When Loss is Followed By Loss: From My Mother's Death to My Brother's Death

I had previously written a piece on my mum's journey with dementia, how it destroyed her and stole parts of me. The piece was a featured blog on BlogHer and I was humbled. I just wrote it to get the pain and hurt out and to share with anyone who was going through the same. Then five weeks and three days later, my baby brother, 49, died tragically, suddenly and in a twinkling of an eye, my life changed forever. ...more
I'm so sorry for your staggering losses. more

Online ROI: What to Do When You Only Have So Many Hours to Spend Online

One of the first things you learn in the business world is the term "ROI," or "return on investment." In other words, how much benefit do you get from each individual action you take toward achieving your goals?...more
CherylK thanks! more

Admit It: You've Been Watching Crap TV and It's Saving Your Life Right Now

Have you been finding yourself watching junk television like a kid with a freshly filled Halloween pumpkin?  You are not alone. I've been watching crap and loving it. And we are not alone. Lately, when I've chatted with some of my smartest, most literate and most dialed-in friends, many of whom pay for multiple streaming platforms and premium cable and all of who have incredible taste, more likely than not they've confessed to binging on really bad television.  ...more
I had not heard of more than half of these shows, which is perfect as my husband starts ... more

Girl. Woman. Girl. Girl. Girl. Girl.

She was 14, maybe. Her mom or caregiver yanked her by the arm, and hissed, "What is wrong with you?" ...more
OMG, how did I miss this the first time? This is so real. more

I'm Single and Childless and You Don't Want My Christmas Card

The other day, I had a bit of spare time on my hands and was feeling quite antsy. My sister asked: “Why don’t you write your Christmas cards?” I busted out laughing. “Single people without children don’t write Christmas cards.” I then went on to explain what said Christmas card might look like: Me by myself smiling at the camera. The letter? Dear So-and So,...more
BlondieTales Rita Arens I wanted to put one of him with his cone, but Greg said we had to let ... more

I'm Single and Childless and You Don't Want My Christmas Card

The other day, I had a bit of spare time on my hands and was feeling quite antsy. My sister asked: “Why don’t you write your Christmas cards?” I busted out laughing. “Single people without children don’t write Christmas cards.” I then went on to explain what said Christmas card might look like: Me by myself smiling at the camera. The letter? Dear So-and So,...more
BlondieTales Rita Arens Little is definitely less controversial. This year Kizzy made the card. more

I'm Single and Childless and You Don't Want My Christmas Card

The other day, I had a bit of spare time on my hands and was feeling quite antsy. My sister asked: “Why don’t you write your Christmas cards?” I busted out laughing. “Single people without children don’t write Christmas cards.” I then went on to explain what said Christmas card might look like: Me by myself smiling at the camera. The letter? Dear So-and So,...more
I do have to point out that when I was single, I sent morose anti-capitalism poems to my friends ... more

Why I Drive An Ugly Car

My car, a 2002 Honda Civic EX coupe, is ugly. While I would prefer the ugliness to be less pronounced, it's over 13 years old. It’s reliable, rarely needs repairs, the insurance is cheap, and since I bought it with cash over eight years ago, I've never had a monthly payment....more
Good for you! I drive a 1998 Chrysler Sebring. One of the side mirrors is held on with black ... more

Was It Good For You? My Love Affair With Romance Novels

What makes a book "good" or "bad?" I was an English major in college, so technically I know the answer to that question, but when you really get right down to it, how does one determine whether a book is a worthy of someone's time? Whether or not it is "good" for them to be reading it? My 13-year-old daughter came home from school upset recently because her English teacher said she needed to bring a book with her to read during free reading time.  ...more
My friend who sat next to me in fourth grade taught me about blow jobs using the spelling list. ... more

My Kid Was Happy Once, Too

I see you. The self-assured parent with the happy, carefree child. I see the look on your face change when I answer the question of why my kid is in the hospital. You think I don't see it or notice it, but I do. It's a mix of pity, concern, and judgement. It's a look that says, "This would never happen to my kid." It's a look I've gotten used to seeing over the past few months. ...more
I am so, so sorry your daughter is going through this. I had an eating disorder as a teen and ... more