The Girl Who Wanted To Be A Boy

Disclaimer:  I realize this is a sensitive subject for many.  Please, understand this was not written with a heart of condemnation, but rather with a heart wanting to understand. ...more
ItsAllRelative This is the most fantastically sensitive and relevant response to a post like ... more

Fifty Shades of Grey... Oops!

Months and months ago, when the world started buzzing about 50 Shades of Grey, Sassymonkey said to me, "I sure hope some mom doesn't get confused and buy Fifty Shades of Grey for her kid, thinking it's Between Shades of Gray." I laughed and said I ...more
Yeah, I accidentally read it. more

Beyoncé at the Super Bowl: Empowered or Objectified?

Given that Super Bowl halftime is all about the spectacle and almost never about the music—hence the ridiculous stages with crazy technical features like last night’s pop-up screen that showed the audience multiple Beyoncés all at once—I figured that even if I didn’t like the music, I could witness the spectacle and maybe learn more about why Beyoncé is such a dominant force in music. On that score, I’m somewhat conflicted. ...more
C'mon now.  A beautiful, powerful black mother gets up on a stage full of women from around the ... more

Do You Want Guns in Schools? The NRA Does

After a week of what was thought to be respectful, even remorseful, silence on the Sandy Hook Elementary School mass shootings, the NRA took to the podium this morning, with… shall we say, both barrels blazing. National Rifle Association leader Wayne LaPierre addressed the media in Washington D.C. with the message that the only way to keep our children safe is to put armed security guards in schools....more
@Lucy's Reality No. Gun control needs to be revisited while we're angry and hurt and passionate. ... more

Would You Let Your Mother (or Mother-in-Law) Watch Your Child's Birth?

I invited my mother-in-law to come to one of the numerous ultrasounds we had of the twins back when we were pregnant. I felt like it was only fair since I not only invited my mother to come to a few appointments, but I would have been personally crushed if my mother hadn't taken me up on the offer. I was a new mum-to-be after a long time of waiting to become a new mum-to-be, and if my mother had shared in the crappiness of infertility with us, I wanted her there to celebrate in the joy of impending parenthood with us. ...more

Ugh. Not my father. My husband. That kind of makes a difference ;) more

Would You Let Your Mother (or Mother-in-Law) Watch Your Child's Birth?

I invited my mother-in-law to come to one of the numerous ultrasounds we had of the twins back when we were pregnant. I felt like it was only fair since I not only invited my mother to come to a few appointments, but I would have been personally crushed if my mother hadn't taken me up on the offer. I was a new mum-to-be after a long time of waiting to become a new mum-to-be, and if my mother had shared in the crappiness of infertility with us, I wanted her there to celebrate in the joy of impending parenthood with us. ...more

I gave birth at home. I had my father, my mother-in-law, my midwife, another midwife I hadn't ... more

“Abortion Doulas” Take a Job Few Others Will

Here's an idea that is, I think, long overdue: doulas for women who are having abortions. ...more

Women should be comforted and supported through all the phases of their reproductive ... more

I Do NOT Want To See John Edwards Have Sex

Editor's note: John and Elizabeth Edwards confirmed their legal separation today, with John calling it "extraordinarily sad." Well, duh. I'm not terribly shocked -- are you? Tell me in the comments. ...more

I have no interest in watching this, and I definitely don't even want to hear about it.  ... more

You are Perfect Just As You Are.

I learned of Operation Beautiful last week, and reacted with such a glowing buzz of love for the world that I asked to step away from my normal beat and draw the world of BlogHer into its positive embrace.  As I sat down to begin writing, however, I realized this would not go where I thought it was going.  Buckle your seatbelts, we're in for a bumpy ride.  ...more

If I found one of these I would take it at face value: someone random trying to brighten my ... more

Official Head Count: Who's Going to be there this Weekend?

So we have a time and a place now we just need to know how many are going to be at the Don Mills Brickworks this Saturday June 6th between 10 and 12pm. Catherine and I (Katie) will both be there with the offspring in tow, so don't hesitate to bring the kids if that's a deciding factor.