Classes Parents *Should* Take

It was a good 5 minutes or so before I realized that the reason the grilled cheese sandwich wasn't cooking was because I never turned on the burner. Usually it's the other way around -- I turn it up high to heat it up fast, then burn the damn thing because I am flitting around the kitchen to one distraction or another: put milk in sippies, Cheerios for baby, put away 3, no make that 4 dishes, why are there crumbs all over the counter, where are the paper towels, don't throw the grapes on the floor, OH CRAP THE GRILLED CHEESE IS BURNING! Kinda like that. ...more

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Mealtime Matters 101: Don't Complain and Other Rules

There was a discussion on twitter the other night.  A mom was frustrated with her daughter’s complaints at the dinner table. I immediately piped up, because I know everything about parenting, and added my two cents.  “Complaining ends the meal.”  Simple -- she complains, the meal is over for her. DONE. ...more

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Did He Cheat?

I was in a very long line at Whole Foods, having stopped in after work to pick up what would pass for dinner. The “express” line was the longest line I’ve ever seen in my entire life, so I got in the regular line even though I only had a couple of things. A few minutes in, I heard a deep voice behind me: “It must be my lucky day to stand in line behind the woman who can rock those boots”. It was a little cheesy but when I turned around I liked the way he looked, I forgave him. ...more

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The Mother Goose Code

Somehow my children's pediatrician and I recently got to discussing the origins of "Ring Around the Rosie." Anyhoo, he seemed kind of surprised that I knew it was about the Bubonic Plague and it got me to wondering: What other nursery rhymes have a deeper, darker meaning behind them? ...more

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Who Cares if Abortion Is Legal if It Is Inaccessible?

My anti-choice friends in Kansas (bloody, bloody Kansas...) are proposing all sorts of exciting new restrictions on abortion, according to The Huffington Post, supposedly to discourage any doctor from performing second trimester abortions. Nearby, (as I mentioned last week) Nebraska introduced legislation to ban dispensing RU-486 via telemedicine, a common way to bring health care to rural areas. So one state doesn't want women to have early, non-surgical abortion access and the other doesn't want them to have access to legal abortions later. I see. ...more

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Undercover Working Mother: Why I Wear Jeans to the Doc

As I was getting dressed this morning, Hubbie and I were discussing the plan for the day.  The one that involved a doctor’s appointment, a sick child, one who needed to get to the school bus and then of course ballet after school.  When I finally said I had to run, he looked at me and asked why I was wearing jeans.  A reasonable question since it’s the middle of the week and my office is notoriously dressy.  ...more

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Dealing With Annoying People at Christmas

People can be so annoying during the Christmas season. These are the folks who, like Glenn Beck, seem to find The Death of Western Civilization hiding behind every store clerk who wishes them "Happy Holidays" instead of "Merry Christmas." To help you spot people like this, I've compiled a handy little list. Once you can identify them on your own, how about offering them some spiked eggnog? You know, to help them relax. ...more

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Monday Morning Flow Chart

6:50 Stir porridge whilst listening to child laying Lego weapons down, declaring peace for all Lego eternity. DO NOT TURN ON COMPUTER, instead sing 60’s anti war ballad “Last night I had the strangest dream.” Child hums, sways, nods knowingly. ...more

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Thoughts on Being A "Pretty Fat Girl"

Now, this isn’t the first time that this has happened to me. The “but you’ve got such a pretty face” write-off. As if my face discounts the size of my body, or my life-long struggle with weight. As if we are existing in some sort of hierarchy of fatness, where pretty faces sit at the top and everyone else has more of a right to hate their bodies than, let's say, I do. ...more

You know what, I'm five foot two and 216, and celebrating a recent 10 pound weight loss. It's ... more

My Most Difficult Blogging Moment

I still remember the shock of it all, and how very personally I took it. I had told myself that it wouldn’t happen to me, that I wasn’t that type. Those kinds of things happened to others, the other kind of people. And, if it did happen to me, I wouldn’t be affected. Other kinds of people were pulled into that, but I’m not other kinds of people. I’m solid and rock steady and sure of myself. Turns out I was that other kind of people. ...more

You know what? People are entitled to their opinions. And it's hard, but I try to take in ... more