susan mernit

Susan Mernit is a consultant with a practice focused on hyperlocal news,... read more

The Renovation Relationship

I'm a real fixer, lining up and dating these guys like they were so many houses to paint and rewire, then turn over to new owners, making a tidy profit in social capital. I was going to make them better, you see, so when I left, they'd know it was okay, because they were in pretty good shape. But is there really a way I can fix this man enough that he won't be shattered when I leave -- or is that just one of the in-denial, rationalizing lies I tell myself? ...more
Hi, Susan.  Speaking as a member of the less fair gender, I can promise you that men are ...more

The Renovation Relationship

I'm a real fixer, lining up and dating these guys like they were so many houses to paint and rewire, then turn over to new owners, making a tidy profit in social capital. I was going to make them better, you see, so when I left, they'd know it was okay, because they were in pretty good shape. But is there really a way I can fix this man enough that he won't be shattered when I leave -- or is that just one of the in-denial, rationalizing lies I tell myself? ...more
Hi, Susan.  Speaking as a member of the less fair gender, I can promise you that men are ...more

My Boyfriend Is Making Me Fat!

It's completely his fault, what with his constant cooking of delicious food and his regular exercising that allows him to eat so much deliciousness with abandon. Including desert. Certainly it's not *my* fault, the one who actually controls my hands and my mouth and my schedule. Oh, my South Beach Diet, where have you gone and how did I ever let you go? Pasta and potatoes, you are my most hated enemy. One I have been consuming with alarming regularity lately. ...more

A lot of people get fat when they get married, and you guys are putting it on while in ...more

Masturbation: Does your partner know you masturbate?

So, do you do it?  Pet the mouse, comfort the kitten, make with your muffin, play with the little man in the boat, dive for the pearl, pleasure yourself. And if you’re in a relationship with someone else, possibly a fella, do you do it when he’s around, or just by your lone self?   Is this a hey, this is hot come and watch, kind of thing, or is it a “Damn, I’m tired and need to put myself to sleep,” kind of thing? ...more

I'm a female who's been on the accusatory side of the scenario you describe.

Much love, ...more

Would you come out as bi?

When the singer Pink came out as bisexual last week and I read the news, I was sitting in my home office with A, working on edit plans for a client. “This is amazing,” I said to him. “Pink said she’s into guys—and girls.” “That’s cool,” he replied, working on his database research. ...more

I have known I was bi sexual as soon as soon as I was old enough to understand sexuality. I have ...more

Would you come out as bi?

When the singer Pink came out as bisexual last week and I read the news, I was sitting in my home office with A, working on edit plans for a client. “This is amazing,” I said to him. “Pink said she’s into guys—and girls.” “That’s cool,” he replied, working on his database research. ...more

I have known I was bi sexual as soon as soon as I was old enough to understand sexuality. I have ...more

Are past loves like past lives? Can you revisit them? --And what can they tell you?

Although I doubt I had a past life as an Egyptian princess or a cousin to Dorothy Parker, I have no doubt that the people I love and am close to now share traits with those from the past. ...more

SAll ears when you are ready,

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I'm Taking the Hunger Pledge, Won't You?

It's hard times.  As our nation's needs soar, and charitable donations plunge, it is taking its toll on the nonprofit sector.  Foodbanks, soup kitchens, and many other nonprofits that address the hunger issue are being hit by a triple whammy.  Cash and food donations are dropping,  budgets are being cut, and with unemployment rising there is more demand than ever at food banks.  ...more

Great cause and a well-designed effort. Was happy to post ...more

10 Years from now -- where is your happiness?

Ah, the imagination! The imagination gives us the ability to see ourselves in any circumstance, any wild and wonderful scenario, either in the world or out of it. It can take us on the "future trip" of all time, spinning our reality around until it is only vaguely recognizable. Look at how easily children create new realities to enjoy with their supple imaginations. Cardboard boxes can become snow forts, and a comfy chair can instantly become an ancient regal throne. The bathtub can become a formidable pirate's ship, all decked out for navigating the perils and adventures of the high seas. ...more

the measurement of what wil make us happy changes too. I hear ya on that one!!!

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Love in the Time of Layoffs, or One Works, the Other doesn't

 For many of the people I know, it’s as if, all of a sudden, the bubble burst and their income—or their credit—took a nose dive. Formerly employed writers are on food stamps, caterers are taking in roommates, and people are assessing what they have—jewelry, vacation rentals, artwork—that they can afford to sell without losing too much of their former profits. ...more

I've just voluntarily gone down to four days a week - and ...more