a recent article Consumer Reports tackles the topic of childbirth, concluding that "Too many doctors and hospitals are overusing high-tech procedures." ...more

yay for shopping for childbirth methods and approach in the same logical comparison model as ... more