Politics and Religion are Destroying My Family

This morning, I grieve the loss of my brother. Someone I love fiercely. Someone I believed always had my back and was there for me more times than I can count. Someone I would have done anything for. Instead, it would seem that the hammer of politics and religion packs too strong a punch and the damages left by its blows are proving to be too hard to rebuild. Or at least I think that’s what he thinks. Because I really don’t know. We’ve never discussed it.Religion can divide us so easily. It can be used to slash and burn foundations....more
God, your post hit me like a bullet to the heart. Raw and wise. I also have refrained from ... more

Beneath a Cloudless Sky: Believing in Change

Shortly after we moved into our house in 1996, Luisa and I hung a rainbow flag off the front of our house.  It felt like staking a claim - we were creating a home together - and every day I'd come home from work and smile as I saw that flag fluttering in the wind. And then one day, we came home to find that the flag had been burned. ...more
This haunting post reaffirms the power we have to remember our connection to each other. Thank ... more


After successfully completing four full months of NaBloPoMo - January through April of this year - I automatically and without much thought or consideration signed up for daily writing throughout the month of May as well. Now I'm not so sure I should have done so. ...more
I can feel your creativity in reading this post. Connect to what you love, what makes your ... more

So Just Dance For Me

Ahh, the sunshine the snowcones the roar of the crowd. There's nothing like a warm summer's day enjoying a lively baseball game. Do you like the songs the players pick to be played as they are introduced and walk up to the plate?...more

I love the songs that make me move and your toe tapping. Thanks for telling me ... more

The $100 Question: Tell Amy from Doobleh-Vay What Says Summer To You?

Welcome to The $100 Question, where fellow BlogHers are asking questions ... and every answer could be worth one hundred dollars! Let's meet today's host: Amy from Doobleh-Vay ...more

Running barefoot through the sprinkler and drying in the warm sun says summer to me. more

The $100 Question: Tell Susan From Between Naps on the Porch What You Would Do if You Could Not Fail

Welcome to The $100 Question, where fellow BlogHers are asking questions ... and every answer could be worth one hundred dollars! Let's meet today's host: Susan from Between Naps on the Porch ...more

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(You're) Just Fine. Fine, Fine, Fine, Fine!

Hats off to Mary J. Blige for the lyrics of her song, Just Fine*, because they capture the way I’ve come to feel about my physical self in these middle years. Mary J. sings this song, I mean she “sangs it” (as we say in the Black community when somebody really sings). All of the lyrics are wonderful, but I particularly like this refrain: “So I like what I see when I’m looking at me When I’m walking past the mirror No stress through the night, at a time in my life Ain’t worried about if you feel it Got my head on straight, I got my mind right ...more

Love this post, the song, the lyrics and video.  Beats the hell out of ... more

Help! I'm Addicted To An Angry Whopper.

Is there a such thing as "healthy" fast food? I think if you work hard at it, it is possible to eat healthy at some fast food restaurants. But to do this you also have to find the willpower to see those giant pictures of burgers and fries all around, and still choose to buy the less attractive healthy item. It's not always easy, and recently it's become a real problem for me. ...more

I have been soooooo tempted to try that Angry Whopper since it has the peppers and the fire I ... more

While My Friends Have Kids, I Remain Happy and Child-Free

I’m getting older. In just a little over a year, I’ll no longer be in my 20s. As my female friends grow up along with me, and I meet new ladies around my age, it’s inevitable that more and more of these women are starting to have children. While I’m never surprised at their choice and I’m always happy for them, there’s also the knowledge that things will inevitably be different. ...more

You remind me of a friend I had a while back.  She was married and didn't want kids and she ... more

Why middle-aged beauty is only skin deep

As a seasoned female journalist in her early fifties, I’ve been wondering what it really means to age gracefully. These days, the terms “anti-aging” and “age-defying” are used to market products to women who are barely out of high school.  Every night on television, celebrities who aren’t a day over 35 are touting the wonders of wrinkle creams, facial peels, and under-eye serums. Even in the glossy fashion magazines and catalogs targeted to my own demographic, I rarely see images of mature women that resemble my middle-aged face or body.   ...more

I applaud your honesty, courage and humor in approaching this controversy. Thank you ... more